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Blazin Bones

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A thread in the Teens talks about having a God centered relationship.

Most of us in the college age group want to find that special someone. So what I'd like for us to discuss is, what makes a good, Godly relationship. 8-)
 
god centered relationship

a God centered relationship is where u do not put dirty thoughts in your mind. And you dont do anything ungodl.y The way I think of it is would you can not do it front of your parents were in the room if not then its not Godly. YOu could also do quiet times with your friend. Juat pray for the friendship and always think of God before you make a decision.
 
Brutus/HisCatalyst said:
Most of us in the college age group want to find that special someone. So what I'd like for us to discuss is, what makes a good, Godly relationship. 8-)
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I have never had a romantic relationship with anyone. During my high school years I was far too shy and never found the courage to ask anyone out. To be totally truthful I still have confidence issues when it comes to the opposite sex…they are as follows:
I don’t believe that I am attractive to women
Beauty intimidates me
I fear rejection

At this point in my life thankfully, I am not as concerned about finding a significant other, it is still a strong desire of mine but I have shifted my primary focus on serving and glorifying God. I believe that if I am meant to have a wife then God will provide me with one.

In terms of what I believe makes a relationship with a significant other Godly if the relationship does not hinder you focus and obedience to God then it is Godly.

preachersgirl said:
a God centered relationship is where u do not put dirty thoughts in your mind. And you dont do anything ungodl.y
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Well, then I guess I have a bad God centered relationship...I like many men struggle with lust for the opposite sex and I do ungodly things far to often.
 
Well as I have posted elsewhere, I have given up my right to chose my wife and surrendered it to God. I build relationships with everyone who will let me become their friend, and let God do the rest. I have dated before and I made sure that God was involved in my side of the relationship. Due to my oath with the Father, lust has been something much easier to deal with. Lastly, before I enter any dating relationship I ask all of my closest adult friends to pray for me and the young lady that the Lord has presented to me through our Oath, and ask for them to pray for our guidence before we enter into the relationship. 8-)
 
Brutus/HisCatalyst said:
Well as I have posted elsewhere, I have given up my right to chose my wife and surrendered it to God. I build relationships with everyone who will let me become their friend, and let God do the rest. I have dated before and I made sure that God was involved in my side of the relationship. Due to my oath with the Father, lust has been something much easier to deal with. Lastly, before I enter any dating relationship I ask all of my closest adult friends to pray for me and the young lady that the Lord has presented to me through our Oath, and ask for them to pray for our guidence before we enter into the relationship. 8-)
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Your choices are commendable. I know you are not much for hugs from guys but what what you said makes me want to
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NPX your honesty to God is very commendable. It is so difficult some times to resist satan and his temptation. I have committed to being pure until marriage and I encourage all of you to try and do the same. Put God first he will take care of you. He will put the right person in your life on His great timing
 
Warrior4Him said:
NPX your honesty to God is very commendable. It is so difficult some times to resist satan and his temptation. I have committed to being pure until marriage and I encourage all of you to try and do the same. Put God first he will take care of you. He will put the right person in your life on His great timing
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Thank you Warrior4Him. I am glad that you have decided to remain a virgin until marriage...that is God’s way and the world would be that much better if people would do it His way.
 
I think the best relationship between a guy and a girl is one based on God. If God is the key focus of both of them then more good will come out of the relationship. This is why its good for a christian to date a christian. So that they can not only date, but grow in Christ together.
 
W4H, your right on brother. A real Christian dating relationship is one that is focused on The Father. It get's tough sometimes, because you will meet an awesome person, and God nudges you and says "Not the one, keep waiting." Hey Nikki, your married, any tips? 8-)
 
Tips from me? :o :lol:

Our marriage was HORRIBLE in the beginning. But, I've gone over this before on the forums, soooooooo....I'm not going into it again.

I believe that God should be a VERY important part of a relationship. Before Steve and I got married and even AFTER we got married, we never really talked about God. But, I was only 18 and immature and I hate to admit it, but God wasn't the center of my life at all.

After I got saved and we started actually TALKING about God, our relationship grew and I feel as though it is still growing. I can't imagine life withouth Steve. Sure, we get on each others nerves and we have our occasional arguments, but that's all normal. No marriage is perfect, but I like to think that mine is darn close to it.

The advice I'd give someone that is going into a relationship or even DATING, would be to find out what that persons beliefs are. Find out how comfortable they are talking about God. Find out what they want for the future. Talking is so important!
 
Thanks Nikki, I kinda asked you to get a girl in on the discussion, and because I know that right now you are a strong Christian Role model. You admit that you have been wrong in the past, you make God a huge part of your life, and you acknowledge that while you're not perfect you strive to be as close to Christ as you can. I knew you would have something great to add to the discussion. 8-)
 
Awwwwww....you're so sweet!

You know, tonight when I was doing dishes, I was thinking about my past and it hit me that I met my husband the day after I turned 16. :o
He took me out on a date about a week later, but some girls got mad that I went out with him and they toilet papered my car and were throwing beer bottles at me and here I was...tiny, boney and petrified...so I never went out with him again! We were like best friends though for the next year and a half. I was dating someone else and I would go to Steve when me and my then boyfriend wouldn't get along. It's pretty neat when i think about it. We got a chance to become best friends before we got married.

Then I messed everything up. :-?

But, tis ok now! I grew up and grew close to God and he's held my hand and led me along for over 6 years now! :angel:
 
Oh yeah. I am singing up as inperfected ok?

My views.... Well.. where do i start. With god i guess i in some ways. Heres the thing that is wat all the happiness in relationships hangs on. Don't act as if giving up for God is a sacrifice, it is a gift, a blessing. See that's the thing, as soon as there becomes some things that you struggle to give up for god, and so fail to give up, then it's like god withdraws his blessing on the relationship.
Kinda like if talked to your dad about the relationship, then blatently continue to do what he says not to in it, then he'll withdraw his blessing, a little or all of it.

Another biggy? TWO way communication, kinda girls gotta learn to talk less, and guys have to learn to open up more for the relationship to work.

Don't, don't, don't go down the track of getting comfy with each other physically... This is where the boundry lines become predominantly hasy.

Don't date someone you wouldn't marry, so be best freinds with them first.

Be careful not to be so certain of marriage, until you are honestly 100% obviously engaged... I kinda failed on this one, and got so badly hurt, after being dumped after a silent 8 month engagement... so be so careful....

Make sure you are equally yoked, yes i mean both of you christians, but more than that.. More simlilar beliefs, ideas, passions, and similar callings on life (ie a missionary called to go overseas, and a girl called to stay and work in her hometown here, just isn't goingto go well, shouldn't have to sacrifice what god wants you to do 100%)

Just use common sence really, and put those boundries down before the relationship starts...
 
Blazin Bones said:
A thread in the Teens talks about having a God centered relationship.

Most of us in the college age group want to find that special someone. So what I'd like for us to discuss is, what makes a good, Godly relationship. 8-)
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I think this is an excellent topic for us college students. There's a lot of biblical scripture on marriage, but not much on the "dating" process before that. I think the most important thing is to keep God first in a relationship.

Matthew 22:39 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind…”

Respect your boyfriend/girlfriend as the man or woman of God that they are and enjoy getting to know their character. Its a beautiful thing to enjoy Gods love with someone in purity, spirituality, and love.
 
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