difficulties sharing in other people's joys.

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  1. Not_Now.Soon

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    My wife and I are trying to have children. So far it's a difficult road that affects my wife quite a bit. But one aspect of it is frustration at the news of a friend or family member who's pregnant or has a newborn. When this happens it's another layer of frustration, anxiety, or sadness.

    Any helpful wisdom, advice, or prayers would be appreciated. Thanks.
     
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    I have a very sweet friend that faced the same problem and prayer began. Within the year they had quads.
    Prayer is begun for you brother. :clap
     
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    you're only human. i agree with eugene that prayer is the 1st and primary solution.

    praying for you and your wife.
     
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    Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

    Have you been given a glimpse of what God's purpose for your life is? Once you have been given that child, the praying doesn't stop there. You'll forever be comparing others if you don't just go with the flow. I mean this in a very heartfelt way.
     
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    If you guys can, please keep praying for my wife. Something else has come up. I need prayers for her.
     
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    Amen brother.
     
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    Thank you
     
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    Prayer lifted up and I pray you kids rece[ve the blessing you seek. When she is despondent hold her close, very close and reassure her and kneel down, right hen, if possible and pray over her. And when you can, help her do her chores. When I was below the E-5 grade, in the Army, my hands did not rot or fall off for washing dishes when I pulled KP. Do this and she will grow much closer to you and when she is not troubled over this, God will bless her with her desire.
     
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    Thankyou Bill.
     
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    I am praying for you and your situation and I hope things go the way you wish. I don't want to get too personal, but have you and your wife considered adoption? There are many children in need of parents. Remember, it's not genetics that makes a parent, it's the love (I have helped raise my 3 step-children who consider me their dad and the oldest when I came to the relationship was 17).
     
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    Anything specific that you care to share that we can pray for? There are countless people who can relate to having difficulty conceiving their first child while seemingly watching everyone around them announce their own good news. My wife and I could. Add to that a miscarriage, and we really were down.

    But then came Joshua. After him, we had more difficulty which led to us getting involved in foster care when Joshua was 6. Yadda, yadda, yadda, we adopted two sisters, and we can only thank God for His plan. I promise you we love them all the same 17 years later.

    I'm not sure I would have received it well if someone assured me my day would come, so I won't say that. I just know that in 17 years, you'll assess your life, and you won't feel like anything is missing. And then you'll have your story to tell. Praying for you, brother.
     
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    I agree with you Brother, and have prayed for you two. I'll continue to pray for you also.

    One thing is, I knew a couple who was having trouble conceiving and read somewhere that Vitamen E was supposed to help. She went on Vit E and then she got pregnant almost immediately. I don't know if it was coincidence or if there's something to it, but it wouldn't hurt to try to get her on some Vit E.
     
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    I'm a little hesitant to say what it is, but it is a medical concern discovered while at a doctor's appointment. As of right now having kids is a far less concern to me then my wife and I growing old together. That you for the thoughts though and the prayers.
     
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    I had trouble trying to have a baby also.....
    We married in 57 and wanted children as soon as possible....... Well , I hope I can put this in a way that is ok for all to
    read ! ? ! A lady at work told me before I got married to make sure I do not smell after , to douche.......
    Well, no baby for some time till I thought why do I have to do that? And it sure was wrong, I became pregnant
    as soon as I stopped doing that........
     
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    Oh, my... That changes my prayers. I'm very sorry to hear that you're dealing with something more than infertility, but I'm hopeful in the One we put our hope in. You're a good man with great character. God bless you for shelving the concern you spoke of in the OP for the health of your wife.
     
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    Thank you.
     

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