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YOUR son piercing his ear(s): would you let him?
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westtexas
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It's been a few years ago now but my son wanted his ear pierced for as long as I can remember. We had it pierced and got him a small diamond earring for his high school graduation present. He still wears it, I guess he has no regrets. It comes out real easy if he ever does.
Westtexas
Westtexas
farouk
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westtexas:
Nice story about your gift for your son at his high school graduation.
So I guess he must have been very grateful, right? I see he only wanted one ear done.
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farouk
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handy:
Wow, so I guess for your son it all hinges on just one percentage point between you and your husband. Does your son have a preference himself, maybe? and if he stated it would it influence you or your husband in your decision by just 1 or 2 %, maybe?
You guys have a great Christmas as well remember the coming into the world of the Savior.
handy
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I don't see my hubby ever budging on this one. I think it has to do with the fact that his brother was gay and wearing an earring used to be kind of a "signal" with gay men in their area. Sort of a "rainbow flag" years ago. So, guys and earrings just have a bad connotation to my hubby. And, since he's the dad and the husband, he gets the extra percentage point.
Seriously, it wouldn't bother me if my son got an earring. It truly wouldn't. But, since it would bother his dad, he really can't do it.
Seriously, it wouldn't bother me if my son got an earring. It truly wouldn't. But, since it would bother his dad, he really can't do it.
farouk
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handy:
Well you guys must know what works for your family.
I guess it's my observation that these days it's almost a tough guy image thing for boys to have them: all the boys who played football in my street happened to have rings in both ears.
It's also probable that quite a proportion of moms these days rather like the look of it for their sons.
Anyhow....(Two cents)
But you guys must know what works best for your family, right?
(PS: Actually some types of earrings are today perceived as being very suitable for men; I saw this article:
"Black diamond earrings for men are amongst the best and latest fashion accessories in the men's fashion world. .. While choosing black diamond earrings for men, you can first decide the base metal used to hold the diamond studs. There are a few options in these which men can consider to opt for. The most popular pick remains gold which looks classy. For men, another best option that is not as feminine as gold is sterling silver." Mamta Mule Buzzle Author )
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Alabaster
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I have only daughters, but if my 13-year-old grandson expressed a wish for an ear piercing, I would of course leave it up to his mom and dad (who wears a gold ring in his ear). My opinion is that the message that is given by a male sporting an earring is not what it once was, but is a fashion accessory today.
followerofchrist76
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Well I am really not very traditional when it comes to matters of apperance (I have multiple tattos, gold teeth,and multiple piercings myself) I allowed my son to pierce his ear last year he was 10. I have also allowed him 2 have a blonde mohawk. These are things I find harmless expressions of ones fashion etc. nothing wrong with this in my opinion. Now I have repeatedly discussed tattos with my son ever since he started to admire his fathers and mine, I do not agree with teens/young adults getting tattos because. what are you ever really sure of as a teen??!!! u should not get a permanent inked on statement until you are wise enough to know if this is something you will want for the rest of your days on earth. But other than tattos I am really liberal with whatever choices my child chooses to make concerning fashion statements. I believe you should be able to express yourself creatively in most ways. Just my 2 cents lol
farouk
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Alabaster:
Well I suppose it could be said that it's basically a pleasant and widespread custom for men and boys, nowadays. (Though even in the Bible some men pierced their ear.)
I reckon too that in a curious way there is even a bit of justice to it, these days, in the sense that because very many ladies will choose to have 2 or 3 rings or studs in each of their own ears, so also for a young man or adolescent, with a mom or sisters who choose to have them, it would seem just a bit unfair if he couldn't in turn have even one tasteful little stud or ring in his ear.
(If this makes any sense, Ms Alabaster....?)
Have a great holiday weekend!
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Alabaster
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The one thing that sticks in my mind about this whole topic is the excellent teaching I once received concerning Jesus at the garden of Gethsemane when the soldiers came for Him. Peter struck out with his sword and rashly sliced off the ear of a servant of the high priest by the name of Malchus.
Jesus simply reached out and touched it and the ear was restored whole.
There is a point that can be made here: in those ancient times, it was customary that a servant would have a piercing to denote to whom he belonged. When his ear was restored, did Jesus restore the mark of ownership that was there?
I believe not. I believe that the ear that Jesus recreated was whole, with no piercing.
In Jesus' way, He was showing how He renews and restores COMPLETELY.
This is the one point that makes me reluctant regarding ear piercings. I would talk to my grandson about this and let him ponder the issue, but alas, he is still unsaved, but expresses a desire to know Jesus. I have faith in God that he will come to Christ!
