Want my wife to be subservient to me, having small issues.

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  1. calvin

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  2. Edward

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    It doesn't sound right, does it? But many times, it is true. It may have just been a bad way way to voice it. But anothers actions and attitudes are directly related to what we do, think and say. This universe and all that's in it has entanglement. Quantum Physics has shown this. So what one party desires in another can only be achieved if they themselves are doing the same thing.

    Quantum entanglement is where they have two particles which are the same, when one is removed and taken to another place, it is still stimulated by the the corresponding particle. If the particles are spinning clockwise, then one removed and then the first particle is stimulated to spin counter clockwise, then the other particle will begin to spin counter clockwise also. Take this for instance;

    2 Chronicles 7:14
    14 if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.../

    This also ties in with Deuteronomy 30:11-19
    11 For this commandment which I command thee this day, it is not hidden from thee, neither is it far off.

    12 It is not in heaven, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go up for us to heaven, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it?

    13 Neither is it beyond the sea, that thou shouldest say, Who shall go over the sea for us, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it?

    14 But the word is very nigh unto thee, in thy mouth, and in thy heart, that thou mayest do it.

    15 See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil;

    16 In that I command thee this day to love the Lord thy God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commandments and his statutes and his judgments, that thou mayest live and multiply: and the Lord thy God shall bless thee in the land whither thou goest to possess it.

    17 But if thine heart turn away, so that thou wilt not hear, but shalt be drawn away, and worship other gods, and serve them;

    18 I denounce unto you this day, that ye shall surely perish, and that ye shall not prolong your days upon the land, whither thou passest over Jordan to go to possess it.

    19 I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:.../

    Now the 2nd Chronicles scripture is very interesting and tells us how it works. There's four big "if's" in there, that's a lot. If a man wants forgiven and a healed land (or more subservience from his wife), there's if's involved. If the husband want that, he has to do four things, humble himself, pray, seek God's face, and turn from his wicked ways. This is him stimulating his quantum self to spin in a particular direction, then the wife would not have any choice but to do the same thing. Then he would get what he wants. But that is a lot of if's, and he didn't seem to consider that in order for her to be as he desires, then he too must be the same. It's not that he doesn't have the right to expect it from her, but rather, it would be unrealistic for him to expect her to make this change without him also making changes.

    This is not unrealistic. Everything we think about, do or say, all effects everyone in the world and they will respond accordingly. Love is a one way street technically, you can love someone and will love them and continue to love them regardless of what they think feel or say to you...however, if you want to see a change in how they feel or behave towards you...then certain things would need to happen to stimulate that response. It is all a choice. Love is a choice. Faithful husband is the spiritual leader of the home, so it upon him to set the example to lead her, and there's just no way of doing it in a lazy way, expecting (whatever), without first giving whatever. He himself must choose for her to be subservient and then, if, if, if, if. He must then choose to be this same thing for her that he desires from her. If he chooses wisely, then she would not be able to resist this love, and consequently would grow into the wife that he desires. Choose life. Any other choice is death and will not work.

    So the very thing that he desires from her...he needs to look in the mirror and ask himself, how can I be this to her?!
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    Just do it. :biggrin
     
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  3. Hermit

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    First and last of all. Nobody has the right to claim somebody for themselves. This includes expectations.
    It is a shame you do not understand unconditional love. It's ALL about giving of yourself without expecting anything in return.

    If you expect a return, then what you gave was conditional, a deception, like baiting and blackmail to get a return for your investments.
    Conditional love is not loving at all. It is pretending in the hope of getting something in return. This hoping is a perpetual state of dissatisfaction.

    If you truly love someone, it is giving all from your heart to their heart. It is loving the love that loves you. It really is not about the person as such, but their heart consciousness, which originated from Truth. It is loving their truth, and in doing so you surrender to it. You surrender all your fears of self missing out on something for self.
     
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    Did you have more luck on this Christian Forum?
    You seem to be hitting them all with this list and your narcissistic perspective.
    I smiled when i read that you listed as #12, that you have the "patience of a saint".
    Apparently you lost it just before you wrote this selfish self centered list.

    Personally, i smell a TROLL.

    I'll leave it at that..


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  5. Windsong

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    Sounds like the kind of relationship where for Christmas, anniversary. wife birthday, he buys her a household cleaning appliance. Vacuum, fancy mop set, etc....

    "I Robot". Great movie. I recommend. Till then, my prayers to all wives of husbands that want robots.
     
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  6. jasonc

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    I'm not the best husband, but yeah .wife ,you must ..she would reply,I owe you? Am I your slave? go buy a whore.
     
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  7. Windsong

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    My husband has friends who ask their wives to "let" them go fishing, play poker, whatever.
    My husband hearing this for some time when hanging out with the guys decided to try that with me. :lol He's a funny guy.

    Let.
    I'm your wife not yer mum.
     
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    I just read the OP. My Troll Detector is in the red zone - and I have the full-tilt $399 Troll Detector you need an FCC license to operate, not one of the $29 battery-operated Troll Detectors you buy at Target. That post is too well-crafted to represent the genuine sentiments of the poster. I personally have no doubt the sole purpose was to see if supposed Christians would buy the act and fall into the trap. If it was genuine, I have a new Exhibit A for The Marriage From Hell.
     
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  9. Winter Tapioca

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    Dude, you don't need a wife. You need a dog.
    Any man threatened by a strong woman has a lot of growing up to do.
     
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  10. Winter Tapioca

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    The guy has four posts? I'd say you got your money's worth on that detector brother.
    Don't these type threads start in Christian forums as either this theme or the masturbation one's? Purely for shock value of the fundys.
    Sad life to go to that kind of posting trouble that makes the poster the one that looks like a punk.
     

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