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Is it morally and spiritually right for men to do the babything at home while the wives work to take care of the family?
Is such a man the man Jesus talks about is worst than an infidel?
 
I don't see a problem, usually. in some families, women earn enough for that to happen. if the dad worked, a lot of his pay would end up being taken out for child care and such.

I do see how it could create conflict, though. even today, men are expected to be the primary earners in marriages. even if the couple is doing well and they do not see a problem, community and social pressures could (I would think...) potentially cause stress and conflict.

my best guess is that the social pressures on the couple--the man, in particular-- might be more intense in a lot church settings than in the world at large. Just a guess, but...yeah; here where I live, at least, Protestant Christians tend to be to the right of most people, so I could see "church people" causing stress in the family unit, through their ideology and outlook.

probably varies, case by case. I had an acquaintance in public school who had a "stay at home dad," but his dad had done the corporate thing, made his $$$, and then the family bought a place around here. the wife did high dollar real estate, so...w/ that kind of $$$ and status, nobody ever gave him a hard time about it.
 
Some men make better househusbands than their wives who are excellent income generators.

Women today have equal rights and standing in the workplace. (Unlike biblical days)

Women are generally better caregivers than men but not always.
Men are supposed to lead (and not boss). That can not be codified by anyone.
 
Is it morally and spiritually right for men to do the babything at home while the wives work to take care of the family?
Is such a man the man Jesus talks about is worst than an infidel?

Not necessarily...

It is morally and spiritually right for men to do whatever is right in their current capacity to take care of the family.

That's what is called for, right there.

When I first got married, I thought about this and told my Wife that she did not ever have to work and get a job. That it was my responsibility to pay all the bills. And that if she chose to work, that was her money and she could keep it and do what she want's with it. And I stuck to it too. She didn't choose to get a job for herself until the kids were pushing 10 years old. I reminded her the position I had on the subject, and I'm sure she appreciated it. But I did more than pay the bills and care for the entire family. Even when she was working...I caught her on her payday one time and asked her if she got a nice check? I'm sure she thought uh-oh here it comes! Lol. That was my intention...:hysterical

She cautiously said, yes a good check this week...and went silent expecting the punch line, lol! That wasn't the only time I gave her money, just one of the more memorable ones.

So I said, I had a good week too and handed her 1500 dollars for her to play with. We had just finished a new house ductwork system and I had done an A/C change out in the same week, so things were good. I didn't want to use her having her own job as a reason to not give her any extra money. I had promised her, and wanted to deliver, no matter if she was already flush. That's my girl!

As the economy continued to slide, I was short a few times and she pitched right in like a champ. She has a good heart.

I know a couple in Colorado where she works and he is a stay at home daddy. He did have a good job, but the owner of the company died and the business was closed. This friend is about 75% illiterate. He would need help even filling out an application. So she went to work and wins the bread for them. It seems to work ok for them. He does do what he can and I respect that.
 
But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God. 1 Timothy 5:4 KJV

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8 KJV
 
Is it morally and spiritually right for men to do the babything at home while the wives work to take care of the family?
Is such a man the man Jesus talks about is worst than an infidel?

Being a homemaker is considerably more than "babysitting." Making a home is an extremely demanding, full-time occupation and is every bit as much "taking care of the family" and "providing for his own" as earning an income. A family with a "stay at home Dad" is infinitely better than one with "no parents at home," which is the reality in far too many households. If the reality is that the woman wishes to be and is capable of being the income-earner, the father who is willing to stay home and do the parenting should be applauded. I believe women are in general genetically predisposed and more capable of fulfilling the homemaker role, but this is not true in every case.
 
The Proverbs 31 wife worked in and outside of the home.
If it's good for the goose it's good for the gander.
 
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