Good morning! I see another similar thread on this topic, however my circumstances are somewhat different and are (arguably) very painful to talk about publically I have recently been brought back to my faith in the Lord, after having been astray for many years. During those years my relationship with my now-husband has been...tremulous, at times. We have a cultural and familial barrier that has caused me no small measure of heartache, and I have had issues stemming from my childhood and abuse that I spent years trying to bury and self-medicate with alcohol and other distractions. I realize I cannot live like this anymore, nor can my husband live like this. I know it pains him to see me struggle, so I am taking measures to repair myself and live as a healthy, happy, well-adjusted person (therapy, church, fellowship, bible study, to name a few). I know that one of my main issues is control. I always feel the need to be in control and I know this is not healthy or the way it is supposed to be. But I am finding it to be extremely scary to let go. I feel like I will be losing my autonomy and that I will lose the things that make me "me". At the same time, I know that my husband has been stressed out and feeling as if he has no control or say over things in many important ways, so I know that now more than ever I need to step back from the selfish nature and embrace the plan that has been set forth and that I have been too stubborn to accept until now. I am hoping someone can provide me with guidance and insight into this situation, and perhaps steer me in the right direction.