[__ Prayer __] No hope... Faith is slipping.....

[darktipper]

Being jobless in THIS economy is no shame.

People think that I am not trying.... I keep the rejection letter/statements as proof to them. I don't want to lie on an application just to get ahead like many people do. I have a friend who always messes up in life and get work with ease and is a felon. Me on the other hand, I have a clean slate. I went to college and nothing.... I am not one to fully knock on one person's blessing but I wonder what God wants me to do. I prayed for his will so many times.

 

[pjt]

People think that I am not trying.... I keep the rejection letter/statements as proof to them. I don't want to lie on an application just to get ahead like many people do. I have a friend who always messes up in life and get work with ease and is a felon. Me on the other hand, I have a clean slate. I went to college and nothing.... I am not one to fully knock on one person's blessing but I wonder what God wants me to do. I prayed for his will so many times.

Stop hanging out with the people that think you are not trying and find a better crowd to hang around. If people look at this economy and say you are not trying, they are crazy! My husband got a job but with a 2/3 pay cut from what he had before but we are still grateful for that. Maybe a few years ago when the economy was better we wouldn`t have even considered this position, but now people have to take what they can get and be grateful.

I considered nursing since we always hear of nursing shortages until I looked at a nursing forum and saw it was filled with new graduates who could not get a job. The economy is even effecting the health care field. According to the nurses, people are putting off going to the doctor when they can because they don`t have the money to pay and people are opting out of medical procedures that are not totally necessary but several years ago were standard.

Find supportive people to surround yourself with. This is not a time to be beat over the head with words like "you`re not trying".

I don`t know what your situation is like but if you are really needing money you mentioned there is a lot of snow in your area. Maybe you could go door to door and offer to shovel out the snow from a person`s drive or small businesses every morning and/or evening before/after work and charge the average rate or slightly below the average in your area. And when you do this also let the people know you are looking for a regular job. If you have any skills like mechanics or carpentry you could offer to do repairs, change oil, put chains on tires etc. For the elderly you could run chores for them so they don`t have to get out in the cold. If you like dogs you could offer to walk dogs. You can also do house sitting. This could give you some tax free money to help pay bills but also let people know that you are looking for work and are willing to do any kind of work if they will just give you a chance. It keeps your name out there in the community and lets people see you are reliable and hardworking. It would also allow you to keep your afternoons free for job hunting.

 

[darktipper]

Stop hanging out with the people that think you are not trying and find a better crowd to hang around. If people look at this economy and say you are not trying, they are crazy! My husband got a job but with a 2/3 pay cut from what he had before but we are still grateful for that. Maybe a few years ago when the economy was better we wouldn`t have even considered this position, but now people have to take what they can get and be grateful.

I considered nursing since we always hear of nursing shortages until I looked at a nursing forum and saw it was filled with new graduates who could not get a job. The economy is even effecting the health care field. According to the nurses, people are putting off going to the doctor when they can because they don`t have the money to pay and people are opting out of medical procedures that are not totally necessary but several years ago were standard.

Find supportive people to surround yourself with. This is not a time to be beat over the head with words like "you`re not trying".

I don`t know what your situation is like but if you are really needing money you mentioned there is a lot of snow in your area. Maybe you could go door to door and offer to shovel out the snow from a person`s drive or small businesses every morning and/or evening before/after work and charge the average rate or slightly below the average in your area. And when you do this also let the people know you are looking for a regular job. If you have any skills like mechanics or carpentry you could offer to do repairs, change oil, put chains on tires etc. For the elderly you could run chores for them so they don`t have to get out in the cold. If you like dogs you could offer to walk dogs. You can also do house sitting. This could give you some tax free money to help pay bills but also let people know that you are looking for work and are willing to do any kind of work if they will just give you a chance. It keeps your name out there in the community and lets people see you are reliable and hardworking. It would also allow you to keep your afternoons free for job hunting.

Yeah I applied at an oil change place and nothing.... I do not know what god has in store for me. I almost don't know anymore... Sometimes I feel like a waste of space. It sucks having no cash. I can't even hang out with people.:bigfrown
I know people look at me like what is he doing with his life? why is he not this or that yet. Why is he not married? etc....

 

[pjt]

Yeah I applied at an oil change place and nothing.... I do not know what god has in store for me. I almost don't know anymore... Sometimes I feel like a waste of space. It sucks having no cash. I can't even hang out with people.:bigfrown
I know people look at me like what is he doing with his life? why is he not this or that yet. Why is he not married? etc....

