18 year old brother

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  1. questdriven

    questdriven resident geek Staff Member Moderator

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    So I asked this a few years ago when I sort of introduced my brother to anime and my mom didn't like that. My brother was 14 at the time and I realized my actions were wrong and tried to stop that. It has been difficult to entirely avoid encouraging my brother to disobey her, but overall I've tried not to encourage it. Eventually he did begin watching anime on his own. I never told our mother about that, but I did here and there tell him he should be honest with her. I haven't been perfect about it and at times I felt like I was walking a fine line at best and crossing it a little at worst.

    He's 18 now. In the past months I have been talking to him about anime. We have similar interests. We've watched two or three anime series together. It's hard not to. And the sphere of stuff our mother does approve of...she's kinda on the extreme end of things. Like wouldn't go to watch The Lego Movie because of one tiny thing.
    Am I wrong for this? I've asked some friends and they don't think it is wrong, because my brother is old enough to make those kind of decisions on his own. But I still wonder.
    When I began watching anime, I was 19. When my mother had issues with it we did have a talk about my not being accountable to her anymore and agreed on that. I've tried to get my brother to do the same thing, but doesn't seem like he's going to.
     
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    Essentially, if he still lives under your moms roof, he should abide by her rules. That's just proper respect. But honestly, it's just anime. It's harmless in my opinion. I watch it too sometimes (love sword art online). But perhaps your mom will understand that he is 18 and be a bit more lenient with him. I remember I wasn't allowed to play rated M video games until I was about 17. Mom hated halo. Then gears of war came...the look on her face when she seen the chainsaw. Lol.
     
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    Ah, yes, my brother and I both love SAO. He says he likes it even though he also believes it suffers from bad writing. (I say I don't care if the writing is bad, I still liked it.)
     
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    SAO was probably the best anime series I've seen. But again, I'm just starting to get into the whole anime scene, so what do I know lol. I don't have much time to watch anymore because college is sucking my life away :bricks I want to watch some of the Tales of _ series (I guess thats right? Like Tales of Zestiria the X).
     
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    I hope I'm not violatiNG the tos by responding. TherE has to be some lines with that under the roof thing.
     
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    I do think I can't make my brother obey her. And he doesn't seem interested in trying to talk to her about accountability like I did.
     
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    There is no sane, earthly reason why anime should be wholly forbidden. It's like banning impressionist art from one's household: nonsensical.

    That having been said, anime's often sexualised nature -- even in anime which isn't meant to be intentionally pornographic -- does mean that it is reasonable, IMO, to keep an eye on the type of anime your brother may be watching... if he weren't 18. If he lives under your mother's roof he can and ought to be expected to respect her wishes in the essentials, but outright censorship is unjust and uncalled for at this point.
     
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    Yeah, I don't think there is anything I can do about it. I can't make my brother do anything and mom is mom. So I guess that's really all there is to it.

    What does confuse me is how I asked about this on another site and got a bunch of people saying that if I live in my mom's house I should respect her principles no matter how old I am, apparently even reaching over into what I do in private and being independent thought-and-decision-wise is "not scriptural" because the Bible talks about honoring people who respected their parent's wishes for generations. O_O That is a bizarre position to me.
     

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