The type of guy I am looking for is one that does not drink, smoke, or do drugs, doesn't have or want kids but wants to get married. Do you think me finding someone like this is likely? I've found guys similar to this but they wanted kids or didn't want to wait until marriage to have sex.
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Waiting Until Marriage?
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Likely? yes it is because believe it or not that description is me exactly lol So if that kind of person you found on here exists he is out there trust me. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places for all u know he could live a few houses away. Broaden your search try new things meet new ppl thats a good way to find him
Obadiah
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If by going out you mean to bars or clubs to look for guys, well that's a wise choice on your part. At least my experience from a guy's perspective is that most unattached guys going to those kind of places are looking for sex. They will deny that if they think that's what the girl wants to hear, and they may even be open to a real relationship should it happen, but it would be rare indeed to find one in a bar or club who is looking to wait until marriage to have sex.
You may have a bit of a predicament. The idea of waiting for marriage to have sex is primarily a Christian moral (one that even a lot of Christians don't follow anymore even if they say they do). The truly dedicated Christian man who truly does follow this moral will probably also follow the Christian principle of not marrying (or even seriously dating) a non-Christian. The fact that you are a proclaimed non-Christian will make it that much harder for you to find this kind of man. But if you do, you will probably have found a true gem that is worth hanging on to and I wish you the best of luck with this!
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th1b.taylor
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My granddaughter was married this past March and when she met her husband he and she were raised Baptist and were virgins. Both were going to Texas A&M and the day they met he explained he had seen her several years earlier when his Church Family and our shared an event on our grounds.I remember those days and I wasn't a Christian. if one isn't a Christian that loneliness will put one into some bad situations. it did with me. my first time was in adultery.
He had noted her Betrothal Ring to the Christ and fell in love but never saw her again until A&M. He told her the first day he wanted to marry her but that there would be no taking that ring off her finger until he placed his there and there would be no sex... I fell in love with him almost as much as she did. He treated my Special Treasure just the way I wanted her treated and like her family, his are very involved with the running of their Church Worship.
I, being raised, believing why buy the cow when the milk is free, did not enjoy that blessing from God but that is, exactly, what is received by both parties when they enter that covenant with God, just as He intended, a blessing.
That is truly a preceous story my friend
AirDancer
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I agree with Blain, th1b.taylor. Quite the precious story!
th1b.taylor
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They are what she was from her birth to me. They had the guts to be looked down on and to do it God's way and there is a great pressure to become male and female harlots in he American colleges today. But both of them lived their faith and God is rewarding them for it. Both graduated with job in hand.
Yes,God will Bless those who have faith in Him.
Well I don't think I will ever find the right guy for me. And yes I am a non Christian I am not a religious person. I do believe in God and do pray but I don't label myself as a religion or religious type of person or go to church anymore. I listen to a lot of metal, rock, and punk music and that does discuss of the Devil and of God so I know a lot of Christians and religious people don't approve of what I listen or wear so that makes it more difficult I just don't know anymore. I think I am going to give up and stop looking.
Ok.
jasonc
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why does this sound so familiar? perhaps in part I once thought this way.
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jahjahwarrior
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This is the way I see it......
When I was a kid, my parents wouldn't let me play in the street. At the time I didn't understand why. I thought my parents were unfair and wanted to deprive me of fun. But now I realize they were only protecting me from harm. Much of the same applies to us spiritually. God is our heavenly father. And as much as we don't want to admit it, he really does know more about what's best for us than we do. One of the reasons I believe God commands us to save sex for marriage is to protect us from the harm that sex outside of marriage has been clearly proven to be very well capable of (unwanted pregnancies, STDs, etc.). All you have to do is open your eyes and it's obvious that everywhere you go, people with multiple sex partners are fighting STDs, or have kids with different fathers and have all sorts of complications in their lives as a result. Being a mother or father is hard enough work as it is. Just imagine dealing with that responsibility along with visitation rights with one or more fathers (depending on the situation), or not knowing who the father is because the mother likes to sleep around. As a married man, I can assure you sex is a blessing, but it also requires responsibility because that is how babies are conceived and how diseases can be spread if you're not careful. Yours friends who tell you that saving sex for marriage is for "losers" won't tell you that. But yet, we all see the consequences all the time everywhere we go.
