being a teenager (ADULTS WELCOME)

[Nick]

What do you / did you find are the good and bad points of being a teenager? What were your teen years like?
Adult are welcome to this topic.

 

[JoJo]

I remember when I was a teenager and how badly I wanted to be an adult. Learning to drive, getting my first job, getting my first kiss...these things showed me that childhood was behind me! And boy did I not know what I was getting myself into! How I would love to revisit my teen years for about a week. No worries about bills, no worries about my kids, the freedom to sleep until noon on Saturday without feeling guilty...But I wouldn't want to stay there long. My life would not be the same without my kids. I wouldn't trade parenthood for any occupation in the world. That's the one thing about my teen years that I don't miss. I love being a mom.

 

[jasoncran]

I was social awkard as a teen and the lord helped me out of that, and though god has healed me of the hurt back then. I haven't decided if i will go to my 20th reuinion, i didn't hang out without many classmates and the one's i did i still do. Satan is a liar, he convinced me that i was the only person going threw that. I just didn't have any confidence in myself back then. Praise god for my delivery from that.

I didn't get my license till i was 20, I had no girlfriends in highschool, for the most part.

One day if permitted i post my testimony on this forum, God did alot for me. Things you do as a teen good or bad will affect you for years to come

Jason

 

[Caroline H]

My teenage years were AWFUL! I don't think I made a wise decision during that whole stage of my life, and like Jason, I too have a great testimony of things that God brought me through and changed in my life. Man, I wouldn't go back to spend one day as a teen again. I was really insecure and wanted people's approval so badly that I did really stupid things. Now, I am a completely different person, quite opposite from what I used to be. It's really amazing what the Lord has done in me!

 

[Nick]

Yes, it is amazing what the Lord can do, and thanks for sharing. I'm sure we'd all like to hear some testemonies.

 

[jasoncran]

Yes, it is amazing what the Lord can do, and thanks for sharing. I'm sure we'd all like to hear some testemonies.

A short version, when i was a teen it was into martial arts to heavily. Primarily because it's fun, and i don't allow that anymore. I was also the typical nerd, comic geek,etc etc.Back then u got picked on for that, unlike now, shoot goth was just coming out. I felt accepted in the dojo and because of that i hung to the pantheistic philosophy.

I was unable to color coordinate, and always worn loud clothes, no glasses, I did work part time at local mcd's. I felt unable to talk to women at that time.Shy, basically. My parents had to deal with my two siblings who had mental issues. So, i was kinda on my own. They took care of me, just never help me when i was out in lala land. If wasn't causing trouble (which i didn't until i got bad grades) i was left alone.

I for some reason had a hard time socially, I just starting to take more interest in a social life when i joined the army. I changed a lot. But i foolishy had the young man's you cant tell me anything attitude. God broke me of that in 1996, at the of 23. I was out the Army and teaching martial arts. I was involved with a muslim who helped out with the social awkardness, but at a price. In return i helped him with the conning people out of money, stole money, even from my parents, which i repaid to the best of my ability when Jesus came in my life. Finally when i went to church, and about week later i gave my life to christ.

There's so much in that story that would like to expand but it would take a couple of pages to describe.
I'll talk later about my falling into homosexuality and moving to Florida and being healed slowly of my hurting heart byGOD jason

 

[heather]

My teen years were terrible. I raised my 2 younger siblings from ages 12-18. During that time, I had almost no life. I was a "loner" with friends (I had friends from all types of circles, but mostly spent time alone). I suffered with depression and suicidal thoughts. I did not fit in anywhere. I am past all of that now. I would never want to go back to that again. Maybe if things had been different, but they weren't.

 

[Nick]

Heather and Jason, I'm sorry you had bad teenage years, but I rejoice becasue you are now in a relationship with God .

Jason, you might find some common ground with GojuBrian, he's into martial arts too. (if you hadn't guessed).

 

[heather]

Heather and Jason, I'm sorry you had bad teenage years, but I rejoice becasue you are now in a relationship with God .

My teens years weren't all bad. If I hadn't had a relationship with God (although nothing like it is now) I would have probably killed myself. It was through counseling with my pastor and talking with God that brought me through. I also married my best friend as a teen. I was 18 at the time, and I have never regretted it.

 

[lovely]

I was very introverted as a teenager (still pretty shy as an adult), and I spent a lot of time reading. I especially liked classical literature, classical Christian literature, and studying the word. I also spent a lot of time going on mission trips and volunteering in different communities. I was alone a lot, which kinda made me independant, because my dad had to travel...sometimes I traveled with him which was neat.

I didn't really mesh too much with others at school, and while I have some very close friends I never had a best friend until I married my husband years later. The neighborhood I lived in was a hard place to grow up, and so the schools reflected the values and lifestyles of the area. Sometimes I just wanted to be done with that place so badly, but a love of Jesus kept me joyful while a love of learning kept me interested in spite of all the muck. I had a few really great teachers too which helped.

