Is Being Against Tatoos the Law?

[farouk]

Actually no my wife has one. I may be prejudiced, but I keep can get over it.

Oh really? did you accompany her to the parlor, then?

 

[Matthew G]

Actually no my wife has one. I may be prejudiced, but I keep can get over it.

Please forgive me for how this will sound, but rest assured it is a genuine question.

If you (per your own words) always think it's so sad when you see someone with a tattoo, how do you reconcile that as far as your wife is concerend? Is it just a "she's my wife and it makes her happy" thing, or more of an acceptance over time deal?

 

[farouk]

I'm sure my wife sometimes wishes I was the same way. I once took a trip to Wal-Mart in her Tinker Bell pajama pants.

In my defense - she was pregnant, wanted ice cream at 3 in the morning, and my clothes were in that awkward stage between washing and drying.

Not sure why I shared that...but...yeah...anyway...

The rich mosaic of home life, right?

 

[Matthew G]

The rich mosaic of home life, right?

Amen! Nothing like it in the world!

 

[farouk]

Please forgive me for how this will sound, but rest assured it is a genuine question.

If you (per your own words) always think it's so sad when you see someone with a tattoo, how do you reconcile that as far as your wife is concerend? Is it just a "she's my wife and it makes her happy" thing, or more of an acceptance over time deal?

Yes, I kind of wonder this myself; good question...

 

[kevinmaynard]

Please forgive me for how this will sound, but rest assured it is a genuine question.

If you (per your own words) always think it's so sad when you see someone with a tattoo, how do you reconcile that as far as your wife is concerend? Is it just a "she's my wife and it makes her happy" thing, or more of an acceptance over time deal?

I think she would look better with out it, but looks are superficial anyway, and isn't why I married her.

 

[farouk]

I think she would look better with out it, but looks are superficial anyway, and isn't why I married her.

I agree about the inward qualities as being by far the most significant. Though what she had done is what a lot of women do, you know...

 

[farouk]

...I may be prejudiced...

PS: Well, we all have opinions; mine may be prejudices to you; and your opinions may be prejudices to me...

Kind of like a kalaidoscope...

 

[Matthew G]

I think she would look better with out it, but looks are superficial anyway, and isn't why I married her.

Agreed 100%. But with that being said, what makes it difficult to adopt this viewpoint with others?

Obviously not the part about marrying them
But about looks being superficial and, by definition, irrelevant.

 

[kevinmaynard]

PS: Well, we all have opinions; mine may be prejudices to you; and your opinions may be prejudices to me...

Kind of like a kalaidoscope...

That came across wrong. I didn't mean I may be as in might be. I mean I may be as in I am, but I try to get over it.

 

[farouk]

Agreed 100%. But with that being said, what makes it difficult to adopt this viewpoint with others?

Obviously not the part about marrying them
But about looks being superficial and, by definition, irrelevant.

Maybe it's all about the subjectivity of others being objective to oneself, and the objectivity of others being subjective to another person. (But I'll leave kevin to explain more, if he wants to...)

 

[Matthew G]

Maybe it's all about the subjectivity of others being objective to oneself, and the objectivity of others being subjective to another person. (But I'll leave kevin to explain more, if he wants to...)

Wow. I confess I had to read that a couple of times for it to sink in, but I think I get your meaning.

It's kind of comparing apples to bowling shoes, but for example - My wife has a tendency to snore...a lot. When I hear her snoring, sometimes I shudder. But when my kids do it (they all do - I think it's my wife's fault ) I can't help but smile and think about how cute it is.

..........of course, that may have something to do with the fact that my wife's snoring sounds eerily like a wood-chipper devouring a Boeing 747, but I'll digress.

 

[kevinmaynard]

Agreed 100%. But with that being said, what makes it difficult to adopt this viewpoint with others?


Obviously not the part about marrying them
But about looks being superficial and, by definition, irrelevant.

Well I try not to judge others based on looks. If I don't get to talk to someone I only have what I know. My first comment was how I thought it looked, not how it made them as people. I just think it looks bad. Also, I know I am prejudiced in that regard as well. I try to keep an open mind, but I am flawed.

 

[Matthew G]

Well I try not to judge others based on looks. If I don't get to talk to someone I only have what I know. My first comment was how I thought it looked, not how it made them as people. I just think it looks bad. Also, I know I am prejudiced in that regard as well.

That makes more sense now. From the first comment I quoted a few posts back, it seemed to mean that you took their look to be a reflection of them as a person. But I get it now. Apologies.

See what happens when we assume?

 

[farouk]

Wow. I confess I had to read that a couple of times for it to sink in, but I think I get your meaning.

It's kind of comparing apples to bowling shoes, but for example - My wife has a tendency to snore...a lot. When I hear her snoring, sometimes I shudder. But when my kids do it (they all do - I think it's my wife's fault ) I can't help but smile and think about how cute it is.

..........of course, that may have something to do with the fact that my wife's snoring sounds eerily like a wood-chipper devouring a Boeing 747, but I'll digress.

For example, I think that you probably subjectively like your wife's tattoos, and they being your wife's, it may have become objective to you.

 

[farouk]

Well I try not to judge others based on looks. If I don't get to talk to someone I only have what I know. My first comment was how I thought it looked, not how it made them as people. I just think it looks bad. Also, I know I am prejudiced in that regard as well. I try to keep an open mind, but I am flawed.

I suppose the moral in there somewhere is, Be prepared to talk to tattooed people...

 

[farouk]

For example, I think that you probably subjectively like your wife's tattoos, and they being your wife's, it may have become objective to you.

PS Matthew G:

I'm not denying that they may be cool indeed; just observing theoretically that there's an individual and personal perspective to tastes in art, bodyart, etc.

Blessings.

 

[Matthew G]

PS Matthew G:

I'm not denying that they may be cool indeed; just observing theoretically that there's an individual and personal perspective to tastes in art, bodyart, etc.

Blessings.

You would be correct. There are a couple she has that at first made me think "what is wrong with you?", but over time I just got used to seeing them, and in all honesty they do fit her (at least in my opinion) and now it's hard to imagine what she looked like without them.

 

[kevinmaynard]

I suppose the moral in there somewhere is, Be prepared to talk to tattooed people...

Oh I have, and it has changed my mind about it a lot. I have really softened my opinion quit a bit. The retail job I had before getting this new one was at whole foods. I still think being sleeved looks bad, but baby steps.

 

[farouk]

You would be correct. There are a couple she has that at first made me think "what is wrong with you?", but over time I just got used to seeing them, and in all honesty they do fit her (at least in my opinion) and now it's hard to imagine what she looked like without them.

I'm sure you're right about getting used to them on a person that is near and dear, especially.

Also I think that with a couple, the matter of who started getting them first - unless both started getting ink at the same time - might influence developing tastes and perceptions.

But in the end people do tend to get very accustomed!

Blessings.