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[hallowbonnie]

Got a few different things going Im so excited .First found a hippie christian group to do things with sooo yayyy for me lol.God has been my best friend truly, This past year made the fourth year since my divorce and I asked God to put a new dream and hope in my heart and I have really seen and felt that come through this year.He has really helped put my feet back on the ground and restored me.He has turned all of this into an adventure .There is something though,my stepsisters keep kinda bringing up dating and suggesting dating sites I should use.Its not that I havent dated I did the first couple of years after the divorce but I hated it and had so many bad experiences.I came to realize by the end of those 2 years that Im actually really happy being single.I honestly feel like if God wants me to be remarried he will bring that person along at the right place and time .I dont think a relationship is the answer to anything,I feel like God is my answer .Im not thinking about marriage or anything close to that right now and havent for a while .Im really enjoying the simplicity and freedom in my life.I mean I understand they all are married with kids so thats where they are coming from they think I would even happier if I had that(well except for the kid thing because Im a childfree person so they know I dont want to have kids).I do enjoy going out in small groups here and there but those are fun because there isnt any pressure.*Sigh I dunno I guess here lately its bugging me,as a christian have you tried dating sites or did/do you date at all?

 

[Clover me]

I had bad experiences with them also, right now I am learning to be content as a single man. Work keeps me busy and when I have free time I like to work in my garden. In the up coming years, I hope to get more free time to hang out with the small Christian groups at the local church I go to. I am a fairly new Christian and this site seems to be an outstanding way for me to fellowship with other believers. I know what it is like to be alone. I don't even have my parents, they are gone and I never had siblings. I have a hard time with letting go at work and trying to have a social life. I went on a meet-up from a dating site and the lady did not even look like her picture that was 10years out dated. There is a country song that says" I am so much cooler on line." The best advice I got so far is to just go out and do what I enjoy doing and God will bring someone my way in his time.

 

[hallowbonnie]

The best advice I got so far is to just go out and do what I enjoy doing and God will bring someone my way in his time.

Yep thats how I feel theres so much I couldnt get into when I was married because he just never liked my freespirited nature and he was a little controlling.Yeah I also had guys that used outdated pics on their profiles and one guy used his roommates picture That ended up being my last date .He got angry because I didnt want to go forth with the date once I saw that he lied to me.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I have 0 advice for dating sites. I'm ex-gay, so...ummm...I dunno, lol. But I'm excited that you found other hippy Christians! Your life's looking up, it seems. That story about the guy using his roommate's pic...priceless. Definitely one for the grand-kids.

 

[Clover me]

The best advice I got so far is to just go out and do what I enjoy doing and God will bring someone my way in his time.

Yep thats how I feel theres so much I couldnt get into when I was married because he just never liked my freespirited nature and he was a little controlling.Yeah I also had guys that used outdated pics on their profiles and one guy used his roommates picture That ended up being my last date .He got angry because I didnt want to go forth with the date once I saw that he lied to me.

Now that is a funny story. The room mates picture. Ha...You did the right thing by excusing yourself.

 

[jasonc]

lol. got mad because you were mad that he lied. some people. and no im not in this avatar.

 

[Danus]

Got a few different things going Im so excited .First found a hippie christian group to do things with sooo yayyy for me lol.God has been my best friend truly, This past year made the fourth year since my divorce and I asked God to put a new dream and hope in my heart and I have really seen and felt that come through this year.He has really helped put my feet back on the ground and restored me.He has turned all of this into an adventure .There is something though,my stepsisters keep kinda bringing up dating and suggesting dating sites I should use.Its not that I havent dated I did the first couple of years after the divorce but I hated it and had so many bad experiences.I came to realize by the end of those 2 years that Im actually really happy being single.I honestly feel like if God wants me to be remarried he will bring that person along at the right place and time .I dont think a relationship is the answer to anything,I feel like God is my answer .Im not thinking about marriage or anything close to that right now and havent for a while .Im really enjoying the simplicity and freedom in my life.I mean I understand they all are married with kids so thats where they are coming from they think I would even happier if I had that(well except for the kid thing because Im a childfree person so they know I dont want to have kids).I do enjoy going out in small groups here and there but those are fun because there isnt any pressure.*Sigh I dunno I guess here lately its bugging me,as a christian have you tried dating sites or did/do you date at all?

Nope on the dating sites, but then I was going through something similar in my life back in 91.

I think you should stick with the best advice you've gotten so far. That's kind of what I did. I was solidly single for about 7 years before I meet my wife in 98. I dated off and on during that time, but when I meet my wife I knew right away we where meant to be, that God literally introduced me to her. He guided my steps right to her.

She was a neighbor. We where both single and had both built homes in the same neighborhood. When I moved in I'd meet a neighbor who knew a lot of people in our little neighborhood and invited me to a block party coming up. So, on the day of that party my neighbor friends came by to remind me, and so I went. Meet my wife to be. We started dating and hanging out. One of our favorite things to do was cook Friday night dinners and watch a movie, LOL.

We married about a year later. Had our first child in 2000, number 2 in 2003. Been happily married ever since, and all though that time God has been smack in the center of it all.

I like what you said about the adventure you're experiencing. Stick with that. That's exactly what you're on. It's an adventure full of discoveries and all through it, God is with you. Do not try to carve out your own destiny. Instead, let Gods destiny for you unfold for you, and as it does discover it in amazement, because what He has planed for you is WAY better than anything you could possibly plan for yourself.

