What else do women find attractive?

[lovely]

I think it's hard to generalize about what women find attractive, because it's so subjective. It's different for every woman, and then with every woman that list may change with each season of her life. For a believing man, if it's the right woman, then she is wise enough to look for Christ in him.

I once dated a guy because he reminded me of Shaggy from Scooby Doo. Turns out he was not laid back and easy going, like I thought Shaggy should be, but instead he was constantly checking his watch and telling me what his future plans for 'us' were...it's the first date! Why was I looking for someone laid back and easy going? It was a reaction to a former relationship I'd had with a jealous guy. God is SO merciful...to me, and to him!

I think it's best to be attactive to God first, by loving and being like Christ, and then see who God brings into our lives that is attracted to Christ in us...that may be a way to avoid some dumb girl who is just dating you because you reminder her of a cartoon character, or because you have a neat car, or because you can blow a bubble inside a bubble, etc.

 

[sherri2]

I think it's hard to generalize about what women find attractive, because it's so subjective. It's different for every woman, and then with every woman that list may change with each season of her life.

That's true. The essentials might not (if she doesn't at her core) but a lot of the orbiting ideas might.

 

[Keri]

To the OP.

I think it depends on the girl. Some girls want a big muscular guy. Other girls want an athletic guy or a thin guy or a short guy. But the same goes for what guys want. Not all guys want a supermodel or a super thin girl. Some guys perfer curves, other guys perfer an athletic girl. It's all personal preference.

A woman will come along who loves you for exactly who you are, not what other people think you should be.

 

[lamplady]

To the OP.

I think it depends on the girl. Some girls want a big muscular guy. Other girls want an athletic guy or a thin guy or a short guy. But the same goes for what guys want. Not all guys want a supermodel or a super thin girl. Some guys perfer curves, other guys perfer an athletic girl. It's all personal preference.

A woman will come along who loves you for exactly who you are, not what other people think you should be.

Yeah I suppose all of us may say what we'd like, then if ever we meet someone, they'd most likely be the total opposite of what we said ... ...

 

[sherri2]

I've always found that it tended to change according to the guy I liked at the time anyway.

The outside, not the inside.

 

[Ashua]

I usually wouldn't post in a 'romantic" topic, but I am compelled to defend the mullet. (I don't have one but still.)

Yeah, most mullets are white trash, but every once in a while a glorious mullet pops up.

Excellent mullet

Chuck Norris representing

Even pinkos look good in a mullet.

The King of mullets and perhaps the greatest of all time: Big Boss/Solid Snake

If I could grow Big Boss's magnificent flaring mullet, I would. These are mullets done right. Not the trailer park/'80's rock star variety. Oh and beware the skullet.

 

[LaurenNicole]

Gotta admit, you're right. Never thought I'd ever like a mullet, but ashua, your first picture changed my mind. That one's not too bad! Other than that, though, I'd have to say no to a mullet. I know it all depends on the person, but I still don't like mullets in general (except for the one I just talked about).

 

[JohnEboy1983]

After reading this thread, I am seriously thinking about becoming a jerk. I am always the listening ear and nice guy to women but I have been single for quite a while. Even if someone became interested in me I find out it doesnt take long for them to get bored with me, probably because I am too focused on not getting to close to women alone because I was in hope God would provide the one women that would ever matter, but that just hasnt happened. Although I am an athletic person who is very competetive and would lay down my life for my family and would have a fight to protect mentality, I just think women view me as Mr. Nice Guy. Or Mr. Over Sensitive or Mr. Boring(only because I am trying to follow God and not have many women as friends or get to close in person). Its either 1. I need to switch over to jerk mode, 2. God is keeping the right person for me, or 3. God doesnt want me with anybody. The only problem about being a jerk for me is its not natural for me to be that way, but I definitely have a jerk inside me thats going to go rampant someday, lol. Im seriously doubting whether I should continue to follow the advice I have heard from my friends who are all married and that is, dont have women as friends or get to close. Im only seriously thinking its keeping me single. And the last thing I will refuse to listen women say to me is......I want a nice guy.