I never dated, and did my best to discourage anyone who took an interest. I just loved Jesus, and didn't know any boys who loved him at that time, but also I was just the blushing queen and couldn't handle any direct attention. I also compared everyone to my dad, and no one seemed to meet that standard. In school, I was active even in my shyness, though because I didn't mesh well in the environment I wasn't considered popular. I was liked, though. I sort of floated between clicks pretty easily, and made a few sweet friends who were sort of in the same boat. I was president of clubs, German, physics, chess, and I even was part of a jazz ensemble for a few years. I loved to sing. I was in a few plays, and took part in an orienteering class that was just really neat. I also volunteered to help with the 'garden club', which was really a special education club, and that was just a blessing to my life back then. By my senior year, I had some real friendships, and was a bit more relaxed with people...even eating in the lunchroom instead skipping to finish a book at the library. ;) I was nominated Prom Queen my senior year, and because the more popular girls split the 'popular vote' I won...I give the 'garden club' all the credit for that miraculous victory. I loved to sing, but I also loved math and science, and so as a result I was voted 'best actress' and 'prettiest nerd'.

I loved my dad, and thought that everything he said was Gospel, except when it contradicted the Word...he was an atheist, which made for some interesting, and spirited, conversations at times. If I could go back, I would have been less sassy and would have made a better effort to honor him and obey in my heart not just in deed. Some of my favorite times were renting old movies with my dad and watching them with loads of Chinese food and chocolate ice cream (I still love watching Danny Kaye, Jerry Lewis, Elvis movies, etc.), learning to drive a stick with a friend who was very brave and patient, having pizza and all night sleep overs with a family from my church that just welcomed me into their home a lot, going on Sunday drives once in a while with my dad and stopping at my aunts for a real cooked breakfast, and spending weeks visiting some of my mom's family in a small town out in the country...they ran a real dinner and movie drive in.

I had a wonderful childhood in many ways, but I will say it was marked by loneliness and a desire for a close relationship with someone. (My non-relationship with my mom probably had something to do with that.) My dad being gone a lot didn't help either. I have a friend who says that I was the only teenager in school who had her own apartment. It seemed that way. I was awkward with boys, and had my first real kiss when I was 22. I thought about that kiss for years. I was awkward with girls, because I am not good at small talk, and I wasn't good at 'boy talk', and I am sort of geeky in my tastes thanks to my dad. I had some dark times in my mid-twenties, some trials, but my teenage years, while typical in a lot of ways, were overall just joyful and full of dreams about serving God. I do wish I had studied God's word even more looking back, and that I would have been less awkward, but I had a good childhood and was blessed by the Lord.

The Lord bless all of you.

 

[jasoncran]

I was very introverted as a teenager (still pretty shy as an adult), and I spent a lot of time reading. I especially liked classical literature, classical Christian literature, and studying the word. I also spent a lot of time going on mission trips and volunteering in different communities. I was alone a lot, which kinda made me independant, because my dad had to travel...sometimes I traveled with him which was neat.

I didn't really mesh too much with others at school, and while I have some very close friends I never had a best friend until I married my husband years later. The neighborhood I lived in was a hard place to grow up, and so the schools reflected the values and lifestyles of the area. Sometimes I just wanted to be done with that place so badly, but a love of Jesus kept me joyful while a love of learning kept me interested in spite of all the muck. I had a few really great teachers too which helped.

I never dated, and did my best to discourage anyone who took an interest. I just loved Jesus, and didn't know any boys who loved him at that time, but also I was just the blushing queen and couldn't handle any direct attention. I also compared everyone to my dad, and no one seemed to meet that standard. In school, I was active even in my shyness, though because I didn't mesh well in the environment I wasn't considered popular. I was liked, though. I sort of floated between clicks pretty easily, and made a few sweet friends who were sort of in the same boat. I was president of clubs, German, physics, chess, and I even was part of a jazz ensemble for a few years. I loved to sing. I was in a few plays, and took part in an orienteering class that was just really neat. I also volunteered to help with the 'garden club', which was really a special education club, and that was just a blessing to my life back then. By my senior year, I had some real friendships, and was a bit more relaxed with people...even eating in the lunchroom instead skipping to finish a book at the library. ;) I was nominated Prom Queen my senior year, and because the more popular girls split the 'popular vote' I won...I give the 'garden club' all the credit for that miraculous victory. I loved to sing, but I also loved math and science, and so as a result I was voted 'best actress' and 'prettiest nerd'.