When I was a kid, my parents wouldn't let me play in the street. At the time I didn't understand why. I thought my parents were unfair and wanted to deprive me of fun. But now I realize they were only protecting me from harm. Much of the same applies to us spiritually. God is our heavenly father. And as much as we don't want to admit it, he really does know more about what's best for us than we do. One of the reasons I believe God commands us to save sex for marriage is to protect us from the harm that sex outside of marriage has been clearly proven to be very well capable of (unwanted pregnancies, STDs, etc.). All you have to do is open your eyes and it's obvious that everywhere you go, people with multiple sex partners are fighting STDs, or have kids with different fathers and have all sorts of complications in their lives as a result. Being a mother or father is hard enough work as it is. Just imagine dealing with that responsibility along with visitation rights with one or more fathers (depending on the situation), or not knowing who the father is because the mother likes to sleep around. As a married man, I can assure you sex is a blessing, but it also requires responsibility because that is how babies are conceived and how diseases can be spread if you're not careful. Yours friends who tell you that saving sex for marriage is for "losers" won't tell you that. But yet, we all see the consequences all the time everywhere we go.
presidente
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I know it's an old thread, but I wanted to respond to the OP.
If you want to get married, why do you think you are too young to marry? If you are going to be life-long celibate for the glory of God, go for it. But if not, 26 or 27 is kind of the age for marriage in our culture, which has kind of a late marriage age.
Paul said to marry to prevent fornication, so if it's a temptation, it's good to marry. But you kind of have to have the guy who wants to marry you, and if no suitable man has proposed, then it makes it a bit hard to marry.
Fornication is a sin against God. God judges fornicators, and it is God's will for believers that they abstain from fornication.
Logically, it makes sense, too. What are the negative affects of fornication?
1. Children raised without both parents.
2. Murder (abortion.)
3. Diseases.
4. Higher divorce rates after marriage.
No birth control is 100%, and way back when, they didn't have the birth control they have now anyway. When a couple has intercourse, they are engaging in a reproductive activity. Children not raised in two-parent homes have a lot of disadvantages, statistically, compared to those raised in a two parent home.
Many women who get pregnant out of wedlock choose to go to a doctor and have the doctor murder the baby in the womb. Just ethically, fornication is a bad thing to do.
There are also lots of STDs. People focus on the lethal on, AIDS, but there are lots and lots of other ones.
There was a 1990 study in the Journal of Marriage and Family, a peer reviewed journal, by Teachman, that showed that women who only had one sex partner were much less likely to suffer 'marital disruption.' So virgins had a much, much lower chance of divorce after marriage than non-virgins. The effect only showed for female virgins in the research.
I think part of it is because sex is a bonding experience for women. Bonding physically with multiple men has negative effects on women. I saw an article recently that showed that virgins at marriage were much more satisfied with their marriages after marriage.
So keep your virginity until marriage, then let loose and enjoy your husband.
If you want to get married, why do you think you are too young to marry? If you are going to be life-long celibate for the glory of God, go for it. But if not, 26 or 27 is kind of the age for marriage in our culture, which has kind of a late marriage age.
Paul said to marry to prevent fornication, so if it's a temptation, it's good to marry. But you kind of have to have the guy who wants to marry you, and if no suitable man has proposed, then it makes it a bit hard to marry.
Fornication is a sin against God. God judges fornicators, and it is God's will for believers that they abstain from fornication.
Logically, it makes sense, too. What are the negative affects of fornication?
1. Children raised without both parents.
2. Murder (abortion.)
3. Diseases.
4. Higher divorce rates after marriage.
No birth control is 100%, and way back when, they didn't have the birth control they have now anyway. When a couple has intercourse, they are engaging in a reproductive activity. Children not raised in two-parent homes have a lot of disadvantages, statistically, compared to those raised in a two parent home.
Many women who get pregnant out of wedlock choose to go to a doctor and have the doctor murder the baby in the womb. Just ethically, fornication is a bad thing to do.
There are also lots of STDs. People focus on the lethal on, AIDS, but there are lots and lots of other ones.
There was a 1990 study in the Journal of Marriage and Family, a peer reviewed journal, by Teachman, that showed that women who only had one sex partner were much less likely to suffer 'marital disruption.' So virgins had a much, much lower chance of divorce after marriage than non-virgins. The effect only showed for female virgins in the research.
I think part of it is because sex is a bonding experience for women. Bonding physically with multiple men has negative effects on women. I saw an article recently that showed that virgins at marriage were much more satisfied with their marriages after marriage.
So keep your virginity until marriage, then let loose and enjoy your husband.