How to become a submissive wife?

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  1. wwjd_kilden

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    Are you "Sirssubmissivewife"? If you are, the reason for the lack of welcome on the other forum was that you presented a BDSM relationship as biblical.

    Biblical submission works both ways: Submit to each other out of reverence for Christ (That goes for all christians: Wives, husbands, daughters, sons, brothers, friends) :) If we were all a bit more humble , the world would be a better place :)
     
  2. Mrs. Submission

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    Is your wife on any medication? If so, what is her medication compliance level? Does she exercise and eat a healthy diet? Does she maintain regular sleep patterns? I'm asking these questions because I know that mental health issues can be managed well with those steps. Of course severity of illness can be a factor.
     
  3. Mrs. Submission

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    No, I'm not that person. I'm not sure what you're referring to.
    Humility is certainly needed in this world. I do notice a distinct lack of humility in my personal experiences with Christians. They often feel entitled to harshly judge others as if they are God even when they are living a very unChristian existence. One of the reasons I do not refer to myself as a Christian is I don't want to be a hypocrite.
     
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    I've started the ritual of daily prayer and it has made a huge difference. I pray to give thanks, pray to improve my behavior and pray for my marriage and my husband. Showing gratitude towards God for all that I am blessed with fills me with joy.
    My husband has actually come to me and said that he is willing to move to the rural area if we find a home there in the future. It's amazing how submission can inspire a man to reconsider a decision made. I simply let my husband know that he is the authority in our household and dropped the subject. How wonderful it is that submission can lead a man to ponder the choices he makes for our marriage and reconsider.
    There have been a couple of times this week where my husband has reminded me to be submissive. I was obsessively questioning whether or not a goal was going to be achieved this year. The issue was that he promised me something important this year and we will have to postpone it to 2017 much to my disappointment. When my husband told me that he needs me to stop questioning whether or not he can provide something, I reminded him that submission requires trust and broken promises cripple my ability to have faith him. The questioning is an attempt to protect myself from disappointment. My husband tenderly while firmly repeating that I am to be submissive. I'm glad we had that discussion because I'm going to keep quiet from now on. I have taken my disappointment and anxiety to God.
    I'm very excited about new hobbies starting this fall and winter. I'm going to take up horseback riding and my husband will be teaching me how to ski. Can't wait!
     
  5. Mrs. Submission

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    Hey all. It's been a long time.

    I found out that I cannot take horseback riding lessons because we have to save for a trip to the UK next year.
    My cousin lives in England and she is ill. I want to see her while there's a chance that she might still remember me.
    Though I am disappointed, seeing my cousin is far more important than learning to ride horses.
    I've always wanted to travel more and I'll be able to see London, Paris and Glasgow.

    Daily prayer and keeping a journal has been very helpful. I've also become far more affectionate since that is what my husband has told me he needs to feel loved. When my husband notices that I am becoming irritated or anxious, he gives me a big hug and some kisses which usually help me calm down.
     
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    I don't know if my thread is still being followed since I started it two years ago. I didn't want to return and keep posting the same things either.

    My husband and I have been having some issues due to my recent rebellion. I went behind his back and ordered weight loss pills from the internet. My husband was against this because he was concerned about side effects and drug interaction. As usual, my husband was right. I became very irritable and started arguments with him. My husband and I agreed that I would stop taking the pills and he threw them away. He's also been great at helping me deal with the withdrawal symptoms. I should feel better by next Monday.

    Pray for me please. I need to remember that rebellion only causes division in our household.
    I'm naturally a stubborn person but that has no place in a marriage.
     
  7. reba

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    You are my sister .. :) We battle the same sin..

    1Sa_15:23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.
     
  8. Mrs. Submission

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    Amen sis. I'm so ashamed of my behavior. My husband was spitting nails last night; he was very angry with me.Today he's just very concerned about how ill I feel and being very tender.

    My husband has grown very weary of the way I criticize my body. He tells me that I'm beautiful but I think I'm fat. I am obsessed with becoming as thin as a I was over 10 years ago.

    I have not been praying as often so I need to return to God and ask for guidance as well as forgiveness.
     
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    It may be better for me to remain quiet here (but if you know me, you may suspect that I'm not typically the quiet type).
    Still... it's not really my place to answer and teach on these things, lacking direct experience.

    Titus 2:3-5 comes to mind.

    I will say though that you've taken a couple good steps already. Your choice for temperament(s) of your mate is well made.
    But even if I can not submit to a husband on earth, I can and need to submit to Jesus, our husbandman. In that way all Christians become aware of the issues and struggles involved with the desire to submit. I see it as yielding. Like a car on the entrance to the freeway.
    [​IMG] It's like passive allowing and giving deference and merging within an ordered procession. If we see ourselves as merging into the Bridal Train of the Church we automatically know the importance of decorum and peace. He provides. Submitting to our betrothed and/or 'heavenly husband' is something common to all those who follow The Way. In point of fact, if a Christian is not knowledgeable in this he/she is likely too new to know what's up.​

    Here's some general scriptures on the subject, found in the Topical Bible. You may also like to check out the 'Topical Bible: with a search topic of Submission'. It lists 32 General Scriptures on the subject to augment your understanding and help transform inwardly.

    Here's a copy-paste to whet the appetite(s).

    . o O (( Thought bubble says, <"I wanna be like Sarah"> ))
    My thought then is that Godly submission works best when applied toward those who are well versed in the language by virtue of their practicing submission themselves. Someone who hears the last verse from chapter 5 before they read chapter 6 in the letter to the Ephesians is on the right track.
    [​IMG]
     
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    hello Sparrowhawke, dirtfarmer here

    The submission of the wife to the husband is not a forced submission, but a submission of and through love to be pleasing to her husband. Christ never forces us to submit to him, it is from love of what he means to us that we willingly submit as you have highlighted in yellow.
     
  11. wondering

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    Hi Dirtfarmer
    submit..what's that?
    pleasing to the other...what's that?
    willingly due to love...what's that?

    Everything is the opposite these days.
    Is it any wonder this thread is so long...or even necessary.
    we' ve lost tract.

    No response necessary.
    sometimes I'm just sad at all the change.
     
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    1Pe 3:5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
    1Pe 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
    1Pe 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
    1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

    I am in submission to my husband not because he is always right, the greatest guy etc , he is not even Christian... I submit because it is right and proper unto the Lord..
     
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    This is very beautiful.

    I would say that even for a secular couple it would be nice to attempt to be pleasing to the other person. This applies to both the husband and wife.

    what I see instead is the desire to please one's self at the expense of the other. This causes many problems.

    I have to say that we Christians Are fortunate to understand the concepts spoken of here.
     
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