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Ok, so here is the deal. I wasn't going to share this with you but I really had to know. What exactly is marriage? Does it really matter if it's official in the state or official in the heart? I had to know because most of you if not all of you already know that I have been engaged to my high school sweetheart who is currently behind bars for a crime he didn't commit. Anyway, I'm sort of ashamed to admit this but neither of us waited for sex since we had it for the first time after we graduated. On one hand, I've been kicking myself for sinning and praying to God that He'll forgive me, but on the other hand, we already know how much we love each other and that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Not to mention that we both are mentally handicapped and when it's time for us to leave home, we won't be able to afford a wedding right away and I'm not even sure where we'll be able to live my fiancee being a convicted felon then. We both desperately want to obey the Lord, but we're also madly in love and we want to act upon our feelings. So that brings up the question, what exactly is marriage anyway? We both have been very faithful to each other and at some point we are going to settle down together and get married and have a family. But do you really have to say "I do" to know that we're already a hundred percent committed to each other or to have rings on our fingers. I guess the most important question is, what is God's definition of marriage? Please don't hate on me for this.

Edit, please move this thread to marriage sorry my mistake.
 
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Ask your self what would GOD say ?

My idea on this is ......... Find a preacher and ask him if he thinks it would be all right if he married you both with out your doing
all the rest of the stuff..... so you could love each other....... Is there any reason that you can not move into his room
if this happens........? Or he into your room..... ? [ that is after getting married] Or best of all ask your parents if this would be ok with them ?
 
Ask your self what would GOD say ?

Uh, I am asking myself that. That's the whole entire point of this thread actually. I'm just not really sure what the answer is. I already feel terrible enough about committing sexual sin but at the same time not completely sure that I repented of it. Actually to be quite honest with you, I haven't. And that makes me feel even more guilty about it. But this is because I committed the act out of love and I've been really faithful to my man and have stood by him for years and he's done the same for me. I mean that's what marriage is all about anyway right? Commitment? Or do you really need an official documented contract?
 
Gods' grand design was for man to take care of the earth and have dominion over all living things. God did not want man to be alone so He created a helpmate and she was called woman. The two were to multiply and replenish the earth with more helpers to till the land and help take care of Gods creation, Genesis 1, 2.

Gods will for woman was to be a helpmate to the man in every way, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, socially and physically. She was also created to bare the generations to come. A woman was not greater or less than the man, but was his equal.

There is no place in the Bible that constitutes having to have a marriage license. Man incorporated this into the law. In the Hebrew tradition a mohar or dowry was paid to the father of the bride by the groom in exchange for the daughter, Exodus 22:16, 17. Genesis 2:23-25 explains the bond of marriage. The two are united as one in the eyes of God. Ephesians 5:22-29 wives are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord for the husband is the spiritual head of the wife. Man is the provider and protector of his family. Husbands, you are to love your wives like Christ loves his church. This is an unconditional love that looks on the inside of a person and not the adorning of the outside. It is a love with a pure heart.

This submission also carries over to the bed that neither should deprive one another unless it is a mutual consent, 1 Corinthians 7:5 the principles for the married believer are explained in 1 Corinthians 7:10-16. As long as there is love and faithfulness the two should never depart from each other nor stray away for lust of the flesh.

For a good marriage to work one should study 2 Corinthians 6:14 be ye not unequally yoked together with non-believers for what fellowship hath righteous with unrighteous, and what communion has light with darkness. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ then you need to choose a mate that also believes in the faith of Christ.

Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered. Always resolve your problems with the Holy Ghost guidance through the word and you will always have a good marriage. Always be opened and honest with each other for this builds trust in the relationship, but if that trust is broken there is no relationship. Love each other unconditionally as Christ loves us and forgives us our faults. As long as we live in this flesh we will sin at times, but when you acknowledge those sins and ask for forgiveness God will always forgive us. Always be ready to forgive each other seventy times seven, Matthew 22:21,22, and not only forgive, but forget the sin as God remembers our sins no more when we repent of them. The outside appearance will always change and beauty may fade, but it is the heart of the person we are to love and the heart will never change as long as the love of Christ dwells within it.
 
