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I would ask what your thoughts were?Sex before marriage is sin. What about kissing, holding hands, hugging, or cuddling? What is the bible position on this subject?
This scripture has a double meaning here or maybe a singular meaning in referring to 1 Corinthians 5 verse 5. Or at least a reference to. Does it really mean seeing a woman as a sex object as opposed to acting on it? I think if a man can keep from desiring a woman so strongly that he is tempted to go all the way or take matters into his own hands then yea it's a sin. Otherwise If he is one that is blessed with the ability to control himself in that area I don't think there is any harm in kissing, hugging, cuddling, and holding hands. Of course carnal passionate kissing is indication of the inability to control oneself. holding hands going into inappropriate touching, cuddling going into anything you wouldn't do in front of your grandmother. Be careful it's a slippery slope but not one that cannot be navigated honorably or safely. I think of the Moabite woman Ruth. she was told to go "lay" with Boaz so that she would gain his attention. No harm no foul right?Mat 5:29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
I didn't mean she laid with him as in sex. but she went and slept at his feet you are correct. I guess to me it's the same as modern day courtship. IDK I could be wrong and it's ok if I am so long as I learn.Ruth at her mother-in-law's instruction made herself known to Boaz as a near kinsman for purpose of inheritance and favor. She laid at his feet, not with Him.
Scientific fact.IOW those who have no regard for their physical bodies enjoy sex the least of anyone. Those who save their physical intimacy for their marriage will love their spouses more AND enjoy physical intimacy more.
It's God's design for bonding between a man and his wife. Sexually promiscuous people struggle with affections and bonds they created with former boy friends and girl friends they played around with concerning sex (even just coitus-less sex play) that almost certainly are going to torment them later on in a marriage to someone else. God is not mocked. He has reasons for why he says to do it his way. Sadly, the biggest loser is probably going to be the spouse of such a person.Every person remembers their first physically intimate partner. Each level of physical intimacy from holding hands, first kiss, heavy petting and intercourse.
This is because we are wired to remember these things with fondness and love that person uniquely.
My own experience seems to support this. I was a virgin until I met my first wife while she had more than one previous physical relationship. Admittedly and with some regret however, I was not a virgin the day we were married. Looking back now, it was she that struggled with commitment to our marriage bond and it was eventually her infidelity that primarily ripped our marriage apart. I remember the day when she asked for a separation. We had been married for about two years and up to that point I was unaware that there were issues between us in our marriage or with her. I thought we were doing okay, not perfect but okay so her sudden request really threw me for a loop. We separated for about six months and I became aware of at least three different men that she was involved with during that time. We eventually got back together but it only lasted a little over four years before I learned conclusively that she had interests outside our marriage again. That was the proverbial straw and I sought divorce quickly. As with any relationship it does take two to tango and I certainly was not a perfect husband so there was room for improvement on both sides but I was faithful to her.Scientific fact.
The guilt and baggage of a promiscuous lifestyle is almost certain to ruin a later marriage.
Lot's of people laugh at the idea of a young man, or young woman, marrying for life the first person they are interested in and date. But honestly, God designed it physically and psychologically that if you walk the straight and narrow before and after marriage you can have the marital bliss the world is sure you can only get from being promiscuous and choosy.
That doesn't mean you won't have problems. It means you won't have the destructive problems that worldly people are overcome by from being promiscuous before marriage.