This, to me, might wind up being one of my bigger struggles. I love and adore my Mom, and yet still manage to mess uon a regular basis, but for my dad we have a rocky history. He use to be abusive both emotionally and physically to my mother (when I was very young) and mostly emotionally abusive to my sister and myself, though occasionally it did get physical. He was completely unpredictable and prone to fits of rage and mania. Unfortunately I still have yet to completely forgive him for it and it is something I desperately need to overcome. Compound the fact that I live with them through an equal mix of my own massive flaws and circumstances, and it is even worse. But none of what I said is the point. God is God and if he says respect your parents that is absolute, but as others have pointed out abuse is one of the most apparant forms of evil out there, so stand up for yourself when reason. Obediance doesn't mean blindly submit constantly. Parents are no less faillable than another other human. It means doing what they say when no abuse is apparant I would imagine. So basically yeah obey your parents but if you have a father or mother who is actively destroying you reach out. We are all children of God and you are worth just as much as any one of us.