Who is in charge

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  1. Daniel L Newhouse

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    Who is in charge of the home?
     
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    Hi Daniel, first off, WELCOME TO CF :)

    As for your question, I'll let St. Paul answer it for you.

    There is much in this passage that needs to be carefully considered and understood, which includes both the duties of the wife to her husband as well the duties of the husband to his wife.

    Marriage Like Christ and the Church

    22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
    23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.
    24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
    25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
    26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
    27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.
    28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;
    29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,
    30 because we are members of His body.
    31 FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.
    32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.
    33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. ~Ephesians 5

    Yours and His,
    David


    "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but
    the husband does; and likewise also the husband
    does not have authority over his own
    body, but the wife does"

    1 Cor 7:4
     
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    I can't say for sure who is in charge of any one person's home but it should be God.
     
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    Or there is going to be trouble.

    I've seen just about every kind of poor marriage under the sun. I've seen some that last a lifetime too. But a lifetime of a poor marriage is not my idea of a good time.

    The husband is supposed to be the leader of the house and the wife the executor of that leadership. She gives the Leadership role to her husband and he doesn't boss her around but instead is a servant leader. As a team they chase after Christ.

    I have very seldom ever "put my foot down" and demanded anything. But when I do, it is done because of the huge volume of acts of leadership and love I demonstrate for the family on a consistent basis. I don't have to explain myself all the time but I often do because I am looking for better ideas to accomplish goals. I want the goals...she helps. And I keep the goals general and not specific. (Mostly).

    I have an entire family to look out for...no one is not important. I'm not allowed to lose a single one.
     
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    Ephesians 5:22-33 puts a huge obligation on the husband to love his wife AS Christ loves the Church. That is a tall order. I've been among Godly men who somehow took scripture to say he should have authority over whatever is done in his house. I've always understood the husband's role to be one of spiritual leadership as opposed to the one who makes the rules. I believe we are creating strife by using scripture to exert our will.

    As others have said, it is Christ who should be leading our homes.
     
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    Yup i agree with you guys... :)
     
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    Is a husband entitle to sex with his wife?
     
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    1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
    1Co 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
    1Co 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
    1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
     
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