SO MUCH REJECTION?

[katerina]

Hi I’m a new member, i have so much questions as a Christian and i decide totalk with other people on the forum because I don’t have any one to talk withabout god.

From the day I decide to follow god after a long time away from him I can’tbelieve what is happening to me all the people are rejected me, and Christianpeople who help me. So much rejection I can’t take it. Why im not a bad personbut everything I say, becomes an issue. WHY?

 

[The Unbeliever]

I'm sorry you are experiencing trouble because of your renewed Christian faith. Unfortunately, this is not all that uncommon, and many people experience something like it when something as fundamental as religion is changed in their life. You need to forge new relationships that are capable of accepting the changes in you. Fortunately, there are many Christians who would gladly welcome you into their community, so don't give up.

 

[AirDancer]

Hi, Katerina ... welcome to CFnet!

As The Unbeliever stated, what you are experiencing is not uncommon. There are many who are adamently opposed to anyone finding the pure and simple joy, complements of our Lord. Renewing or strengthening our faith can be noticeable by others, and some will automatically resent it.

Instead of spending time with them right now, focus on reading Scripture, and find fellow Christians who know what you're going through. And The Unbeliever is so correct: there are many fellow Christians who will welcome you with open arms ... CFnet is one such community.

So please stay focused on our Lord .... His grace is truly amazing!

 

[Mike]

You need to forge new relationships that are capable of accepting the changes in you. Fortunately, there are many Christians who would gladly welcome you into their community, so don't give up.

That was a remarkable response coming from an Unbeliever, and I applaud this understanding.

Katerina, I'm sure many people who were brought to faith can tell stories about how they weren't received by believers as they had expected. I hope you come back, and I hope you don't lose heart. "People" will always find new ways to fall short of your expectations, and some new believers have become dejected because of it. One of the keys to faith is coming to the realization that people will be people, and God will be God. He will never leave you or forsake you. On that, you can rely.

Be blessed.

 

[evenifigoalone]

Welcome, katerina.

 

[katerina]

Thank you all for your reply your words gave me strength.

 

[AirDancer]

Amen, Katerina, amen!

 

[The Unbeliever]

I hope you find a good community to join.

 

[farouk]

Hi, katerina: It's good to keep up a Bible reading habit, every day.
Good to see you here.

 

[By Grace]

Hi I’m a new member, i have so much questions as a Christian and i decide totalk with other people on the forum because I don’t have any one to talk withabout god.

From the day I decide to follow god after a long time away from him I can’tbelieve what is happening to me all the people are rejected me, and Christianpeople who help me. So much rejection I can’t take it. Why im not a bad personbut everything I say, becomes an issue. WHY?

There could many reasons for this happening,but without your giving much detail,everyone is guessing.Immediately several possibilities come to mind:

1) Your past may be hindering your present in either reality, or in your self-evaluation.
2) You may be with the wrong group of Christians, such as a cult.
3) You may be expecting too much from the new church

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All of this may be compounded by the fact that you are a Christian newbie.Do you have a Christian friend,who is an older woman?It is my guess that you need someone to mentor you,and love you enough to tell you the truth in a manner that you will receive it in a positive light, and thereby grow spiritually.

 

[MarkG]

Sorry to jump in on this thread but I'm glad i read this thread because this is exactly what i'm scared of!
I know that my wife and kids and my closest family will be ok with seeking God but i'm not so sure that friends and work collegues will be as happy for me!
Is it a sin to keep it away from them and not tell them?


Mark.

 

[AirDancer]

As with anything else, Mark, you do not have to tell your friends and work colleagues. Instead, they will soon see by your behaviour that there is something new and different about you. And until you feel confident in your walk with our Lord, should anyone ask what is going on with you, all you have to say is "I've changed my outlook on life and am now a new man. A happy man." In time, you won't be concerned so much with how friends/colleagues react. By then, they'll have seen the change in you & they will be more curious to learn more about this new you.

The Bible doesn't tell us we have to post it 3 times in a newspaper or rent a billboard sign to announce we've become Christians. It is up to each of us as to whom we'll share this special news.

Blessings, Mark ... and welcome to CFnet!

 

[MarkG]

Thank-You AirDancer!
Your reply was just what i wanted to hear.
Being new to Christianity will be very confusing for me at first,not knowing if i'm doing the right thing in the Lords eyes!
Once again,many thanks!

Mark.

