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Should the churches have some say in divorce

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What are your views on Christians having some kind of divorce decree from their church?
The thread on marriage has got me to thinking about this...
In most states you can divorce because you dont like the color of the others hair... Should Christians settle for a government divorce?
I dont have an opinion at this point , but like i wish the church was more involved in marriage should it also be more involved in divorce?
 
Sorry to hear this, Reba. I hope you guys work things out.
 
What are your views on Christians having some kind of divorce decree from their church?
The thread on marriage has got me to thinking about this...
In most states you can divorce because you dont like the color of the others hair... Should Christians settle for a government divorce?
I dont have an opinion at this point , but like i wish the church was more involved in marriage should it also be more involved in divorce?
The bible says: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14, As far as I know, having fellowship starts a new communication of anything. But the church should have some bible background.
 
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I dunno. Look at The Catholic Church. No divorce per se, but they have "annulments." There are secular annulments, too, but they're generally not used very often. Anyway, whenever you set up a process for the church to analyze your marriage, you set up a system of potential abuse. Wealthy Catholics can get annulments so they can re-marry, which makes the ex-spouse angry, because the church is basically saying "Your marriage wasn't really a marriage. Good bye now."

I dunno...I think the church's role, ideally, would be pre-marital counseling and ongoing support during marriage, but...the local church doesn't have the same hold over people that it once did. Society has largley crumbled. Even without easy, breezy divorce laws, we'd still have a high divorce rate just because society is so hyper-indvidualistic, you know? "What's in it for me?" Not that divorce is always bad, but...

...OK. Like, my parents used to have marital problems. Bad, bad marital problems. But they were committed not only to each other, but also to the institution of marriage and, to some extent, to their notion of God and His rules. So, they stuck it out. They now have more resouraces than most people, which has improved their marriage, plus they've gotten older, so they've mellowed out and made peace with each other. There arne't many couples like that in the US anymore. Society says "follow your heart," etc. etc. If your marriage is bad, you go to counseling (because apparently "professionals" can fix your problems for $120 a session), and if that fails, you get another counselor for help w/ the divorce (because their magical words can heal your words, apparently).

Divorce isn't ever a good thing, but it does happen. We live in a Fallen World, after all. I think the church--to the extent that it can, in this age of social disintegration in the late, great United States--should offer guidance and compassion. But I don't think Protestants should set the church up with any major authority over marriage+divorce. I mean, look at what happened with the Catholics, lol.
 
Wow sis, sorry to hear of you troubles, first may I say this is a temptation from the devil, but temptations are a two sided coin, one side is the temptation from the devil, the other side is a trial of your faith and we can rest in the promise that Father will never allow us to be tempted more than we can bear.

I know you know fornication or adultery is the only grounds for the innocent party to file for divorce, but that doesn't mean it is mandatory, God has options and they all need to be researched before we become the one that legally separates what God has joined together.

From my personal experience when my human love of eros and phileo have been completely exhausted and the only thing I have left is my marriage vow and word before God I have to pray for Father to fill me again with His Agape love for the person, when I do that with a clean heart He is faithful and I am released to love my wife with His love instead of mine, in so doing that He can restore the phileo and eros part in the relationship.

I hope that helps,

Luv ya and praying for you,

Karl
 
In most states you can divorce because you dont like the color of the others hair...
All you had to do was say something, Reba, and we could have worked it out.
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What are your views on Christians having some kind of divorce decree from their church?
The thread on marriage has got me to thinking about this...
In most states you can divorce because you dont like the color of the others hair... Should Christians settle for a government divorce?
I dont have an opinion at this point , but like i wish the church was more involved in marriage should it also be more involved in divorce?
I really do not know what you are asking.You mean if the Government says or does not say that you can get a divorce?
 
What are your views on Christians having some kind of divorce decree from their church?
The thread on marriage has got me to thinking about this...
I think that churches need to put an end to this willy-nilly, 'I don't care what the Bible says about divorce, I want one' attitude that 's running rampant among us 'believers'.

Just like a legitimate marriage is required for fellowship in the church, I think legitimate divorce should be, too. I know you can't repent of a divorce you shouldn't have gotten, but if there is no admission of wrong-doing and acceptance of responsibility then they should be asked to leave the assembly.
 
We Christians like to say our marriages are like a triangle with God at the top... ETC .. yet we go to the state for a divorce decree
If you mean we need to go back to the Bible and only get legitimate divorces that God approves then I say Hallejuah, baby!
 
I think that churches need to put an end to this willy-nilly, 'I don't care what the Bible says about divorce, I want one' attitude that 's running rampant among us 'believers'.

Just like a legitimate marriage is required for fellowship in the church, I think legitimate divorce should be, too. I know you can't repent of a divorce you shouldn't have gotten, but if there is no admission of wrong-doing and acceptance of responsibility then they should be asked to leave the assembly.
This is the kind of response i was looking for...
 
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