Fish and Birds

[JohnDB]

A fish and a bird can fall in love with each other but where will they make a home?

It's one of those less talked about expressions. We Americans are used to the notion of being anyone who we choose to be.

"We can take a man out of the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto out of the man" Isn't true but it sure does seem to be.

A family I know is looking to adopt some kids from an international agency. But the kids are resisting because they "know" their place in the society they come from.
I forsee a lot of heartbreak in this no matter the outcome.

Adoption is one of those things that I always applaud. I got adopted by God. But I'm still a lousy child even though I do try.
It's worse with earthly families and older children adoptions. The adoptee never feels like a fit into the family.

Caleb's father (of the stories in the Old Testament about the 12 spies) got adopted into the tribe of Judah...and were probably Edomites. But "Who has a heart like Caleb?" Is one of my favorite lines in the book of Judges.
His nephew became the first judge.

He kinda took a liking of his family's adoption. So many people don't.

Indeed...same reason applies to why those who win the lottery become poor once again a few years later.

Just thinking out loud.

 

[Tessa]

What you say about older children who are adopted is true. Both my children are adopted. I adopted my daughter as a baby and we are very close, she is now 49. My son joined our family aged three and a half years and He found it hard to feel a part of the family for quite some time. He is 48 years old and sadly is still lives with anger that his blood parents didn't want him, that's his words not mine.

And so it can feel when an adult joins Christianity. They can feel unworthy and that they don't fit in. It is our responsibility to make sure they feel part of our family.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

I'm an adopted child right here too and my family is my family to me. I love them and they love me.

 

[Tessa]

That saying a fish and a bird can fall in love with each other but where will they make a home, reminds me of two people I know.
She is a Christian, he is a Jew. They fell in love with each other 30 years ago. She knew it would never work and refused to marry him, and never even dated him. They were both heart broken. Eventually they both married other people, but they are still in love with each other
So sad.

 

[JohnDB]

That saying a fish and a bird can fall in love with each other but where will they make a home, reminds me of two people I know.
She is a Christian, he is a Jew. They fell in love with each other 30 years ago. She knew it would never work and refused to marry him, and never even dated him. They were both heart broken. Eventually they both married other people, but they are still in love with each other
So sad.

Well...
It's better than being broken, angry and bitter over a failed relationship.

And that is difficult for people. To be thrilled with what you have.

For some people they are angry the glass is half empty...
For others they are delighted that they have a glass and estatic that it even has something in it.

And some want to grab their identities and "place in the world" from these perceptions.
We believe that we are "too good" for committing crimes and throw a hissy fit when that policeman writes us a ticket for traffic violations.

We see that beautiful woman and as a guy believe that she is "out of our league".

Or women think that "that guy" wouldn't seriously consider her for a real relationship.

It cuts both ways...over and over again.

God sets up leaders and deposes them. (A line from Daniel)
Meaning that God places us in societies. He determines the outcomes of our hard work.

Success or failure...
Being happy, grateful, and thankful with what God has provided us with is attitude. It truly is all that we truly own.
A man's life does not consist of his possessions... including parents, wife, children, careers and etc.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

One more thing I have to say. If more parents adopted their children out instead of murdering (aborting) them, then more people would have the chance to have and love a child even if it will never biologically be possible for them to have one. I hate to break the bad news to you folks, but it's a sad and sick world that we live in today. God has a plan for everybody and everybody deserves a chance at life.

 

[for_his_glory]

There is also a saying that birds of a feather flock together, but that too is not true as a bird can be shunned by the others. It's hard to be removed out of an environment and placed into an unknown one even though the new environment is so much better for you. Trust issues are one of the hardest things to deal with as well I know from the horrible things from my past. It was even hard to trust God until He broke that barrier in me being a loving caring and patient Father. He didn't grow in me as I had to grow in Him, to trust Him and love Him. This is with any relationship we get into whether it be an adoption, dating or even a relationship with Christ as there has to be built upon trust first as the relationship grows.