Patience Waiting for Someone

Discussion in 'Young Adults' started by Perrinlan, Jan 29, 2016.

  1. Perrinlan

    Perrinlan Member

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    I've had a crush on a girl since September. I told her I liked her back in November, but she said she wasn't ready yet because she really wanted to get to know God. At first it was only going to be for at least a year. I was okay with that so I told her I would wait for her. We talked more about it this week and she's still okay with me waiting for her but there are two problems. The first is, now she wants to wait until she finishes college, which isn't until next May. It went from a year to almost two years. And second, she can't guarantee that she will like me. I really like her and I feel like God is leading me to her. Every time I almost give up, God puts me right back on course. God is telling me to wait for her. I'm scared though because what if I do wait and she doesn't like me?
     
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  2. Sailing_soul

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    I think you should thank her for making you wait, it shows she's not selfish . She wants to become financial independent and wants to know God... She wants to get herself together so you won't walk into a mess. Sometimes the person you want isn't ready like you are because life isn't the same for everyone, its just not, they may have had financial or emotional troubles that kept them from progressing at the same rate as everyone else.

    But at the same time, if she keeps pushing it back you may need to move on, if its meant to be it will be , if not it won't.
     
  3. JohnDB

    JohnDB Staff Member Moderator

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    Move on...
    You have been "friend zoned" but she enjoys the ego stroke of a guy out there pining away for her.

    But here is the dirty little secret.

    She actually needs you more than you need her. She isn't smart enough to figure out how this works yet. (I personally think that you can do better)

    When looking at numbers and statistics...
    The number of sincere Christian men versus the number of sincere Christian women...the numbers favor you. You can hold out for the best of the best.
    Because otherwise a Christian woman is relegated to a heathen husband and a life of misery. (And the internet is full of those stories)

    So...
    Hold out for a woman who actually has a logical brain. In the meantime work on career goals and community involvement. Don't really go chasing after women till one of them catches you. You are the prey...not the hunter. Remember that...you will do much better.
     
  4. wondering

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    Why wait for anyone from whom you have no commitment??
     
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  5. joseph lentz

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    Hi,
    I'm not the best for giving advice.But the last thing you said was, "God is telling me to wait". If you believe that,and believe in God,where's the problem?
     

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