heavensuitcase
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Greetings all,
Grab a chair - I have a story to tell...
After having been married to my wife for 12 years, she's decided she's not in love with me anymore... so she wants to separate, and ultimately divorce. I did everything I could to try to re-kickstart the marriage, but she's not interested.
I became interested in spiritual growth in 2005 and have become kinder, more compassionate, more equanimous etc... but my atheist wife seems more interested in superficial things than morality and personal development, which to her seem a bore and a drag.
So that now leaves me as a 34 year old with the option to follow my life's "Plan B"... and that is to become a Buddhist monk. I could go into my reasons, but they're not really the point... let's just say that if a man left regular life to join the Church as a clegyman, minister etc. he would have deep and profound spiritual reasons for doing so. Likewise, so do I.
(So why is he asking these questions on Christian forum? I'll get to that bit soon... )
The one sticking point to all this, is that there's someone that needs me - my son - he is 8. Becoming a Buddhist monk, I would still be accessible to him, and could play a strong mentoring role in his life, but obviously there would be constraints.
I was explaining about my marriage break up to a Christian friend of mine. She's a single mother who has absolutely turned her life around for the positive through living a life in accord with Jesus and the Bible. Her minister has done wonders for her, and she too ought be praised for following a spiritual path to self improvement.
She too has someone who needs her - her daughter. She is 8. She goes to the same school as my son. I told her my plans to enter the holy life as a Buddhist monk and (after getting her head around it) her reaction was "Good for you!" - she thought it was excellent that I was pursuing my faith further, and she too said that were it not for her daughter, she would be able to give herself first and foremost to Jesus. She looks forward to the day her daughter is a grown up and this is what she could do.
Over the last few days, all the random pieces of the puzzle in my head have started to take shape - an interesting shape... and I wanted to get some second opinions from you.
This woman and I both have one 8 year old children each, and these children are our #1 priorities for the next 10 years. After that, we both want to commit ourselves more fully to our respective faiths, once that responsibility of parenting to adulthood has been fully discharged. How then, would it be regarded for me to propose that her and I establish a "co-parenting household" together? One in which we can work together to raise our respective children together (albeit my son only there half the time or so) in a kind, caring, household, focused on moral and spiritual values. Exactly what the relationship between the woman and myself would be, I don't know, but it would only be a temporary arrangement of 10 years maximum, at which point we could go our separate ways.
I want to speak to her on Saturday about this proposal because time is tight... I've already 'verbally' resigned from work, and am otherwise about to commence the road to ordination as a Buddhist monk. It seems a serendipitous possibility, completely out of leftfield - so... what do you make of it? A house of love, or an abomination and an affront to God? Please share your thoughts.
With kindness,
HS.
Grab a chair - I have a story to tell...
After having been married to my wife for 12 years, she's decided she's not in love with me anymore... so she wants to separate, and ultimately divorce. I did everything I could to try to re-kickstart the marriage, but she's not interested.
I became interested in spiritual growth in 2005 and have become kinder, more compassionate, more equanimous etc... but my atheist wife seems more interested in superficial things than morality and personal development, which to her seem a bore and a drag.
So that now leaves me as a 34 year old with the option to follow my life's "Plan B"... and that is to become a Buddhist monk. I could go into my reasons, but they're not really the point... let's just say that if a man left regular life to join the Church as a clegyman, minister etc. he would have deep and profound spiritual reasons for doing so. Likewise, so do I.
(So why is he asking these questions on Christian forum? I'll get to that bit soon... )
The one sticking point to all this, is that there's someone that needs me - my son - he is 8. Becoming a Buddhist monk, I would still be accessible to him, and could play a strong mentoring role in his life, but obviously there would be constraints.
I was explaining about my marriage break up to a Christian friend of mine. She's a single mother who has absolutely turned her life around for the positive through living a life in accord with Jesus and the Bible. Her minister has done wonders for her, and she too ought be praised for following a spiritual path to self improvement.
She too has someone who needs her - her daughter. She is 8. She goes to the same school as my son. I told her my plans to enter the holy life as a Buddhist monk and (after getting her head around it) her reaction was "Good for you!" - she thought it was excellent that I was pursuing my faith further, and she too said that were it not for her daughter, she would be able to give herself first and foremost to Jesus. She looks forward to the day her daughter is a grown up and this is what she could do.
Over the last few days, all the random pieces of the puzzle in my head have started to take shape - an interesting shape... and I wanted to get some second opinions from you.
This woman and I both have one 8 year old children each, and these children are our #1 priorities for the next 10 years. After that, we both want to commit ourselves more fully to our respective faiths, once that responsibility of parenting to adulthood has been fully discharged. How then, would it be regarded for me to propose that her and I establish a "co-parenting household" together? One in which we can work together to raise our respective children together (albeit my son only there half the time or so) in a kind, caring, household, focused on moral and spiritual values. Exactly what the relationship between the woman and myself would be, I don't know, but it would only be a temporary arrangement of 10 years maximum, at which point we could go our separate ways.
I want to speak to her on Saturday about this proposal because time is tight... I've already 'verbally' resigned from work, and am otherwise about to commence the road to ordination as a Buddhist monk. It seems a serendipitous possibility, completely out of leftfield - so... what do you make of it? A house of love, or an abomination and an affront to God? Please share your thoughts.
With kindness,
HS.