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I have a question if a stranger came up to any of you guys and started disrespecting you and attacking you personally would you let them do that or would you fight back?
 

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You're going to talk back sometimes. It's human nature. But honestly you should make an effort not to. Now if you are being goaded and provoked, that's on the person doing the provoking. But the Bible does say in Proverbs that a soft word can turn away anger. Responding in anger will fuel a conflict more often than it will extinguish it. Sometimes it's better to say nothing, or as little as possible.
 
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You're going to talk back sometimes. It's human nature. But honestly you should make an effort not to. Now if you are being goaded and provoked, that's on the person doing the provoking. But the Bible does say in Proverbs that a soft word can turn away anger. Responding in anger will fuel a conflict more often than it will extinguish it. Sometimes it's better to say nothing, or as little as possible.

Bottling it up will just make it worse. If you do that you'll blow one day.
 

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There are healthy ways to vent. I used to keep a journal specifically to sort out my feelings and scream all my anger and depression and suicidal feelings there. I would also tear up paper. Once I went outside and punched the mailbox.

Arguing back just tends to make things explode and worse than they need to be.
 
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On second thought, punching the mailbox probably isn't healthy and is definitely a bad idea that could get you in trouble. (I am terrible at this being an adult thing.) Punch a pillow instead.
 
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There are healthy ways to vent. I used to keep a journal specifically to sort out my feelings and scream all my anger and depression and suicidal feelings there. I would also tear up paper. Once I went outside and punched the mailbox.

Arguing back just tends to make things explode and worse than they need to be.

Arguing back just tends to make things explode and worse than they need to be.
But arguing is so much fun.
 

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I have a question if a stranger came up to any of you guys and started disrespecting you and attacking you personally would you let them do that or would you fight back?
Won't know until it happens. At times I have ignored them and at other times I have fought back verbally. With regard to physically striking someone, I haven't done that since I was a kid many decades ago.

With that said, what I would do or not do does not determine what is the right thing to do. What God says, is what is the right thing to do.
 
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I have a question if a stranger came up to any of you guys and started disrespecting you and attacking you personally would you let them do that or would you fight back?
Spiritual Strength comes from fellowship with the Father through the Spirit. What does that mean? I walk with God daily, not just when I have a problem. (With me) That includes discerning some things through the daily news. That could be anything from corrupt government to the anti Christ laws that are revealed, to the television programs that are pushing anti Christian life styles and so on, to the Spiritual and health needs by intercessions that draws the Spirit of Grace. Being in that mostly constant fellowship, I'am usually Spiritually prepared in season and out of season. So I would suffer the disrespect, knowing the Judgement of God upon the disobedient. Don't think this releaves me of my old nature...it gets in the way at times, but God always chastises me when I'am out of his influence and into mine (old nature). This makes me no better than any other believer, each one will have to give an account of himself who does not acknowledge and repent. But here is another thing, I'am more apt to stand up to that person more, if he is disrespecting someone else who is timid or hurt. That does not mean that is the right thing to do...that is just me. Another thing I will not tolerate is someone being mean to animals, I do not care how big they are!
 

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Once I was pet sitting for a family friend. One day her sister shows up unannounced. She starts telling me I'm doing horrible at caring for her sister's pets, naming all this stuff she says I'm supposed to do that wasn't on the list I was given by the owner, all this extra stuff, and said she was going to tell her sister I was doing a horrible job and being very stern and angry with me. I was trying hard not to cry and I tried as hard as I could to be calm and explain the list I had been given. She just would wouldn't have it. I managed to just barely hold it together, and stress cried afterwards.

Thing is, if you work in customer service, grocery stores, or restaurants, you deal with people like that often. People in the those jobs will take things out in you just because you're there, and if you don't handle it gracefully you'll be out of a job real fast.
 

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You also deal with it when moderating, but it's different online than it is face to face.
 
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Once I was pet sitting for a family friend. One day her sister shows up unannounced. She starts telling me I'm doing horrible at caring for her sister's pets, naming all this stuff she says I'm supposed to do that wasn't on the list I was given by the owner, all this extra stuff, and said she was going to tell her sister I was doing a horrible job and being very stern and angry with me. I was trying hard not to cry and I tried as hard as I could to be calm and explain the list I had been given. She just would wouldn't have it. I managed to just barely hold it together, and stress cried afterwards.

Thing is, if you work in customer service, grocery stores, or restaurants, you deal with people like that often. People in the those jobs will take things out in you just because you're there, and if you don't handle it gracefully you'll be out of a job real fast.
Whispers, that's what a choke is for.cessation of stupidity and their snoring or death ends that.the later is preferred,lol
 
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Won't know until it happens. At times I have ignored them and at other times I have fought back verbally. With regard to physically striking someone, I haven't done that since I was a kid many decades ago.

With that said, what I would do or not do does not determine what is the right thing to do. What God says, is what is the right thing to do.

No I just want you to think of situation in your head of that happening and tell me what you would do.
 

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I have a question if a stranger came up to any of you guys and started disrespecting you and attacking you personally would you let them do that or would you fight back?
That is a vague question...Most often i would walk away but not always... I do not tolerate disrespect from my kids who are over 50...
 
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I get rude customers all the time if I go to there level I can get into trouble.
 

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I have a question if a stranger came up to any of you guys and started disrespecting you and attacking you personally would you let them do that or would you fight back?
Is this stranger a young child, a teenage kid, grown man? Male or female? what do you mean by the word disrespecting Where is this happening? in a mall .. on the street.. in a school,? a public place
 
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Is this stranger a young child, a teenage kid, grown man? Male or female? what do you mean by the word disrespecting Where is this happening? in a mall .. on the street.. in a school,? a public place

Grown female verbally harassing you on the street.
 
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