Jesus simply reached out and touched it and the ear was restored whole.
There is a point that can be made here: in those ancient times, it was customary that a servant would have a piercing to denote to whom he belonged. When his ear was restored, did Jesus restore the mark of ownership that was there?
I believe not. I believe that the ear that Jesus recreated was whole, with no piercing.
In Jesus' way, He was showing how He renews and restores COMPLETELY.
This is the one point that makes me reluctant regarding ear piercings. I would talk to my grandson about this and let him ponder the issue, but alas, he is still unsaved, but expresses a desire to know Jesus. I have faith in God that he will come to Christ!
farouk
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Alabaster:
Oh yes, the main thing is that your grandson exercises saving faith in the Lord Jesus.
Let's pray that he does; I'm sure you do pray a lot for this.
I hadn't quite thought of the interesting aspect you raised, for this thread but it's interesting also that in Psalm 40.6 there is a Messianic reference in 'mine ears hast thou opened' (Hebrew: opened = digged, i.e., pierced), referring to the bondservant who wants to serve his master willingly and had his ear pierced in the Old Testament. Philippians 2.7 also speaks of the Lord Jesus who 'took upon Him the form of a servant'. From at least a symbolic point of view it could be said that His ears were pierced, although whether they were actually is another matter; Scripture is silent, I think.
farouk
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Well I am really not very traditional when it comes to matters of apperance (I have multiple tattos, gold teeth,and multiple piercings myself) I allowed my son to pierce his ear last year he was 10. I have also allowed him 2 have a blonde mohawk. These are things I find harmless expressions of ones fashion etc. nothing wrong with this in my opinion. Now I have repeatedly discussed tattos with my son ever since he started to admire his fathers and mine, I do not agree with teens/young adults getting tattos because. what are you ever really sure of as a teen??!!! u should not get a permanent inked on statement until you are wise enough to know if this is something you will want for the rest of your days on earth. But other than tattos I am really liberal with whatever choices my child chooses to make concerning fashion statements. I believe you should be able to express yourself creatively in most ways. Just my 2 cents lol
followerofchrist76:
Well, go for it, if you like it, as long as their isn't an overriding principle at stake.
(Don't be surprised if he eventually asks for piercings other than ears when he's older, similar to the ones mom has...
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farouk
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Are you a PIRATE???
Igor:
Hey, don't give her a hard time...
Fact is, even some of the so called pirate image stuff has become quite popular in a feminine context; FYI: I saw this article extract:
Skull Tattoos for Women
"The soft and feminine women who want a skull tattoo, opt for skull tattoos which are combined with flowers. The flowers can range from rose to hibiscus to lilies, etc. .. You may opt for skull tattoos surrounded by vines and thorns as well. They mean that you are soft and gentle when required and as hard as a nut to crack at other times. .. If you are a biker woman, you can place your skull tattoo on sleeves as the look great as armband tattoos for women."
But this thread is more about the ear piercing side of things, really (which is now far removed from the pirate image thing, anyway, like it might have been years ago...)
Igor:
Hey, don't give her a hard time...
Nah, no hard time intended, hence the grinning smiley face. As an old time biker and sailor both, I have respected friends that that look similar to her description!
farouk
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PS: Alabaster:
I see, so your son-in-law has one. Like, has he had it done a long time?
maybe you guys are well accustomed to it, bc often once a guy has it done ppl soon get used to it.
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Alabaster
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Yes, he had it in his teens, before he began a relationship with my daughter, and yes, people do get accustomed to it---it is more or less invisible. Everytime it catches my eye, I'm surprised! :o
Maybe I'm just weird, eh?
farouk
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Yes, he had it in his teens, before he began a relationship with my daughter, and yes, people do get accustomed to it---it is more or less invisible. Everytime it catches my eye, I'm surprised! :o
Maybe I'm just weird, eh?
Alabaster:
Weird? not at all...
So you keep noticing it, then. But do you think it suits your son-in-law? (Do you actually like it?)
I think you said your grandson doesn't have one yet.
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Alabaster
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Alabaster:
Weird? not at all...
So you keep noticing it, then. But do you think it suits your son-in-law? (Do you actually like it?)
I think you said your grandson doesn't have one yet.
I notice it periodically, and guess what? It is attractive! Yes, my grandson doesn't have one, and his mother doesn't, so...I don't know whose influence will come to bear more strongly on him about this. I have a hunch it will be his peers, more than anything.