How NOT to compliment your spouse

[Jethro Bodine]

A man who had married his high school sweetheart turned to her on their 35th anniversary and said, "I didn't think the day would ever come when I'd want to sleep with a fifty year old woman."


One wife said her husband is a perfectionist, but that he's just not very good at it.

 

[Claudya]

Wait she was 15 when they married?

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Wait she was 15 when they married?

Yep. And they is cousins, too.

That's how it happens here in the backwoods mountains of America.

 

[Claudya]

Well since sheep and goat don't usually reach the age of 50 I guess that at least she is human.

But besides that 15 is very young for marriage - what is wrong with that compliment?

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Well since sheep and goat don't usually reach the age of 50 I guess that at least she is human.

Yes, sheep and goats get eaten long before that.

But besides that 15 is very young for marriage - what is wrong with that compliment?

I think about the day when I was twenty something, and a relationship with a fifty something woman wasn't exactly on my wish list, lol.

My how things change, lol.

 

[Free Christian]

Im still to master the compliment bit. Even when I say "that looks great" I still get "you don't like it do you, what's wrong with it?" Or "do you notice anything different" I say "yeah that's a nice top" but then she says "ive had that for ages, I was talking about my hair!"

 

[Claudya]

Im still to master the compliment bit. Even when I say "that looks great" I still get "you don't like it do you, what's wrong with it?" Or "do you notice anything different" I say "yeah that's a nice top" but then she says "ive had that for ages, I was talking about my hair!"

So either your compliments are exaggerated or dishonest and she can sense that, or she is very preoccupied with her looks and very self-critical.
As for the latter, it's all about women wanting their guys to pay 200% attention to every detail of her. That's an absolutely unrealistic demand.
Maybe it'd help to admit that you don't always pay full attention to her hair or her shirts or don't care much for whether stuff she's wearing looks great or just okay, because those things aren't as important to you as they are to her. Because you always find her beautifull inside and outside, hairstyling and clothing are thus none of your concerns, and you like her best when she's naked anyway ;)... or something along those lines.

A boyfriend I had long ago did often ask me for my opinion on his appearance, especially when wearing something new or after having had his hair cut. He was a bit insecure in those days. I always told him that he looks hot. Because he just always looked hot. His whole being - his looks, his intelligence, his personality, his soul - was beautifull and attractive. But after a while he started complaining that my opinion is meaningless because it's always the same and there's no variance in it. So basically in his eyes I was like a clock that is stuck and always showing the same time, so you can't get any real information about the time from it. That was a bit saddening. :-(

So, yeah, men can be as complicated as women about compliments.
It's all about insecurity I guess.

 

[Free Christian]

Hi Claudya, no, we are neither of those things. We have a top relationship and laugh about things like that all the time Both Christian and both on the same page in that regard.