Marriage...

[Saint]

I got married last October. I'm 21 years old, and still in school. To set a goal for yourself, or to limit yourself by saying you won't get married until after a certain point, is certainly acceptable. However, when people say that no one should get married before a certain point is to, to a certain extent, render God ineffective in our own thought, and to be legalistic. God never put those restrictions on us, and if He brings two people together when they are 18, who are we to say that they should not be married? God decides these things, not us.

I'm sure when God wrote up the rules he didn't want people running to the loopholes, aka to get married.

First of all, Dawn, to say that God "wrote up the rules" is to almost imply that the "rules" were simply arbitrarily picked by God, rather than based upon those values that are in line with His character, which I think is what the Bible teaches. To just call them "rules" is like saying that we are in a classroom, and God is trying to keep order, but they actually flow from His nature, AKA who He is, so that when we obey what the Bible teaches, and we listen to the Spirit, we are becoming more like Christ, and that should be our goal every day.

However, to address your comment: Let's say we have to people who are having trouble resisting temptation, and they are doing things they shouldn't, and know they shouldn't. The first thing they need to do is seriously evaluate their relationship and ask other, trusted adults to help them assess the relationship.

If the relationship is firm, solid, and worthwhile (in other words, marriage-bound), and the couple believes that they will be married, I don't think that there is necessarily a problem, or anything sinful, about marrying, within reason of course.

If the couple is going to somehow handicap themselves by marrying, due to money problems, school, or somesuch other, then they may want to put more distance between themselves to avoid temptation, and hold off on marriage.

Then again, if the relationship is on rocky ground, or not worthwhile, in other words, not marriage-bound, then perhaps the best option would be to break-up.

 

[-nini-]

I don't want to marry until I've finished vet school.

 

[Obs]

if you truly love someone you can wait to get married after college

 

[Melonie]

I'm 21, still in college and in love. I'd like to get married before I graduate. Not in a huge rush though, but sometime within the next couple of years would be nice.

 

[boford]

My view is you got the rest of your life to spend with your partner so why rush it. Finish school and settel down and everything first

 

[Blazin Bones]

Well I'm just about done with my bachelors and haven't met anyone yet. I guess I'll make it through At least undergrad un-wed.

 

[diviana]

Does it really matters when you are getting married? Some people here said that most of the young people that are getting married are actually kids, or are getting married for sex ... Well that depends on each person. Honestly? It's awful to be alone, and not being able to share your joy with someone you love and loves you back ... as for me, I would get married tomorrow if i had a guy that shares my vision and with whom i get along and i feel safe with. So, it's kind of ... hmmm i don't know how to say it, not stupid but ... unreasonable to plan the age you are getting married, or saying that you would never get married. People do change. You will change. And if " PRince Charming" is around the corner and you'll fall in love you'll do anything for him. Practically we are not build to be alone. So marriage shouldn't be something we are scared of, more like a joy that you can have someone by your side ... you know for better and for worse ... that stuff that we all know. It's just that our expectations are too high ... and we like to think that would be ready for this step at 30 ... We will never be ready for it, or for having children ...

 

[Blazin Bones]

Woah...

My how God works. I met my fiance a little over two months after my last post in this thread and it was before I graduated. She rocks. I do not take issue with young people getting married, just do it for the right reasons.

 

[OceanAvenue 1042]

If my boyfriend and I could, we would get married right now. He just turned 23 and I am 22. We have been dating for two and a half years. We are both still perusing college and we think it is best if at least one of us graduates and has a stable job. Not only that but money is another major issue too. We just opened up an account together to start saving for our wedding and our apartment after the marriage.

Marriage is a commitment and before you even think about marriage, it is important to make sure that both people are not only into each other but into God as well. I think it is important for a couple with intentions to get married to pray together and study the bible together.

We must remember that God must always come first.

 

[Caroline H]

I think it is important for a couple with intentions to get married to pray together and study the bible together.

We must remember that God must always come first.

Absolutely there is no stable relationship without God at the centre of it.

 

[SMOOCH]

i actually never thought i would get married because of all my ambitions and when i was approached by anyone id turn them down no matter what, i found being alone was easier to deal with.