handy
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Guy's, I've had several conversations with several people lately about wifely submission. It's a topic in the Ladies' Locker Room and we women do try to help our sisters with this concept.
What the purpose of this thread is is to take a look at this subject from the husband's POV.
Now, I realize that in some circles, wifely submission is tantamount to suppression of women, demeaning and downright horrible.
But, those of us who know the bible, know this isn't true. I think that wifely submission is an important part of any Christian marriage, and that there is a negative impact when the wife doesn't submit.
I do think that submission is something that husbands and wives work out together...in my marriage wifely submission means that we look over things, we discuss, we compromise when possible...and when the rubber meets the road, when a decision has to be made and we are not in agreement...we go his way.
Most of the time, we are in agreement, but not always, not for the entire 13 years.
There was a time when I was NOT submitting to Steve's wishes about something, and it became a frustrating time for us. Once I submitted, it was amazing how God began to move in him. I eventually got far more than I ever did by not submitting.
So, I'd like to ask a few questions of you husbands...
What is it like for you when you wife just will not submit about something?
Have you ever been in a situation where you truly felt God leading you to lead your family in one direction just to meet opposition from your wife? If so, how did it impact your marriage and how did you get through it?
Have you ever been at the point of thinking that the marriage just wasn't going to survive because you and your wife were constantly at odds about different things? How did it get resolved, or did it even get resolved?
Please keep in mind what this thread is NOT about...it is NOT about the husband's responsibility to love his wife as Christ loved the church. I know that is of utmost importance...
...but, it seems, probably because of political correctness, that men sort of "hide" behind going to "I must love my wife like Jesus loved the church and give up for her" and not truly deal with what it is like to deal with an un-submissive, un-cooperative wife.
I truly want some insight into what a Christian man, who want's to live by biblical principles and be the spiritual head of his household goes through when the wife isn't on board.
What the purpose of this thread is is to take a look at this subject from the husband's POV.
Now, I realize that in some circles, wifely submission is tantamount to suppression of women, demeaning and downright horrible.
But, those of us who know the bible, know this isn't true. I think that wifely submission is an important part of any Christian marriage, and that there is a negative impact when the wife doesn't submit.
I do think that submission is something that husbands and wives work out together...in my marriage wifely submission means that we look over things, we discuss, we compromise when possible...and when the rubber meets the road, when a decision has to be made and we are not in agreement...we go his way.
Most of the time, we are in agreement, but not always, not for the entire 13 years.
There was a time when I was NOT submitting to Steve's wishes about something, and it became a frustrating time for us. Once I submitted, it was amazing how God began to move in him. I eventually got far more than I ever did by not submitting.
So, I'd like to ask a few questions of you husbands...
What is it like for you when you wife just will not submit about something?
Have you ever been in a situation where you truly felt God leading you to lead your family in one direction just to meet opposition from your wife? If so, how did it impact your marriage and how did you get through it?
Have you ever been at the point of thinking that the marriage just wasn't going to survive because you and your wife were constantly at odds about different things? How did it get resolved, or did it even get resolved?
Please keep in mind what this thread is NOT about...it is NOT about the husband's responsibility to love his wife as Christ loved the church. I know that is of utmost importance...
...but, it seems, probably because of political correctness, that men sort of "hide" behind going to "I must love my wife like Jesus loved the church and give up for her" and not truly deal with what it is like to deal with an un-submissive, un-cooperative wife.
I truly want some insight into what a Christian man, who want's to live by biblical principles and be the spiritual head of his household goes through when the wife isn't on board.