Gods' grand design was for man to take care of the earth and have dominion over all living things. God did not want man to be alone so He created a helpmate and she was called woman. The two were to multiply and replenish the earth with more helpers to till the land and help take care of Gods creation, Genesis 1, 2.

Gods will for woman was to be a helpmate to the man in every way, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, socially and physically. She was also created to bare the generations to come. A woman was not greater or less than the man, but was his equal.

There is no place in the Bible that constitutes having to have a marriage license. Man incorporated this into the law. In the Hebrew tradition a mohar or dowry was paid to the father of the bride by the groom in exchange for the daughter, Exodus 22:16, 17. Genesis 2:23-25 explains the bond of marriage. The two are united as one in the eyes of God. Ephesians 5:22-29 wives are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord for the husband is the spiritual head of the wife. Man is the provider and protector of his family. Husbands, you are to love your wives like Christ loves his church. This is an unconditional love that looks on the inside of a person and not the adorning of the outside. It is a love with a pure heart.

This submission also carries over to the bed that neither should deprive one another unless it is a mutual consent, 1 Corinthians 7:5 the principles for the married believer are explained in 1 Corinthians 7:10-16. As long as there is love and faithfulness the two should never depart from each other nor stray away for lust of the flesh.

For a good marriage to work one should study 2 Corinthians 6:14 be ye not unequally yoked together with non-believers for what fellowship hath righteous with unrighteous, and what communion has light with darkness. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ then you need to choose a mate that also believes in the faith of Christ.

Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered. Always resolve your problems with the Holy Ghost guidance through the word and you will always have a good marriage. Always be opened and honest with each other for this builds trust in the relationship, but if that trust is broken there is no relationship. Love each other unconditionally as Christ loves us and forgives us our faults. As long as we live in this flesh we will sin at times, but when you acknowledge those sins and ask for forgiveness God will always forgive us. Always be ready to forgive each other seventy times seven, Matthew 22:21,22, and not only forgive, but forget the sin as God remembers our sins no more when we repent of them. The outside appearance will always change and beauty may fade, but it is the heart of the person we are to love and the heart will never change as long as the love of Christ dwells within it.


So in lamens terms, what exactly are you saying?
 
So in lamens terms, what exactly are you saying?

I know that was probably a bit much, but take your time to study it all.
Make sure the both of you are equally joined together in the faith of Christ before you make any commitments. Plan out where you are going to live when he gets home and both should have jobs if possible as finances can quickly ruin a marriage when it comes to paying rent, utilities, groceries and whatever else that is necessary to live on. If he has a felony charge against him whether he is innocent or not it is going to be hard for him to find a job, but trust God that he will open the doors of employment to him and He will.

My husband before I knew him has a felony charge on his record even though he was innocent of the charges he was accused of, but yet he found Christ in jail and when he got out he found a job right away and now has even a better job. You are going to get a lot of different opinions on what marriage is and my suggestion is take it to God and He will direct your path on what the two of you should do.
 
OK just a couple of things, we will try to find jobs and places to live but neither of us can drive right now so it'll also have to rely on transportation, and two, have I actually committed the sexual l sin or not?
 
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OK just a couple of things, we will try to find jobs and places to live but neither of us can drive right now so it'll also have to rely on transportation, and two, have I actually committed the seal sin or not?

In my observation of scripture I don't think so as it wasn't a one night stand, but done out of pure love and commitment to each other. Others will tell you different. I lived with my husband before we got married based on what I researched in scripture and was never convicted about it and the Holy Spirit is quick to convict me when I do things the wrong way.
 
You know, you are actually very nice and I like you even more since we actually became friends and learned to accept each other for the way we are. :) I'm actually getting along with Taylor now too. We both apologized to each other.
 
