Go back to husband?

[mswright6488]

If God told someone to stay in their marriage... should they go back to their husband and try again.. because God said so?

 

[jasonc]

If God told someone to stay in their marriage... should they go back to their husband and try again.. because God said so?

I have said to a woman that her husband would return. they did reconcile and didn't divorce. he commited adultery and she waited for a few years for that prophecy to be fulfilled. I wasn't alone in telling her that.

 

[AirDancer]

Why would any Christian willfully elect to disobey our Lord God?

 

[Christ_empowered]

How do you know that God is telling you?

 

[Gary]

If God told someone to stay in their marriage... should they go back to their husband and try again.. because God said so?

If there are any abuse issues, I would think long and hard before committing to anything. Other than that, I see no harm in wanting to mend a broken relationship.

 

[Gary]

How do you know that God is telling you?

Sometimes we mistake emotions and feelings for voices.
.

 

[mswright6488]

I was told through several men of God in our church and through my dreams...

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I was told through several men of God in our church and through my dreams...

My experience has been that if God speaks through another person(s) to you, he'll be telling you the same thing inside of you too.

Even though dreams are a legitimate, Biblically defensible way to hear from God I'd tread carefully in that department. I would go on what God speaks into your spirit directly and use everything else, including the dreams, as a confirmation of what he's saying to you directly inside of you. That means don't go solely by what he may or may not be speaking to you from outside (IMO that includes dreams). Go on what God says directly to you and use the other stuff as confirmation.

 

[mswright6488]

Thank you Jethro... I so appreciate your response. It was honest, a great answer.

 

[th1b.taylor]

If God told someone to stay in their marriage... should they go back to their husband and try again.. because God said so?

That can be the Godly thing to do and it can be totally ungodly in certain circumstances. If there was violence or vocal demeaning, those must be addressed first. God does not mean for you to suffer. If either of these was present before, they will not end without both parties surrendered to the will of God.

Actually, before reuniting, both of you need to, submissively, enter into Christian counseling from your pastor and both become accountable to the church through the counseling.

 

[mswright6488]

I left on my own because of verbal abuse to me and my children. God told me then (TO STAY) but it became too much for me to handle. if I was supposed to stay then.... what would be the difference in my going back to my husband? God said He would change my husband if I put my trust in Him. But I did not listen to the Lord and I left. I was supposed to lean on God for my strength to get through it until God brought a break through in our marriage. It was my doing and I feel my place is with my husband and I must be the one to make it right for our marriage.

 

[th1b.taylor]

I left on my own because of verbal abuse to me and my children. God told me then (TO STAY) but it became too much for me to handle. if I was supposed to stay then.... what would be the difference in my going back to my husband? God said He would change my husband if I put my trust in Him. But I did not listen to the Lord and I left. I was supposed to lean on God for my strength to get through it until God brought a break through in our marriage. It was my doing and I feel my place is with my husband and I must be the one to make it right for our marriage.

No, you have made one mistake and there will be no erasing and correcting it. It must, now, be lived through. This time you know your error and you are learning from it and now you must profit from the mistake God knew, thousands of, years ago you would make.

Now you are in a position to learn from the error and if you drag him to Christian Counseling, if required, both of you will learn from God because of it.

Please remember two things. First, the verbal abuse will grow until it becomes physical and th physical will grow until it becomes attempted murder or murder! Second, he knows that without you he is not complete. Please use these two facts wisely to heal your union with him.

 

[Karl]

I left on my own because of verbal abuse to me and my children. God told me then (TO STAY) but it became too much for me to handle. if I was supposed to stay then.... what would be the difference in my going back to my husband? God said He would change my husband if I put my trust in Him. But I did not listen to the Lord and I left. I was supposed to lean on God for my strength to get through it until God brought a break through in our marriage. It was my doing and I feel my place is with my husband and I must be the one to make it right for our marriage.

Dear one, ...so you already know the answer to your question.

However, I think the real question is, "How will I love him if I do go back?"

May I suggest you didn't have enough love to obey what Father told you to do?

Please let me explain, "Father, we ask in the name of Your Son Jesus, open the ears of Your precious child and my dear sister to hear what You would have to say to her."

In our English language we only have one word for love, I can say, "I love my wife," and "I love spaghetti," but of course I don't love them in the same way. The New Testament is written in the Greek language and it has different words to clarify our love, one, the word eros which refers to any thing physical, "I eros spaghetti," and the love we have emotional and spiritual is the word phileo, so I would say "I phileo my wife."

There is another word and that is agape, this type of love is not human, only God has agape love,

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1Jn 4:7

and,

...for God is love.1 JN 4:8

John is telling us that God is agape love and this agape love has to come from Him.