I loved my dad, and thought that everything he said was Gospel, except when it contradicted the Word...he was an atheist, which made for some interesting, and spirited, conversations at times. If I could go back, I would have been less sassy and would have made a better effort to honor him and obey in my heart not just in deed. Some of my favorite times were renting old movies with my dad and watching them with loads of Chinese food and chocolate ice cream (I still love watching Danny Kaye, Jerry Lewis, Elvis movies, etc.), learning to drive a stick with a friend who was very brave and patient, having pizza and all night sleep overs with a family from my church that just welcomed me into their home a lot, going on Sunday drives once in a while with my dad and stopping at my aunts for a real cooked breakfast, and spending weeks visiting some of my mom's family in a small town out in the country...they ran a real dinner and movie drive in.

I had a wonderful childhood in many ways, but I will say it was marked by loneliness and a desire for a close relationship with someone. (My non-relationship with my mom probably had something to do with that.) My dad being gone a lot didn't help either. I have a friend who says that I was the only teenager in school who had her own apartment. It seemed that way. I was awkward with boys, and had my first real kiss when I was 22. I thought about that kiss for years. I was awkward with girls, because I am not good at small talk, and I wasn't good at 'boy talk', and I am sort of geeky in my tastes thanks to my dad. I had some dark times in my mid-twenties, some trials, but my teenage years, while typical in a lot of ways, were overall just joyful and full of dreams about serving God. I do wish I had studied God's word even more looking back, and that I would have been less awkward, but I had a good childhood and was blessed by the Lord.

The Lord bless all of you.

that testimony could help alot of people hopefully you share it a church or whenever, werever, i'm blessed by your wisdom

Jason

 

[Nick]

I was very introverted as a teenager (still pretty shy as an adult), and I spent a lot of time reading. I especially liked classical literature, classical Christian literature, and studying the word. I also spent a lot of time going on mission trips and volunteering in different communities. I was alone a lot, which kinda made me independant, because my dad had to travel...sometimes I traveled with him which was neat.

I didn't really mesh too much with others at school, and while I have some very close friends I never had a best friend until I married my husband years later. The neighborhood I lived in was a hard place to grow up, and so the schools reflected the values and lifestyles of the area. Sometimes I just wanted to be done with that place so badly, but a love of Jesus kept me joyful while a love of learning kept me interested in spite of all the muck. I had a few really great teachers too which helped.

I never dated, and did my best to discourage anyone who took an interest. I just loved Jesus, and didn't know any boys who loved him at that time, but also I was just the blushing queen and couldn't handle any direct attention. I also compared everyone to my dad, and no one seemed to meet that standard. In school, I was active even in my shyness, though because I didn't mesh well in the environment I wasn't considered popular. I was liked, though. I sort of floated between clicks pretty easily, and made a few sweet friends who were sort of in the same boat. I was president of clubs, German, physics, chess, and I even was part of a jazz ensemble for a few years. I loved to sing. I was in a few plays, and took part in an orienteering class that was just really neat. I also volunteered to help with the 'garden club', which was really a special education club, and that was just a blessing to my life back then. By my senior year, I had some real friendships, and was a bit more relaxed with people...even eating in the lunchroom instead skipping to finish a book at the library. ;) I was nominated Prom Queen my senior year, and because the more popular girls split the 'popular vote' I won...I give the 'garden club' all the credit for that miraculous victory. I loved to sing, but I also loved math and science, and so as a result I was voted 'best actress' and 'prettiest nerd'.

I loved my dad, and thought that everything he said was Gospel, except when it contradicted the Word...he was an atheist, which made for some interesting, and spirited, conversations at times. If I could go back, I would have been less sassy and would have made a better effort to honor him and obey in my heart not just in deed. Some of my favorite times were renting old movies with my dad and watching them with loads of Chinese food and chocolate ice cream (I still love watching Danny Kaye, Jerry Lewis, Elvis movies, etc.), learning to drive a stick with a friend who was very brave and patient, having pizza and all night sleep overs with a family from my church that just welcomed me into their home a lot, going on Sunday drives once in a while with my dad and stopping at my aunts for a real cooked breakfast, and spending weeks visiting some of my mom's family in a small town out in the country...they ran a real dinner and movie drive in.

I had a wonderful childhood in many ways, but I will say it was marked by loneliness and a desire for a close relationship with someone. (My non-relationship with my mom probably had something to do with that.) My dad being gone a lot didn't help either. I have a friend who says that I was the only teenager in school who had her own apartment. It seemed that way. I was awkward with boys, and had my first real kiss when I was 22. I thought about that kiss for years. I was awkward with girls, because I am not good at small talk, and I wasn't good at 'boy talk', and I am sort of geeky in my tastes thanks to my dad. I had some dark times in my mid-twenties, some trials, but my teenage years, while typical in a lot of ways, were overall just joyful and full of dreams about serving God. I do wish I had studied God's word even more looking back, and that I would have been less awkward, but I had a good childhood and was blessed by the Lord.