Ok, so here is the deal. I wasn't going to share this with you but I really had to know. What exactly is marriage? Does it really matter if it's official in the state or official in the heart? I had to know because most of you if not all of you already know that I have been engaged to my high school sweetheart who is currently behind bars for a crime he didn't commit. Anyway, I'm sort of ashamed to admit this but neither of us waited for sex since we had it for the first time after we graduated. On one hand, I've been kicking myself for sinning and praying to God that He'll forgive me, but on the other hand, we already know how much we love each other and that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Not to mention that we both are mentally handicapped and when it's time for us to leave home, we won't be able to afford a wedding right away and I'm not even sure where we'll be able to live my fiancee being a convicted felon then. We both desperately want to obey the Lord, but we're also madly in love and we want to act upon our feelings. So that brings up the question, what exactly is marriage anyway? We both have been very faithful to each other and at some point we are going to settle down together and get married and have a family. But do you really have to say "I do" to know that we're already a hundred percent committed to each other or to have rings on our fingers. I guess the most important question is, what is God's definition of marriage? Please don't hate on me for this.

Edit, please move this thread to marriage sorry my mistake.
Here are my thoughts. The civil part of marriage is a technical part of marriage in which the state will recognize the union and in so doing it invokes certain legal rights and responsibilities. For example, tax laws and inheritance laws. But, marriage in the eyes of God is a different matter. That is a union blessed by God and except for infidelity is not something that can be broken.

Sex outside of marriage is fornication and fornication is a sin. Having sex with another person does not constitute a marriage before God. I believe one must make that commitment before God in order for it to be a true marriage. Otherwise, there are people out there that are currently married to multiple partners and that is not Godly.

Just my :twocents.

edit: Also want to mention this. In your opening post quoted above you wrote, "Anyway, I'm sort of ashamed to admit this but neither of us waited for sex since we had it for the first time after we graduated. On one hand, I've been kicking myself for sinning and praying to God that He'll forgive me,..." If you have truly without doubt asked God to forgive you, it has been done!!!
 
Here are my thoughts. The civil part of marriage is a technical part of marriage in which the state will recognize the union and in so doing it invokes certain legal rights and responsibilities. For example, tax laws and inheritance laws. But, marriage in the eyes of God is a different matter. That is a union blessed by God and except for infidelity is not something that can be broken.

Sex outside of marriage is fornication and fornication is a sin. Having sex with another person does not constitute a marriage before God. I believe one must make that commitment before God in order for it to be a true marriage. Otherwise, there are people out there that are currently married to multiple partners and that is not Godly.

Just my :twocents.

So are you saying that you agree or disagree with the other poster? (Never had sex with anybody else by the way)
 
Ok, so here is the deal. I wasn't going to share this with you but I really had to know. What exactly is marriage? Does it really matter if it's official in the state or official in the heart? I had to know because most of you if not all of you already know that I have been engaged to my high school sweetheart who is currently behind bars for a crime he didn't commit. Anyway, I'm sort of ashamed to admit this but neither of us waited for sex since we had it for the first time after we graduated. On one hand, I've been kicking myself for sinning and praying to God that He'll forgive me, but on the other hand, we already know how much we love each other and that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Not to mention that we both are mentally handicapped and when it's time for us to leave home, we won't be able to afford a wedding right away and I'm not even sure where we'll be able to live my fiancee being a convicted felon then. We both desperately want to obey the Lord, but we're also madly in love and we want to act upon our feelings. So that brings up the question, what exactly is marriage anyway? We both have been very faithful to each other and at some point we are going to settle down together and get married and have a family. But do you really have to say "I do" to know that we're already a hundred percent committed to each other or to have rings on our fingers. I guess the most important question is, what is God's definition of marriage? Please don't hate on me for this.

Edit, please move this thread to marriage sorry my mistake.
He behind bars and he cheated on you?.....at the very least I'd make sure that he get tested and keep a close eye on him when he around other men.

Mam you are very tolerant if I do say so myself.

God Bless and....well you know.
 
He behind bars and he cheated on you?.....at the very least I'd make sure that he get tested and keep a close eye on him when he around other men.

Mam you are very tolerant if I do say so myself.

God Bless and....well you know.


He never cheated on me! Especially not on another man!
 
I think that there is practical reasoning for everything it ain't all mystical mumbo jumbo like the Bible scholars try to make it seem.

He say follow the laws of the land and He say only a marriage between man and wife is recognized by Him.

By following this advice you are both protected by law should one of you(or both) decide to lie and take advantage of one another.... they don't call it a ball and chain for nothing.

But adults should be mature enough to were them consideration ain't necessary.
 
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