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I do not believe that God intended oral sex as part of the design. There is just something wrong there.
But see, you're going out on a limb with nothing to back that up. Your only argument is a subjective/emotional feeling regarding it. Problem is, feelings can be wrong. You see, I have a feeling too and that feeling is that it isn't wrong, that the husband and wife's bodies are boh available for sexual stimulation in whatever healthy ways one might use. Why is your feeling any better than mine?
Bottom line is, you need to have scripture to back up your feelings... otherwise that's all they are.
Yes, my thoughts exactly. We can't rely on "feeling" to know what is right and what is not. God lays it out for us in His Word. That's where we are to look - not to some inner feeling. Feelings are mutable. God's Word is not.
Also, Saved - I was thinking - and I don't know your background, so I'm not saying that I am correct in saying this, but you said you were saved later in life:
I am full aware how far our flesh can take us since I did not become a Christian until late in life.
Well, my thought is this: isn't it possible that because of your experiences before salvation you are more jaded about sex, and that perhaps it holds a tinge of shame because your original view of it, was not God's view. Therefore, you
feel that some things are wrong, simply because they are associated
in your mind with things of the world. The fact is, the world did not create sex - God did. The world has sullied it and cheapened it, but that doesn't take away the fact that it is God's good creation and that sex within a Christian marriage is Holy and not shameful. It is not how the pornographers and the advertisers and the moviemakers portray it. Just because they have ruined something precious, doesn't mean that we as Christians are participating in what they are participating in.
I questioned earlier what lust is...what makes an act lustful rather than loving...because I really don't understand how you equate love with intercourse and lust with oral sex. If you could speak to that, because I don't understand how that is a logical arguement. Lust and love are conditions of the heart.
The bible does not deal directly with it as in spelling out positions or actions. My assumption is that it is understood. I do not think that silence is a license.
You understand it that way, because you want to understand it that way. Perhaps it is distasteful to you for whatever reason, and so you conclude that it must be sinful. Eating lima beans is distasteful to me, but some people like them, and last I heard it was okay to like them or not. As I said before, if it were a sin, God would have spelled it out in the Bible. Nowhere does it say that a man and wife must limit their sex lives in such ways that you are proposing. He wants us to know Him and love Him. Things that grieve Him, things that are sinful - He tells us straight out, because He wants us to live righteously. He's not out to trick us by making things so enigmatic that we can't see His commands. If the Bible doesn't talk about it, than it's probably not a big concern with God.
If you and your wife do not feel that you want that to be part of your relationship, that is perfectly fine. People have different preferences and interact in different ways. But in a case like this where you can't really back up your arguement with specific scriptures, I think it is best not to become too judgemental about fellow Christians who have honestly sought the Lord on the same issues, and have a clear conscience with regard to these activities. I don't think you have the right to say that such a person has quenched the Spirit in order to do what they want to do. It troubles me that you would say such a thing.
