Age Differences in Dating

[firefighterv]

I've heard alot about age differences in dating, but I'm curious as to know what you all think. Does a major age difference between two people really matter? Why do you think so? Why did society come up with these accepted standards relating to the age gap between a man and a woman? And why in the world does it matter if the younger person is a teenager? I'll start off by giving what I think.

I don't think age should matter one bit. Whether a man and woman were born on the same day, a year apart, or ten years apart, shouldn't matter. If they truly love and respect one another, then why SHOULD it matter? Sure, there may be some maturity differences, but what does it matter when they love eachother?

Take a seven year age difference. 15 and 22. If they started dating, it would most likely be with the disapproval of parents and family members. But let's fast forward to when they've been together for, say, seven years. 22 and 29. That doesn't sound so bad, does it? What about 30 and 37? 34 and 41?

Just a thought. I know some people who are repulsed by the thought of a major age gap, like seven+ years.

 

[Colton B]

I agree with you. It is just something someone made up to go against what you believe. It is very controversial. But I definitely agree with you. It shouldn't matter at all about the age or difference in age. Used to people would get married with 11 year age difference maybe more! Now a days its wrong for us to do that because it isn't right.


I agree with you all the way. I may be 13 but I know what I am saying.

 

[jeremiahj13]

Age should matter when you're young. Im sorry but i believe a 13-14 year old girls is not awar of the SEXUAL DESIRE of men that are 20 . The girls are naiive and think it is just romance, + fun and games.

Im sorry to say, most men have heavy sexual desire when they're young. Some may try to harm you to get what they want. :verysad

 

[walter]

Age should matter when you're young. Im sorry but i believe a 13-14 year old girls is not awar of the SEXUAL DESIRE of men that are 20 . The girls are naiive and think it is just romance, + fun and games.

Im sorry to say, most men have heavy sexual desire when they're young. Some may try to harm you to get what they want. :verysad

This is definitely something for any young girl to be aware of. It isn't just a question of age but of experience as well.

 

[Across The Universe]

When girls are young, I think they should be weary of guys. Even Christian ones. We never know what could happen. When your older, perhaps it is a little better. I think the whole, "young girls and older guys" is more of a safety issue. Say your in your early twenties, then by all means date an older guy. My aunt married my uncle and he's 10 years older!

 

[Colton B]

I get what you are saying. it may hurt me as I am a guy but it definitely is true.

 

[Wondering]

I think no more then a 1-2 age year difference is okay, but I've seen freshman girls dating seniors

 

[Suzumiya Haruhi]

I think that it is alright for people to date people who are alot older then them.

But only when they are adults.

I will explain this with a scenario.

Say there is a guy, 20 years of age, and he is dating a girl, 13 years of age.

He will have certain, "needs" that the girl won't be able to fufill, until the appropriet age (17+)

The hormones will be a ton different.

But when they are both adults, the hormones get to be about the same.

Thats my reasoning.

 

[bandit]

you all talk like its the guys faulf. what if its the guy that is younger? Im 17 and my GF/fiance to be is 21. I agree that yes 18 and 13 is bad!! in fact I dont beleive in the fact of truly loving someone untill you are 16+ trust me, when I was 13 I thaugh I knew life like the back of my hand and beleived I was ready for anything!

Wait till you get 16 then look for true love. Puppy love and dating is fine for 12+ but honsetly as long as you are both over the adge of 17 I beleive that you are mature enough by that point to make the right decision in life.

guy older thang girl I give it 3 years max untill the girl is 18. after that do as you will.

girl older than guy, I give it 5 years untill the guy is 18. anymore than that and the girl will be a full adult with things to relie on the guy with that he will not be able to do! since he probly wont even have a drivers liscence.

its all about the person. know your limits, play within it!

 

[Blazin Bones]

Curious, why do you think younger men can date women much older than them than women can or am I reading you wrong.

 

[bandit]

women are an extremly powerfull and knoledgeable species!! men are a little more on the (laid back side) no offence,

Im just stating that if your 15 and your girl friend is older than you, she will most likely have more heart and guilt factor than a man,so the older the woman the less trouble you will most likely be tempted to get into. IMHO if she is truly a christian!

As for men, having a girl to young (under 16) that does not infact know the values of purity and life yet, and has no fear, well things could very easly get out of hand fast if the guy is not 100000% sure of his life situation and motives and faith!. JMHO

but if your both over the adge of 17 then there should not be any age factor since you are both old enough to make your own decisions and know right from rong and live your life the way you chose!

Im not judging anyone so pleas do not feel offence to this, if you have a relationship that is going terific thats against what I say, then hey all the power to ya and may God bless your love every day!

All im doing is talking by first hand actions and sight of others.

Just my humble opinion. if it sounds offencive in any way pleas let me know and I will do my best to clear things up. my age examples are only example not proven facts or ages I beleive in.

JMHO
Bandit

 

[Blazin Bones]

There's no offense taken, I was just curious as to your reasoning, that's all.