The Lord bless all of you.

that testimony could help alot of people hopefully you share it a church or whenever, werever, i'm blessed by your wisdom

Jason

Yes, thanks for that lovely.

 

[jasoncran]

My teenager time was ups and downs. My father was ill but eventhen
I was away from worldly affairs. Being a teen most of the time goes
fun and play. Now my father is no more with me and I remember him
when I am alone. Tears come out whenever I remember my old days
when father was ill and he need something but I didn't care- whenever
I remember this I hate myself

u brought up a time that often i think about when assisted suicide comes up and alzheimers is mentioned , my grandpa john on my mom's side died of alzhiemers and i got hard on me at the end his life, i w would make excuses not to see him and he passed on when i was in basic training, and i never got to say bye to him, and i've lived with that until God showed me how to forgive myself and when I went to see my other grandpa who also died of alzheimers i was able to say good bye, i didn't talk to him over a misunderstanding ( stupid me) but i did reconcile thanks to be God as he is able to forgive and heal, I still feel the hurt, but its more as a reminder that time is short and we need to spend time with our parents or grandparents.
I will take time but u need to forgive yourself and cherish those memories withur dad, and i also miss my grandpas each was unique, even now that i hear my grandpa(mom's dad) saying to me whose the good guy, i know that he's in heaven as he was faithful to the Lord, and was an example of steadfastness and correction with love, my other grandpa was a vet , like him i have seen war and would like to talk with him as he never talked about his tour unless he was ready to, now that i understand that perhaps if he was alive we could share war stories and draw closer, strange to some but to vets its healing. Jason

 

[firefighterv]

So, I haven't seen one teenager post how their life is going right now! It's all adults reminiscing! Allow me to be the first teenager to share how I'm going in my walk..

I don't particularly enjoy being a teenager, but I know it's better than being out on my own and having to pay bills and buy my own food. I haven't gone through any unique problems. I'm basically a typical teenager, but it's still difficult. I'm fourteen years old, and I'm at that age where my hormones are at their peak and I long for a relationship.

One of the things we teenagers struggle the most with right now is love. We all want it, and most of us are still naive to the point where we think that if we enter into a relationship, it will be perfect and the person we're with will never hurt us or make us angry, but just love us and make us happy all of the time. Most of my friends have had boyfriends and they've all had their first kisses and their first loves.

I have yet to experience my first kiss. I am in the midst of my first love right now, but he's a bit older (I wouldn't like to share the age difference), and he is in love with someone else. He knows how I feel, and having to see him and his girlfriend spend time together rips my heart apart.

We teenagers also deal with things such as peer pressure and cliques, but I have yet to experience either, so I don't feel I'm qualified to write on those topics.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Kim, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Take your time. I know I wish I had my first kiss with Caromurp. Relationship have always fascinated me, and so I know how you felt. I was a 15 year old boy when I dated a 14 year old girl. I shcoked her parents at how serious I took the "relationship". It was nice saying I had a girlfriend until I grew up. Now I wish I had not.

Keep praying and we'll pray for you too.

 

[researcher]

What do you / did you find are the good and bad points of being a teenager? What were your teen years like?
Adult are welcome to this topic.

The good - not having to pay bills!

The bad - Learning what bills really are after leaving home.

As Rodney Dangerfield so aptly put it in "Back to School"...

''It's a jungle out there! So my advice is don't go. Live at home. Let your parents worry about it!''
:o

 

[firefighterv]

Kim, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Take your time. I know I wish I had my first kiss with Caromurp. Relationship have always fascinated me, and so I know how you felt. I was a 15 year old boy when I dated a 14 year old girl. I shcoked her parents at how serious I took the "relationship". It was nice saying I had a girlfriend until I grew up. Now I wish I had not.

Keep praying and we'll pray for you too.

Thank you. I'll never stop praying. Maybe when I grow older I'll look back on my first love and remember how silly I acted.

As Rodney Dangerfield so aptly put it in "Back to School"...

''It's a jungle out there! So my advice is don't go. Live at home. Let your parents worry about it!''
:o

You sound like the firefighters that talk to my brother, who just got hired at the fire department. "Stay at home for a year, let your parents worry about all the bills, save your money!"

 

[jasoncran]

btw the i live in florida as well, looking back at my first love, it was a big mistake, i wasnt' i wanted it to be, i was hurt badly, please dont rush. i will tell more on that later as it involves a lot of pain.

Jason

 

[firefighterv]

I'd love to hear your story sometime, Jason. Maybe someday when it's not too painful to tell. I'll try not to rush, and just enjoy life as it is.

 

[julie89]

What do you / did you find are the good and bad points of being a teenager?

Good points? :biglol

What were your teen years like?

(Imagine me as the blue smiley.)