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[__ Prayer __] Husband - Porn Addiction

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I would like to request prayer for my husband's addiction to porn, but also materialism and just the overall spirit of addiction that is upon him. I learned that my husband has been hiding purchases he's made to buy things for other women on Amazon. We share the same account, but apparently you can hide purchases. I wasn't looking for anything, rather it just popped up on my Amazon icon.

We've been married for 4 1/2 yrs. This is my 3rd marriage and his second. He doesn't feel porn is wrong as he has no emotional ties to the women. I'm not going to go into the nitty gritty details, but he blatantly does this. He said he didn't tell me because of how I'd react. Ummm, how am I supposed to react.

He sees no issues with paying women online to make sexual videos for him, as well as buying stuff for them. We are deeply in debt, but he's in denial that he is the major cause for this because of his excessive spending on his stuff for all his hobbies.

He says I am oversensitive and he doesn't see the world as I see it and he sees it as okay. He says he loves me and that he is all the time with me when he's not at work. However, I do go to bed between 9-10 am and on the weekends, he may come to bed at 4:30 am, or 3:30 am. I'm sure he's on the internet engaging in porn. He says he's not conversing with other women, but I don't trust his word.

He's gone back on his word a number of times and this purchase of thongs for this other women does not show up on the Amazon Order History, which means he's found a way to hide that order. Deep, deep down, he knows it's wrong. And, the stress of it is killing me. The diabetes that plagues me is getting worse.

I love my husband. He is not saved. He thinks that whatever you believe is fine, as long as he doesn't think it hurts anyone. This hurts me so much. I've submitted to my husband and though he's made a number of bad decisions financially for our family, and I provide input, he has rage and anger issues. I have my own issues, too.

He doesn't think the porn and his spending are issues, but they are huge. We're unable to allow our daughter to drive because we can't afford for her to get her license, though my husband makes enough. He just spends more than he makes. And, we have no retirement, though, for what he makes, we should be able to save for retirement or save in general.

He truly doesn't realize how much he disrespects me and how much it's hurting me. He says it's because I take it personally. He says it's not about me. He justifies what he does as okay. It's not.
 
He's an adulterer. I pray you find the strength to leave. God allows this and when he knows he's to be committed to you and doesn't care, that should tell you who he has become.
Why work to keep someone who doesn't want you when God has the ideal man waiting somewhere. And that man won't see you now because you're married and he respects that . Your present husband does not.

You will be in my prayers.
 
FROM 16:11
This former atheist man tells what he saw in hell. He is telling that he saw christians hanging on crosses constantly getting swords stabbed/penetrated trough their private parts by these demons. These are the christian that couldn't stop watching porn, masturbate and stop the sexual desear.

Im triyng to keep this in my mind and hope we all can stop BEFORE ITS LATE. These sins are so "normalised" and maybe the main sins in our christian life. IN BLOOD OF JESUS PLEASE LEAD US NOT INTO TEMPTATION, BUT DELIVER US FROM EVIL.
 
I will pray for you.
I can say I have been where he is. And yes I committed adultery. I live my wife and still praying she returns. I have had to make serious changes in my life. Returning to god was the first step.
I read a book callled every mans battle. It helped me immensely. God can change a mans heart, he can convict his spirit to the wrong he does. While I don’t condone his actions I can understand his thought pattern. I will pray he brings a strong Christian man into his life.
 
The OP is probably long gone...
But suffice it to say that this is typical of a marriage in crisis. And where the symptoms are porn "addiction" and devaluating statements the problems are way more than these symptoms.

A real marriage is the joining of two "ministries" into a larger ministry that becomes more than the sum of it's parts.
Weakness are a fact of life but the ministry team (of a family) overcomes these issues. Everyone has their roles to play with no one trying to be separate in some fashion. In fact if one is separate in some activity it's incumbent to force the others to be included in some fashion (my wife puts sprinkles on the candy she can't make)

"Out of the heart..." And "a good tree cannot bear bad fruit nor can a bad tree produce good fruit" is discussed in Luke...

The "idea of marriage" with people pleasing to the eye but ugly hearts is a one way ticket for disaster. Sure, they might do all the basic things like keep a job and come home at night but they subvert the others in the home in a myriad of ways.

There really isn't a marriage here as the OP has described. It's two people torturing each other with a license to do so. And all to often exactly what happens when a Christian marries an unbeliever. (The man is an admitted Gnostic)

False Christians say the "right words" but have completely different definitions for everyone of them. Christians have a very well defined definition of "good"...the phoneys don't. And that's the cornerstone of the reason we don't marry unbelievers.
 
Alright, you all might hate me for saying this but I don't think that porn it itself is such a bad thing, (even though I'm not really into it myself) but when it starts interfering with your marriage or involving children (which is illegal) and hurting other people then there's a problem. Btw, I'm never going to be long gone, I'm here for the rest of my life now. :) I sure hope that the woman who originally posted this got out of this relationship. :yes
 
Alright, you all might hate me for saying this but I don't think that porn it itself is such a bad thing, (even though I'm not really into it myself) but when it starts interfering with your marriage or involving children (which is illegal) and hurting other people then there's a problem. Btw, I'm never going to be long gone, I'm here for the rest of my life now. :) I sure hope that the woman who originally posted this got out of this relationship. :yes

It's a bad thing. Ignoring the industry and how they get the pictures you still hVe guys like me who get into porn as a teen and have a hard time walking away from it the rest of your life. I'm married now, and it's still like an addiction that's only a click away. It's sometimes hard to resist, and if you cave in it's probabley the comparable to when alcoholics resist drinking for a while and then cave in. Worse is that porn does nothing benifitual.

If you've never been into it, count yourself lucky.
 
It's a bad thing. Ignoring the industry and how they get the pictures you still hVe guys like me who get into porn as a teen and have a hard time walking away from it the rest of your life. I'm married now, and it's still like an addiction that's only a click away. It's sometimes hard to resist, and if you cave in it's probabley the comparable to when alcoholics resist drinking for a while and then cave in. Worse is that porn does nothing benifitual.

If you've never been into it, count yourself lucky.





I somewhat see your point here.
 
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