I am in a situation and I'm not sure what to do or if maybe I'm in the wrong. As I see it, my wife and I have very different outlooks when it comes to raising children. I am of the school that says we need to let the kids make mistakes and learn to overcome obstacles and situations. Yes, we need to be there to help them up when they fall but let them fall we must. My wife on the other hand seems to look at it differently. I believe she would rather prevent them from falling in the first place and now it's beginning to create problems for me. Our youngest daughter turned 21 this past July. She also graduated from college and has been working all along. She still lives with us at home. Now the problem. In my view, I believe it is important for her to learn to be on her own and I believe there are a couple ways we can help her do that. One would be for her to find her own place. The other would be for her to begin to pay rent to us, not because we need the financial support but because I believe it is important for her to learn that life doesn't give us a free ride. I've brought up this subject twice in the last couple months, yesterday being the most recent, and both times I got serious push back from my wife. She believes we need to continue as we are so our daughter can save her money and hopefully build up to possibly contribute to a down-payment on a house or some other use. She is totally appalled at the idea of charging our daughter rent to live at home and almost as much at the idea of asking her to find her own place. To our daughter's credit, she is a very responsible woman, particularly with her finances and she doesn't just sit around doing nothing. She contributes to the household chores and so on so that is not an issue. Our oldest daughter is much more independent and left home as soon as she returned from college. To our chagrin, she chose to move in with her boyfriend. Fortunately, if all goes as planned, they will be married September 15, 2018. I don't know what to do but it is beginning to give me stress enough to keep me awake at night. What are your thoughts or advice?