 

[AirDancer]

You're welcome, Mark. Being a new Christian is such an exciting time...I can clearly recall how I felt then and continue to feel. Just focus on your time with our Lord and listen when He speaks to you. Let Him guide you during these early days; you'll be amazed at where He takes you on this new journey. And remember, our Lord knows your heart; He loves you unconditionally.

Blessings!

 

[MarkG]

I hope so AirDancer!
When will i Know that the Lord is with me?
When will i feel him?
I want to be able to feel what every other Christian feels!
When will i feel this?

Mark.

 

[AirDancer]

The Lord is already with you, Mark! And you'll feel His presence in any number of ways....a sudden smile brought to your face ... the sense of a hug when no one is around ... a pleasant reminder of something in the past ... our Lord lets us know in He's with us in so many and varied ways. Even when you think He might be busy elsewhere, He's with you. Always. Faithfully. With grace and blessings in abundance for you.

Your faith & commitment to our Lord brought your personal connection with Him immediately. When you submitted your life to our Lord, He listened and embraced you. And as you progress in your Christian maturity, you'll discover all manners of ways He has made His presence known to you. Just be sure to always keep your heart & your thoughts focused on Him, and thank Him always for all He has done for you. He's blessed you with so much already....always give Him praise!

Blessings!

 

[Claudya]

Hey there!

Sorry to hear you are going through that rejection stuff. :-(
Do you want to talk about what kind of rejection you are facing? And from what sort of people? Friends, family, co-workers,...?
Do you live in a part of the world where Christianity or religion in general is frowned upon?
Let us know if you are in need of prayer.

Maybe those people that are rejecting you know are just puzzled and confused by the new you (sometimes it's really scary and threatening if someone close to you goes through a major life change) and they need some adaption time. In time things may calm down and return to "normal".

In the meantime, if you can, take pride and pleasure in their rejection, because weird as it may sound, in the end all that rejection will strengthen your faith.

 

[MarkG]

Thank-You!
I've got so much to look forward too!
I can't wait!

Mark.

 

[By Grace]

Thank-You AirDancer!
Your reply was just what i wanted to hear.
Being new to Christianity will be very confusing for me at first,not knowing if i'm doing the right thing in the Lords eyes!
Once again,many thanks!

Mark.

A strange "secret" of the Christian life is that it does not have to be perfect to be pleasing unto God. I forget the exact passage,bit the essence is this:"It is not the size of the gift that matters,it is the intention in which it was offered that counts the most."

In the same way that the offering of the two mites (perhaps pennies) by the widow at the Temple was a greater sacrifice than that of ALL the others giving that day,even though it was the least monetarily.

As a new Christian,you do not need to wonder or compare yourself with other Christians; it is your own attitude in worship and giving that is most important.

While Christians are Children of the Promise, and members of the Covenant-- quite a large group, it is each of us individually that God cares for. That is as awesome and wonderful as it is inexplicable to thaink that the God of ALL creation (Hebrews 1:2) died for me, of all people.

You will grow,because that is the nature of both physical and spiritual babies. Meanwhile,I urge you to write down all your questions in a journal to God.

Later on, you can reread your questions,and you will see the awesome and loving learning that Holy Spirit gave to you as you matured in Jesus. You will see how "silly" your questions were, but more important, you will see the kindness that comes from a loving God to His children; you will love Him more and more.

 

[Sparkey]

I hope so AirDancer!
When will i Know that the Lord is with me?
When will i feel him?
I want to be able to feel what every other Christian feels!
When will i feel this?

Mark.

I'm almost 60 years old now and have had the pleasure of knowing Jesus since I was a young man. It wasn't long after really "meeting" Jesus first time and accepting His offer before I became aware (had my first glimpse) of the fact that God was pleased with me. It was during a church service. I was quiet, like usual. Things were going on much as one would expect in any gathering where people got together to express their love for God. Like I said, I was quiet and maybe letting things happen around me -- mostly watching, as a young man should.

I was quiet after it happened too. But not because I didn't want to shout for joy at the realization - no. It was the smile that broke out upon my face and the joy that radiated from my eyes that showed that something had happened. My dad (our Father in heaven) had just shown me that He was pleased with me. I was silent before, because I thought that was the right way for me to act. I was silent after that private moment because I was dumbfounded and in AWE of our Great and Loving God! More than four decades have passed and this is one of my most enduring memories - the kind that lasts for eternity.

Blessings to you, my brother, and godspeed in your quest.