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I've been with my first and only husband for years. That wouldn't be the case had he done so because that question presumes the relationship won't work out. Which means the one asking foresees securing their finances rather than prioritizing working on the marriage if things go wonky for a time.
I kinda see pre-nups in a 2nd marriage.....preserving an inheritance for kids/grandkids for example.....in a 1st marriage I see most people entering on a fairly level field (barring inherited wealth or the like).
Those futures, for grandchildren, etc... can be secured with a revocable trust.
Irrevocable trust.Im on one.my wife can't recieve money directly from it nor talk to the trustee.
I know this would not happen in the USA but in Australia, there are millions of dollars a year going to scammers, many of them overseas. And how do they do the scams? Many are Internet dating sites. Lonely single Australians (men and women) are falling in love with people over the internet and being seriously in love, start sending their money to their partner-to-be. Only to find, eventually, that person is actually an illusion made up by a scammer. Not long back one lady went overseas to meet her loved one only to end up killed. She had taken a heap of money with her if I recall right. She was in love and would not heed the warnings of friends.
Okay, that is interesting, especially about most not liking the idea. And with 'taking so long getting to know the ladies . . ." I thought that was the way it was supposed to happen. Long enough that you go to really know them and them you. Back in my day that was what dating was about but maybe different now.
Ha! That was so funny Lol! I love it!
Pretty early on.
Actually, for some cultures, there are big advantages. With the work my wife and I have done overseas, we were talking to a young unmarried guy and he was asking about Western marriage. He was horrified about people his age selecting their life partners themselves. He said how can they do that? He said his uncles and aunts were looking for a wife for him and doing some negotiation. He said since he was young and never married, he did not have the experience to pick a partner. He said his extended family who all knew him as well or better than his mother and father wanted the best for him so were working hard on selecting a suitable wife. And, since the new wife would join their community not just her new husband, it was better for the community to be involved in the choice.
Right!
Perhaps wise not to trust all those you meet at church?
I was alluding to the practice of attending "singles ministry" meetings because it's a great place to hook up with a partner for the night. (Much to the dismay of the associate pastor who has been assigned the task of making disciples out of randy young men and women.)