 

[Alabaster]

After reading this thread, I am seriously thinking about becoming a jerk. I am always the listening ear and nice guy to women but I have been single for quite a while. Even if someone became interested in me I find out it doesnt take long for them to get bored with me, probably because I am too focused on not getting to close to women alone because I was in hope God would provide the one women that would ever matter, but that just hasnt happened. Although I am an athletic person who is very competetive and would lay down my life for my family and would have a fight to protect mentality, I just think women view me as Mr. Nice Guy. Or Mr. Over Sensitive or Mr. Boring(only because I am trying to follow God and not have many women as friends or get to close in person). Its either 1. I need to switch over to jerk mode, 2. God is keeping the right person for me, or 3. God doesnt want me with anybody. The only problem about being a jerk for me is its not natural for me to be that way, but I definitely have a jerk inside me thats going to go rampant someday, lol. Im seriously doubting whether I should continue to follow the advice I have heard from my friends who are all married and that is, dont have women as friends or get to close. Im only seriously thinking its keeping me single. And the last thing I will refuse to listen women say to me is......I want a nice guy.

But I married one of you nice guys....

 

[Sakura]

Do girls want a guy who is ruff 'n' tuff, big 'n' buff? I have been turned down by girls before because I am not a macho muscle man.

Every girl is different. Be the man you want to be and there will be a woman who is attracted to that.

Me: I'm not too into big n buff but I'd love a big brain and an average ego

 

[TRUTH over TRADITION]

ORDER.

Order is perhaps the most attractve feature a person can have. A woman wants a man who's life in is order, who does things the right way, and is confident in his walk because he has put in the work and research necessary to ensure that his walk is what it should be.

 

[reba]

Every girl is different. Be the man you want to be and there will be a woman who is attracted to that.

Me: I'm not too into big n buff but I'd love a big brain and an average ego

They have and average egos?

 

[Sakura]

They have and average egos?

I'm not into overinflated egos but maybe average is not the right word

 

[bugglebee]

Hahaha. I'll admit it. I used to be the girl who wanted the athletic, gorgeous, smart, McDreamy kind of guy. It's what I always pictured. And, when I met my current boyfriend three years ago, the thought of dating him never crossed my mind. He was creative, artistic, quiet, and looked nothing like the person I had pictured in my mind. But, in just a few short hours of talking to him, I realized that the star of the football team isn't what I wanted at all. My prince charming didn't meet MY expectations at all. But, I know with everything that I have, that God put him in my life and that's why he EXCEEDED my expectations. Take my word for it, women don't know what they want until it's right. And when it's right, you KNOW it's right. There will be no question about it.

 

[Pizzaguy]

Do girls want a guy who is ruff 'n' tuff, big 'n' buff? I have been turned down by girls before because I am not a macho muscle man.

All women (girls) are different. Look at my avatar, I'm 50 and I now can attract women easier than EVER BEFORE in my life. (Yea, weird huh - been the 'lonesome loser most of my life.)

I am not "big and buff" at all, but I am very slim and work out a lot. My current "lady" has told me that she finds me sexy in three ways. The first is obvious (well, not to us here, you'd have to see me in jeans...)'

It's the second two that I just could not understand at first.

"You take care of things"... What this means is that I, well, take care of stuff. One day, we were at an airport and had just landed. We went to get the rental car, I told her, "Wait here, gotta follow this guy to our car, be right back". I went and filled out the paper, did the inspection, etc. Came back driving the car and off we went. No big deal, right?

Wrong. She said that many men just didn't do that, didn't LEAD, didn't take initiative. This of course, is built upon other experiences with me that made her see this. (Like she came home one day to find me at her house, up on the roof sealing the leaks around the vents. It was hard, I'm scared of heights).

"You stood me up cause you were working..." We had a date, but she knew ahead of time I was on call. A call came in, and I had to put off our mid-day date by about 4 hours. She liked that, as so many men don't want to work, or can't hold a job.

So, just being me works! (Again, odd, since it didn't START working until my late 40's. I'll bet some women on here can explain it.)