There are 2 possibilities 1) you may feel this is the way people are looking at you because this is the way you are feeling yourself but in reality not everyone is looking at you like this 2) some people are very critical and can look down their noses at other especially when they have never experienced long term unemployment themselves to know what it actually feels like, but these are the people you need to stay away from because they are harmful. You need to be around people that can encourage you at this time. Again, I encourage you to get involved in a Bible study because here you can hopefully be encouraged but without having to spend money to hang out with others. It is just a good, productive way to spend your time, stay connected, and enjoy other people.

Yes, I know it is very tough having no spending money and the money you do have just keeps getting smaller, but try to keep in mind you still have blessings. 1. You have the ability to work. You have 2 arms, 2 legs, normal intelligence, and your health. Many people don`t have these things.
2. You still have freedom. In South Africa during apartheid,
it was illegal to be unemployed and people would be sent to a cruel, hideous prisons when they were discovered to have no job.
3. You are still living in a country with stability not war torn where killing and torture are a daily part of life.
4. You are still living in a first world country so even though you are unemployed you still can survive and you can always apply for economic aid if worse comes to worse. In countries like North Korea, even with people working full time, people are still starving due to lack of food, lack of medicine, lack of fuel to warm the home in winter, and corruption in the government that confiscates international food aid and does not distribute it to the people.

So keep in mind, there are many others who have it far worse than you but they are still striving to push on and their lives still have value and meaning. If their lives have value and meaning, so does yours. Where we stand on the economic ladder is not what defines our value and meaning. How you come through this trial is going to define who you are. Just keep pressing on. I know it is tough. I`ve been there and so many others are right there with you but you can`t give up. You have great meaning to God. He created you and He is with you even though you may not see or feel it right now. But know and trust that He is with you. He will pull you through. Your life means something to God and that is relevant!

 

[Cornelius]

I do not live in your country, but the economy is the same everywhere. I suppose the last thing you want to do now is to read a book, but I really believe you will find your answer in this book. And its free they will even send you a hard copy for free if you ask them. I just read it online the first time. Now our fellowship have translated it into my language, and we are printing it here and also giving it out for free. Its got over 2000 scriptures in it and its an eye opener.

Basically the book answers all the "Why?" question you may have !

Here is the link. Scroll down to "Sovereign God "

Free Christian Books from Unleavened Bread Publishing Inc.

 

[darktipper]

Some people are scratching their heads when I tell them all of the places I applied to. I think I should give up for a while. plus it stays on file for like 3 months anyways..

 

[pjt]

Some people are scratching their heads when I tell them all of the places I applied to. I think I should give up for a while. plus it stays on file for like 3 months anyways..

No, you can`t give up and if something is on file for 3 months and a lot of other people are applying, do you think they are going to dig to the bottom of the pile if a position opens? No! Don`t give up. Keep on searching. Are there any temp agencies around you? Try temp work sometimes it can open up into a full time opportunity.

Are you willing to relocate? Do you have a college degree? If so, you could look into teaching English overseas. All you need is any college degree.

As for the head scratchers, let them scratch. Have they not turned on the news lately to hear Americans are just wanting politicians to focus on jobs because so many Americans are not working? And it is not just Americans. Mexicans come to America not because they want to leave their families but because they want work. Europe, Africa, Asia all have economic slumps. I think China and India are some of the few growing economies because everyone is outsourcing the jobs to these countries, but they are still considered 3rd world countries economically speaking so they still are not better off than the rest of the world. As for the head scratchers around you, once they lose their jobs they will not be scratching their heads any longer. Reality will hit them square in the eyes. These are tough times but not impossible times. Times have been much rougher than these and people have survived so hold on and keep on trying. The job you are looking for could be just one application away so don`t skip any opportunites. Try and retry for them all!

 

[Chris]

I have lived for 40 years and one thing I can tell you for sure is true, Good times come and go, some years really are bad others you wish wouldn't end.

In your hard times you will learn lessons that will equip you for success in the good years.

When times seem bitter and life gives you lemons begin to make lemonade.

You have time on our hands study work related courses and study spiritual things.

The work related courses will help you get and keep job. Finding an inner happiness by focusing on god will make you a happier person. You have to have a sense of self worth outside of employment. That is a modern tragedy in our times, letting your social standing and self worth be dictated by your employment.

Poverty does suck but always remember the greatest wealth you ever have is the people around you that love you and your relationship with God who also loves you.

Don't be down, chin up and prepare for the good times that will come soon.

Being out in nature healthy diet exercise and sunshine helps a lot with depression. It is really hard to feel bad for long in the forest hearing and seeing wildlife on a sunny day.

Cheer up it will all be good.

