I'm going to pre-apologize for how badly this may be structured.
My husband and I dated for 3 years before we got married, and we have been married for a year and a half. People say used to say that we reminded them of an old married couple, which I used to take as a compliment, but now it makes me angry. I am 23. I grew up a very active kid. I was in every extra-curricular I could be in. My husband on the other hand did nothing. When we were dating we always did things, but now I feel like I have to drag him out the door to get him to do anything besides go out to eat. We constantly are fighting about cleaning around the house. And anymore I just keep my mouth shut because otherwise I don't know what will come out. On top of that we have no sex life. Not that we ever had a big one but we were more intimate (without having sex) before we got married that we are now. He never listens to what I say I like (in bed or otherwise) and never learns from what I tell him. I feel like I change and grow everyday and he stays the same instead of growing with me. I don't want to be another statistic of divorce. His greatest fear is divorce, so I could never do it. I pray a lot about this and no matter what I seem to do things have just gotten worse. Any advice out there on how I can help my marriage?
My husband and I dated for 3 years before we got married, and we have been married for a year and a half. People say used to say that we reminded them of an old married couple, which I used to take as a compliment, but now it makes me angry. I am 23. I grew up a very active kid. I was in every extra-curricular I could be in. My husband on the other hand did nothing. When we were dating we always did things, but now I feel like I have to drag him out the door to get him to do anything besides go out to eat. We constantly are fighting about cleaning around the house. And anymore I just keep my mouth shut because otherwise I don't know what will come out. On top of that we have no sex life. Not that we ever had a big one but we were more intimate (without having sex) before we got married that we are now. He never listens to what I say I like (in bed or otherwise) and never learns from what I tell him. I feel like I change and grow everyday and he stays the same instead of growing with me. I don't want to be another statistic of divorce. His greatest fear is divorce, so I could never do it. I pray a lot about this and no matter what I seem to do things have just gotten worse. Any advice out there on how I can help my marriage?