 

[hallowbonnie]

thanks everyone that really helps me reinforce that Im on the right path . ;) Thats an awesome story danus !

 

[for_his_glory]

Just let your spirit be free to enjoy those things in life that give you enjoyment as it's in Gods love that we learn to love our self and be able to enjoy our own company and the company of others in fellowship. I never used a dating site and dated some when I divorced my last husband, but they just were not the ones God wanted me to be with. They were good men, but no real connection. It was a few years down the road that God put my gift in my path and we have been happily married for sixteen years now. God will put them before us, but it's up to us to recognize them. You seem to be a creative spirit and never allow anyone to take that from you, but to share it with you.

 

[reba]

Wonderful uplifting thread

 

[Obadiah]

...Im really enjoying the simplicity and freedom in my life.I mean I understand they all are married with kids so thats where they are coming from they think I would even happier if I had that...

There's and old saying: "Misery loves company". That's why they want to get you married and tied down with kids!!!

Even though I'm joking (in a way) I have noticed that a lot of people who are married and especially those with kids (most people I know), aren't really as happy as they thought they were going to be in that situation. In truth, a lot of them are downright unhappy and stressed out. They just don't like to admit it because they think that makes them look like bad people. If God has made you happy and content as a single woman, by all means stay that way and God bless you!

...found a hippie christian group to do things with...

Now THERE'S something I wish I could find near me!

 

[Clover me]

I needed that.

 

[hallowbonnie]

There's and old saying: "Misery loves company". That's why they want to get you married and tied down with kids!!!

Even though I'm joking (in a way) I have noticed that a lot of people who are married and especially those with kids (most people I know), aren't really as happy as they thought they were going to be in that situation. In truth, a lot of them are downright unhappy and stressed out. They just don't like to admit it because they think that makes them look like bad people. If God has made you happy and content as a single woman, by all means stay that way and God bless you!



Now THERE'S something I wish I could find near me!

lol I agree Ive noticed the same things but didnt want to say it ya know but Im glad not to be the only person to notice that.There is some family that when they say some things to me it almost feels like its in a weird jealous bitterish vein I dunno I just know it dont feel good lol.I truly am happy as a single woman its awesome when Gods my man cuz I can be me and he can be God if that makes sense ,I just know being with him is so much easier than being with anybody else.Oh I found from several different churchs and bible studies in my area some hippie christian folk theres only about 7 of us right now in the group but we are pretty psyched about it!

 

[reba]

Some of my greatest joys have come from my kids my biggest hurts have come from my kids...

To be happy in the Lord where you are is a blessing

 

[Clover me]

lol I agree Ive noticed the same things but didnt want to say it ya know but Im glad not to be the only person to notice that.There is some family that when they say some things to me it almost feels like its in a weird jealous bitterish vein I dunno I just know it dont feel good lol.I truly am happy as a single woman its awesome when Gods my man cuz I can be me and he can be God if that makes sense ,I just know being with him is so much easier than being with anybody else.Oh I found from several different churchs and bible studies in my area some hippie christian folk theres only about 7 of us right now in the group but we are pretty psyched about it!

only God truly gives us freedom of will. That seems to be what you are saying you want. Most of the couples I know really just tolerate each other, not celebrate each other. So, take your time.

 

[Clover me]

I am not ready for dating yet. If I ever find the "One" I will be ready to forsake all others for? Most guys want a nurse, a mother, a purse, or a maid. I just want you to see the reality of the beast. If we are not making God #1. Then, most are not worth your time. You need to take time to get to know the person you are giving yourself too.

 

[hallowbonnie]

oh I know that now.Im lucky I only had to learn that one good time I got married when I was 19 and I was a baby christian at the time and didnt even ask my ex what his beliefs were nor did I care cuz I was in love and sooo naive.He turned out to be non religious.It honestly wasnt a bad marriage per se we had fun alot hardly ever fought but he was a little bit of a perfectionist and after a few years into it he was obsessed with wanting more money and things.I turned myself inside out trying to keep him happy and he ended up having an affair anyway with a woman who made 4 times as much as much me.When I say never again I mean never again.There is a saying that I absolutely love and agree with especially now that God has restored me and I am whole and happy its this"I am single and you will have to be pretty d@# special to change that" lol .I will know when God sends the right one .I dont regret marrying my ex it felt completely right at the time and I know without those lessons I wouldnt be here with God,I wouldnt know who I am.

 

[jasonc]

hippie Christian?okay Im curious as to why you call yourself that.
my town has plenty of those gia lovers.

 

[hallowbonnie]

I dunno just the best way I know to describe myself and the group no biggee

 

[jasonc]

I dunno just the best way I know to describe myself and the group no biggee

I have little use for hippies that is why im asking. I see a lot of the as hypocrites and liars. I know that you don't fit that bill so I was wondering was it the ecological view of the earth as man as tender and you want to be that? I know some Christians that way. I recycle, I used cfl light mostly before the mandate and I support a local reform issue of the big o lake discharge and cleanup of the indian river lagoon, but im not a tree hugger. no offense but trust me those guys here are rather nuts. don't cut the tree to get to the powerline. it might damage it. well duh then don't complain when you loose power.