Afterthought: this will help you a LOT, and release you from the burden of worry forever. He quotes Jesus frequently. a well known book by Dale Carnegie is free now. " How to stop worrying and start living"

http://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CB0QFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpathologydocs.files.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F07%2Fhow-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living.pdf&rct=j&q=how%20to%20stop%20worrying%20and%20start%20living%20&ei=mqxbTeXkNYG0vgOjtpS3DQ&usg=AFQjCNGph9obBp3ywCUd5qS2oqGAHLrI2g&cad=rja

The link gives you the pdf- check your downloads, or search for the title in Google its the same top response. The free pdf.

 

[darktipper]

I just got done reading post about people praying to god for things in life like wanting to get married but they are still single til this day. I read about a guy who prayed to be healed for 10 years and nothing happened. I read about a woman who was homeless at the age of 14 and now into her mid 20s and she got abused and prayed for help and nothing for her. She got molested and or raped and now has a vaginal issue due to that but she does not have health insurance. Then you read about people in the bible who had tons for blessings but made more mistakes that anyone I have ever seen. I am still in awe that King David messed up as much as he did and was still blessed in life.

I still don't understand why and how people get blessed. I now just don't pray as much as I used to. Less praying makes me a bit calmer for some reason. At least I will not be faced with disappointments knowing that a wish will not come true.

 

[Chris]

I just got done reading post about people praying to god for things in life like wanting to get married but they are still single til this day. I read about a guy who prayed to be healed for 10 years and nothing happened. I read about a woman who was homeless at the age of 14 and now into her mid 20s and she got abused and prayed for help and nothing for her. She got molested and or raped and now has a vaginal issue due to that but she does not have health insurance. Then you read about people in the bible who had tons for blessings but made more mistakes that anyone I have ever seen. I am still in awe that King David messed up as much as he did and was still blessed in life.

I still don't understand why and how people get blessed. I now just don't pray as much as I used to. Less praying makes me a bit calmer for some reason. At least I will not be faced with disappointments knowing that a wish will not come true.

You sound depressed you don't have what those around you do. If you look at them with envy your only reward in life is going to be misery. If you count your blessings it may be happiness.
Wish those people well and pray god blesses them more. Thank god for what you have helps too.
Jesus didn't get a BMW and an open cash supply. HE drank wine out of crappy old goat skins, had no toilet like we do and Got beaten to death in an undignified way like a criminal....Gods own son. If we get a life any better than that your doing good.

Many people in the world don't have a pair of shoes or a flush toilet.. they cant afford it probably over 1/3 of the world lives in that poverty. Understanding the prosperity you have if you live in the states helps a lot or other wealthy western countries. Seeing how others live can also ground you a bit.


This has always helped me, my 2 favorite things.

I asked God to take away my pride. And God said “No”.
He said it was not for Him to take away, but for me to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. And God said “No”.
He said her spirit was whole, her body was only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience. And God said “No”.
He said patience is a by-product of tribulations. It isn’t granted, it is earned.
I asked God to give me happiness. And God said “No”.
He said He gives me blessings, happiness is up to me.
I asked God to spare me pain. And God said “No”.
He said suffering draws me apart from worldly cares and brings me closer to Him.
I asked God to make my spirit grow. And God said “No”.
He said I must grow on my own. But He will prune me to make me fruitful.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life. And God said “No”.
He said He will give me life, that I may enjoy all things.
I ask God to help me love others, as much as he loves me.
And God said “Ah, finally you have the idea!”
Copyright © Claudia Minden Weisz






IMPOSSIBLE

I woke up bright and early it was a lovely day,
I knew it was the perfect time to give some love away.
So with every person that I met my store of love I shared.
And sensed their happy warm response, knowing someone cared.

That night I checked my love supply it would be gone no doubt.
But found I had more love by far than when I started out.
How marvelous the law of life I learned that lovely day,
It always comes back many fold you cant give love away!

 

[Glowstique]

I want to tell you a story about a friend of mine. She had a good job for a long time, but like many people, she ended up layed-off. She had been in relationship after relationship, but they had all failed. She was praying for a job and a man to spend her life with, but it seemed like they would never come. She got in another relationship that she really believed would work, but it didnt. She was living off of her savings but the funds were running low. She got to the point where she only had 26 dollars in her bank account. That was it. So she sat at home and prayed. She told God, This is it, Im out of money, I have no job, no one can help me but you. I surrender myself to you. The next day, she got a job, and met her husband. Even when all hope seemed lost, God was still listening. He knows what is best for us.

 

[darktipper]

I want to tell you a story about a friend of mine. She had a good job for a long time, but like many people, she ended up layed-off. She had been in relationship after relationship, but they had all failed. She was praying for a job and a man to spend her life with, but it seemed like they would never come. She got in another relationship that she really believed would work, but it didnt. She was living off of her savings but the funds were running low. She got to the point where she only had 26 dollars in her bank account. That was it. So she sat at home and prayed. She told God, This is it, Im out of money, I have no job, no one can help me but you. I surrender myself to you. The next day, she got a job, and met her husband. Even when all hope seemed lost, God was still listening. He knows what is best for us.