That is what I meant when I said you didn't have enough love for you husband to obey Father, ...because we are finite beings our love is finite, we can come to the end of the love we have for someone, that person can put out the fire and cause it to die, however God is infinite and His agape love is infinite and when we have His agape love for the person He has told us to love, or the person we are legally married to, we can go the distance no matter what the circumstances, even if there is not a response from the person we are loving with the agape love Father gives.

May I suggest you pray, let it all out, don't try and hide anything from Father (He already knows everything) and admit your love for you husband is dead, tell Him everything, your hurts, worries, concerns for your children, even if you desire someone else, lay it all on the alter before Him, that way you can tell Him you want to obey, pray, ...please give me Your agape love for my husband, becasue without it I can't obey, and watch what He will do.

Precious, I can tell you from personal experience it won't happen overnight, first Father has to change us with His agape love so that it can flow through us to others.

Here is a link that I think will interest and help you,

http://www.kingshighway.org/nancy-missler-updates/

Here is the link to the book written by Nancy Missler, The Way of Agape that really helped and taught me, I highly suggest you buy it and put the principles to use.

http://www.kingshighway.org/books-by-nancy-missler/the-bookshelf/the-way-of-agape/

Praying for you beloved sister, may the Lord bless you and guide you.

Karl

 

[Deborah13]

Thank you Jethro... I so appreciate your response. It was honest, a great answer.

Please take post #8 and post #12 very seriously.

 

[th1b.taylor]

Dear one, ...so you already know the answer to your question.

However, I think the real question is, "How will I love him if I do go back?"

May I suggest you didn't have enough love to obey what Father told you to do?

Please let me explain, "Father, we ask in the name of Your Son Jesus, open the ears of Your precious child and my dear sister to hear what You would have to say to her."

In our English language we only have one word for love, I can say, "I love my wife," and "I love spaghetti," but of course I don't love them in the same way. The New Testament is written in the Greek language and it has different words to clarify our love, one, the word eros which refers to any thing physical, "I eros spaghetti," and the love we have emotional and spiritual is the word phileo, so I would say "I phileo my wife."

There is another word and that is agape, this type of love is not human, only God has agape love,

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1Jn 4:7

and,

...for God is love.1 JN 4:8

John is telling us that God is agape love and this agape love has to come from Him.

That is what I meant when I said you didn't have enough love for you husband to obey Father, ...because we are finite beings our love is finite, we can come to the end of the love we have for someone, that person can put out the fire and cause it to die, however God is infinite and His agape love is infinite and when we have His agape love for the person He has told us to love, or the person we are legally married to, we can go the distance no matter what the circumstances, even if there is not a response from the person we are loving with the agape love Father gives.

May I suggest you pray, let it all out, don't try and hide anything from Father (He already knows everything) and admit your love for you husband is dead, tell Him everything, your hurts, worries, concerns for your children, even if you desire someone else, lay it all on the alter before Him, that way you can tell Him you want to obey, pray, ...please give me Your agape love for my husband, becasue without it I can't obey, and watch what He will do.

Precious, I can tell you from personal experience it won't happen overnight, first Father has to change us with His agape love so that it can flow through us to others.

Here is a link that I think will interest and help you,

http://www.kingshighway.org/nancy-missler-updates/

Here is the link to the book written by Nancy Missler, The Way of Agape that really helped and taught me, I highly suggest you buy it and put the principles to use.

http://www.kingshighway.org/books-by-nancy-missler/the-bookshelf/the-way-of-agape/

Praying for you beloved sister, may the Lord bless you and guide you.

Karl

Actually eros is where we get errotic from and they mean the same thing. The word you are looking for is I phileo my spaghetti. Sorry for getting tickled but I serriously do not believe you get naked with your spaghetti. Right now I hope you're laughing as hard as I am as I try to place me in that position.

May God bless but leave that nasty spaghetti alone.

 

[Karl]

Actually eros is where we get errotic from and they mean the same thing. The word you are looking for is I phileo my spaghetti. Sorry for getting tickled but I serriously do not believe you get naked with your spaghetti. Right now I hope you're laughing as hard as I am as I try to place me in that position.

May God bless but leave that nasty spaghetti alone.

what a vivid imagination. LOL

You caused me to stumble! LOL LOL



But,

G5368
φιλέω
phileō
fil-eh'-o
From G5384; to be a friend to (fond of [an individual or an object]), that is, have affection for (denoting personal attachment, as a matter of sentiment or feeling; while G25 is wider, embracing especially the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety: the two thus stand related very much as G2309 and G1014, or as G2372 and G3563 respectively; the former being chiefly of the heart and the latter of the head); specifically to kiss (as a mark of tenderness): - kiss, love.


