My wife and I have been together or a few years now and we have several beautiful children. Our marriage is good, and we are a great team. Most days I think about how we are each others best friends and nothing could come between us. We are young, only now getting into our 30's so I'm excited to see how the rest of my life pans out with her. Anyway, the reason for the post is this... I was raised by parents who knew their roles. Dad was the hunter and mom was the gatherer. Dad worked his butt off and mom took care of EVERYTHING else there was. I barely remember her complaining about her role in life. It was her duty, and her duty could never be completed if it wasn't for my dad bringing home money. But my mom wasn't just the caregiver or the bill payer or dinner maker..she was sexually submissive as well and I only know this because later in life she admitted little things here and there over the years. Dad was happy in his marriage and so was mom. Going on 14 years now and still strong. My wife cooks like a champ. She cleans like a champ too but I want something more out of her. I want her to be subservient to me. 100% without question or nagging. I can say this without feeling bad because I believe I deserve it and I'll tell you why... 1. I have never given up on her or our kids no matter what's happened or didn't happen. 2. I have always made sure there was some sort of income even if it meant stooping down to taking out some else's trash. 3. I took on the responsibility of raising her three kids from two other fathers, one of which causes a lot of drama and the other was the source of my insecurities for quite some time. 4. I left my home behind and my family to stay in this state and start a life with her. 5. I have always tried to build her up and support her in everything she does, including work and school and motherhood. 6. I defend her honor against her family, who treats her rotten. 7. I love her the ways she has always deserved to be loved 8. I spoil her with compliments, gifts and attention as much as possible. 9. I help her with as much as I can when I'm not working or tasked out. 10. I'm fair, loyal and faithful. 11. I keep her in the loop and always discuss things with her before they happen. 12. I make her laugh and I have the patience of a saint. There are probably more but the list is already long enough. You get the point. Based off that list, I feel like I deserve to be treated the way I want. I have done nothing but right and good things. Even when I did mess up, I admitted it, took my punishment and made up for it x10 over. I have defended my country, I have been a wonderful father and a magnificent husband. I want her to be subservient in life and in bed. I feel like she is only giving me 50% of what I want.