I guess me being in a rut for 10 years is best for me2

26 bucks to prosperity.....Nice....

 

[Glowstique]

That is not what I meant. God has a plan for all who trust in him, even if you cant see it right now. My intentions and the intentions of others is to encourage you through this hard time, but in the end, no one can make you have faith in God. Thats up to you. Ill be praying for you.

 

[darktipper]

I dunno how to trust God? What am I supposed to do? Do you just ride the wave of life? I don't get it....

 

[pjt]

Darktipper, don`t lose perspective. Our value to God is not our position in life. Do your best with what you`ve got and don`t give up. God is looking at how you handle things not what or where you are in life.

As for trusting God, it IS tough when a person is going through hardships. No one can deny that, but again you have to keep a perspective. You have got to just hold on to what you know and believe about God and don`t let go of that. That is our trust, I think.

 

[Jeremiah1]

I have failed many times myself. We all have. One thing that helps keep me positive and going is immersing myself in books on success. In every one I find stories of countless others who, like you, struggled and struggled, working hard and failing, until they find the right combination to turn to open the lock of success.

Given what I've read from you here, I highly recommend you go to the public library and check out a copy of the book "What Color is Your Parachute?"

 

[Nacho]

What part of the country do you live in?

Here in North Dakota we have tons of jobs and no one to fill them.

If you are whiling to move I am sure you could find a job here.

If not, then don't loose faith.....pray that God's will be done in your life.

 

[darktipper]

I prayed for his will in my life and still nothing. I feel nothing at all. Maybe I should try again tonight. I wish I had a time machine to tell myself to join the military.... At least I would have been getting paid (but I would not want to have to kill a person so that was a no for me.). Also I noticed they get married young and have house car and all of that stuff.....

I don't see any light in my future... I did not expect to be where I am today....
On my timeline I should have had a house, sports car,pet (or fiance/gf/wife).......
I stopped doing that where do you see yourself in 5 years thing due to it never working out for me......

 

[pjt]

I prayed for his will in my life and still nothing. I feel nothing at all. Maybe I should try again tonight. I wish I had a time machine to tell myself to join the military.... At least I would have been getting paid (but I would not want to have to kill a person so that was a no for me.). Also I noticed they get married young and have house car and all of that stuff.....

I don't see any light in my future... I did not expect to be where I am today....
On my timeline I should have had a house, sports car,pet (or fiance/gf/wife).......
I stopped doing that where do you see yourself in 5 years thing due to it never working out for me......

Let`s look at it from another perspective. The military also has a high divorce rate as well as a high rate of severe bodily, death and psychological injury.
And as much as we`d like to believe we take care of our military, I`ve known several veterans to end up homeless. I know another man who joined the military with all its promises and is VERY disappointed with how those promises fell very short of what they should have been.

Let`s look at your idea of how you should be having a house and car now, a lot of those people probably your age who bought the houses and cars are now losing them.

Let`s look at the idea you should have a wife by now, I was the last person in my graduating class to marry, but by the time I married a LOT of my classmates had already divorced. I waited, and I think my marriage is going to make it to the end! Perhaps waiting will insure a more stable, mature, lasting marriage for you too.

Please don`t focus on what you don`t have. This is a form of coveting. Look at what you do have and look at the problems you don`t have. You don`t have a messy divorce that is ruining your kids lives. You don`t have a terminal, painful disease. You don`t live in a country where if you express your faith in God you can be sent to a gulag or prison. You still have blessings around you. Look for them and thank God for them. You have not come to a place of utter ruin. Thank God for this.

And Nacho said ND has jobs so why don`t you check it out! Maybe Nacho can point you to more specific jobs openings. PM Nacho and ask!

 

[darktipper]

I thank him for what I have but I don't have money:bigfrown
It is so sad.... I placed tons of applications online due to companies around me (like retail stores/ fast food/ oil change/home improvement retail etc...) telling me to fill out one online. I get no call backs. No interviews. Nothing. I feel like my life is passing me by. Even my dream job that I shot for multiple times is not panning out at all. I blame myself for not being good enough and never was....
I pray for God's will to be done and nothing. I don't get it. I have been in a decade of being in a valley in my life. I know people probably call me names for not being employed/whatever else....

I know that God provides... I have a roof over my head and food to eat but I feel the need to be a productive member of society.....

I had people tell me to use the time to study the bible... I read it from time to time but I feel like that it is too much reading. I always skipped around in it.