Now I must say I do get emotionally involved (phileo) with my spaghetti, especially when I come home for lunch and find it's been eaten, ...after fantasizing about it all morning!

Love ya bro, thanks for the laughs.

 

[Gary]

I left on my own because of verbal abuse to me and my children.

Emotional abuse can be much more damaging than physical abuse. Wounds heal and bruises fade, whereas cutting remarks and verbal attacks become a part of ones memory. While many adults can rationalize this type of behavior and put it behind them, most children cannot.

Prolonged exposure to verbal abuse is not healthy for the child.


I'm not telling you what to do, but if I were in your place, I would make sure that your husband's anger issues are being dealt with before I let my child set one foot inside that house.



But that's just me.
.

 

[th1b.taylor]

what a vivid imagination. LOL

You caused me to stumble! LOL LOL



But,

G5368
φιλέω
phileō
fil-eh'-o
From G5384; to be a friend to (fond of [an individual or an object]), that is, have affection for (denoting personal attachment, as a matter of sentiment or feeling; while G25 is wider, embracing especially the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety: the two thus stand related very much as G2309 and G1014, or as G2372 and G3563 respectively; the former being chiefly of the heart and the latter of the head); specifically to kiss (as a mark of tenderness): - kiss, love.


Now I must say I do get emotionally involved (phileo) with my spaghetti, especially when I come home for lunch and find it's been eaten, ...after fantasizing about it all morning!

Love ya bro, thanks for the laughs.

That's ALRIGHT! I slept off the pain from just after posting that until just now and I am still tickled and my wife thinks I have lost it. I need to give this one to my young pastor, no name, just story.

 

[mswright6488]

Dear one, ...so you already know the answer to your question.

However, I think the real question is, "How will I love him if I do go back?"

May I suggest you didn't have enough love to obey what Father told you to do?

Please let me explain, "Father, we ask in the name of Your Son Jesus, open the ears of Your precious child and my dear sister to hear what You would have to say to her."

In our English language we only have one word for love, I can say, "I love my wife," and "I love spaghetti," but of course I don't love them in the same way. The New Testament is written in the Greek language and it has different words to clarify our love, one, the word eros which refers to any thing physical, "I eros spaghetti," and the love we have emotional and spiritual is the word phileo, so I would say "I phileo my wife."

There is another word and that is agape, this type of love is not human, only God has agape love,

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1Jn 4:7

and,

...for God is love.1 JN 4:8

John is telling us that God is agape love and this agape love has to come from Him.

That is what I meant when I said you didn't have enough love for you husband to obey Father, ...because we are finite beings our love is finite, we can come to the end of the love we have for someone, that person can put out the fire and cause it to die, however God is infinite and His agape love is infinite and when we have His agape love for the person He has told us to love, or the person we are legally married to, we can go the distance no matter what the circumstances, even if there is not a response from the person we are loving with the agape love Father gives.

May I suggest you pray, let it all out, don't try and hide anything from Father (He already knows everything) and admit your love for you husband is dead, tell Him everything, your hurts, worries, concerns for your children, even if you desire someone else, lay it all on the alter before Him, that way you can tell Him you want to obey, pray, ...please give me Your agape love for my husband, becasue without it I can't obey, and watch what He will do.

Precious, I can tell you from personal experience it won't happen overnight, first Father has to change us with His agape love so that it can flow through us to others.

Here is a link that I think will interest and help you,

http://www.kingshighway.org/nancy-missler-updates/

Here is the link to the book written by Nancy Missler, The Way of Agape that really helped and taught me, I highly suggest you buy it and put the principles to use.

http://www.kingshighway.org/books-by-nancy-missler/the-bookshelf/the-way-of-agape/

Praying for you beloved sister, may the Lord bless you and guide you.

Karl

Karl I cannot thank you enough for your sincere reply. You are so right on all that you have spoken to me. The big question is how would I love my husband. You are right, I did not love him enough to obey Father. You see we were both basically forced to get married when we were not ready. So on my wedding day I felt very unhappy. I was inlove with Jesus and not my husband. We had words spoken over us both about a powerful ministry God wanted to bring to pass. All the prophetic words was about us together in ministry. I KNOW for sure he is the one I am called to be with. I made a terrible mistake in leaving him and am willing to do my part as God wants me to. Thank God He gives us second chances. I don't have years to wait for us to be together... God is coming back soon and has work for both me and my husband, and I won't take no for an answer. It is Gods will and we have a bond together and are unified by the Lord in spirit and other wise. I must make it right. Please Karl pray for our union. I need spirit filled answers. Thank you Karl and all who replied

 

[Deborah13]

What in the world is going on in the church today?