Nikki,
One day at a time.
Don't look at the gloom of what her future will be like. You don't know her future. Hold onto the positive outlook of this babies future. Your intervention alone may not determine if this baby's future will be neglected or not. I'm sure God has a plan for this baby just as much as any other person. Sometimes we don't' understand what is happening, but remember Romans 8:28. Nikki, rely on the positive in the scripture. Keep them close to you. Grab hold of the positive in the scriptures to bring you contentment in the outcome of these peoples lives. i.e., your 13 year old niece and this baby and every one else in your life.
Grab those scriptures and read them every time you start to worry about them! Speak the "good" scriptures to influence by example.
Don't worry about a negative outcome if you don't intervene. I think you just want to rescue everyone from potential harm.
Just keep the faith that God's Will, will be done. Hang onto hope in the goodness of the Lord Jesus. Read those positive scriptures when you fear the worst future for someone! search the bible for them! Keep a daily devotional of positive scriptures that will help you stop the fear of someone having a negative future. Yes, it is good to be concerned, but you need to look on the good side of it, in the midst of the horrifying things you see. We live by faith, not by sight! Trust God. Keep the Faith and Hope for the best. Jesus saves. all you can do is speak the Word to them. You can't change their action if they choose contrary to what you think should be happening to them. That is up to God to do. You can only speak the word to them. And hope for the best. Stop worrying about the negative future you see. Don't see their future as negative! You don't know their future. Pray for this baby and your 13 year old niece. I hope you don't think you are their only hope. Leave that up to God.
Talk to your pastor. I am thinking you are involved with so many other people's lives outside of your own immediate family, your niece, and now this little baby. It is nice that you are so concerned for them, but don't think you are responsible for every bad thing that comes their way. You can't protect the whole world Nikki. All you can do is be there and be a good influence by example of how you direct your own step on a daily basis. Be careful you aren't meddling. Not to say that you are, but there is a very thin line between meddling and being concerned. If your concerns are disrupting their lives by direct interference outside of how they choose to run their families, then you need to be very careful. Be an influence yes, and pray for them and invite them to church and be pleasantly social. But be careful of that thin line. Your husband, is he a church goer? If not then just respect his choice, and talk to your pastor about your concern about your husband and his choices.
Talk to your pastor. Does your church have good counseling? They know you best. Does your pastor know your sister (in regards to your 13 year old niece, in that other instance) and this person that has had this bi-racial baby? Nikki, all you can do is show a good influence of your love without interfering with their lives to the point of ruining your own relationship with your family and theirs.
I don't know how much you are involved with the direction they take in their own lives. And I'm not saying you are meddling. I'm just saying please consider their choices and let it be and love them when you see them. If you need to go to authorities for abusive situations, then talk to your pastor and ask him if it needs to be done.
And just
go one day at a time.
It's amazing what even just one day in the life of a person or persons can do! There is a thin line between self righteousness and justice and indignation and injustice one person might think about another.
Be care of that line you walk. Seems to me you're on a tight-rope in regards to your 13 year old niece and now, IF you want to bring this child into your family without your husbands approval it would be making the tension increase. and you will be again, in a bit too deep. If you want to see the baby and be an influence on this baby then do without throwing it in your husbands face.
Talk to your pastor and ask him the best way to be involved in this babies life without offending your husband.
Most importantly! Do you have a pastor you can talk to? Nikki, does your church have any individual pastors you can talk to and or programs that would help you with your own immediate and other peoples family situations?
You seem like a very caring person. In that you care about other peoples families and what happens with them. So sorry you are so torn between the affairs of others. I'll pray for your peace and contentment in trusting the good will of the Lord God. Know that trusting God to make things work out for the better will be key to your reactions about these situations.
Trust God to work it out in the midst of your having a difficult time about it all! In God's timing. Not your own. But in God's timing.
Talk to your pastor. Do you respect your pastors opinion?
Have you even considered talking to your pastor?
It's great that you ask those on this board what to do, but we don't know you personally. You have gotten some sound advice here and some advice that is on border of being dangerous to the healthy outcome of your relationships with your family members.
Again, it's a tight rope you are walking with this being concerned for another family member outside of your immediate family and wanting to be the one who rescues them all from potential harm. Are you worrying too much? and not giving it to God?
Don't jeapordize your relationship with your immediate family. Your husband and your children are your immediate family. Your sister and your nieces are your family, but that is outside of your control. You can help them by talking to your pastor and asking your pastor how much you should be involved in their family affairs.
Bless you Nikki. I know how you are aching to help others.
I've seen my three nieces go through some touchy situations that I had no control over. They are all grown now and doing fine.
Pray for them. And love them, but be careful you don't cross the line of being in someone elses business too much.
Yes, you need to be concerned, but sometimes, you can get pulled in too deep, and then you need to talk to a professional as to how much you should be doing or not doing, in these types of situations. This is when you need to talk to your pastor and or counselor at church. Can you trust your church to help you decide what to do?.
Ask your pastor if there are any church programs you can invite them to that are related to their situational needs.
God bless you Nikki. Be concerned, yes, but be careful not to do too much of what someone else should be doing.
One day at a time makes a whole world of a difference.
Again, talk to you pastor. Can you do that?
Please don't think I'm assuming you are doing the wrong things.
I don't know you well enough to know what is going on really.
That's why I say talk to a pastor that knows you.
Peace be with you all.
Pardon this long letter.
You are in my prayers.
Know that Faith and Hope and Trust in the in the Lord are the focus.
Trust God will work it out. In His time.
Talk to a pastor in the meantime.
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