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Teen Sex At Home
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Jab-Jab
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Especially when you remove that 2nd quote from the rest of the paragraph. Please, lets not drag this off topic.
handy
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Marriage isn't a ritual. A wedding ceremony is, but not marriage. Marriage is a union of two individuals into one family. If one is mature enough for marriage, one is mature enough for sex. The thing is, in our society, marriage is all too often looked at as glorified dating with convenient sleeping arrangements. Which is the cause of a lot of divorces.
I agree that just because two people are married, they aren't automatically being moral in their sexual practices. If one is forcing their spouse into some unwanted sexual practice...that's not moral. Or, if one is cutting their spouse off from sex for punitive or manipulative reasons...big problem there. The bible teaches us that the husband is for the wife's sexual pleasure and the wife is for the husband's sexual pleasure. Bringing selfishness into the picture...all too common in many marriages...causes a lot of problems.
Getting the right handle on marriage goes a long ways towards both sexual morality and sexual fulfillment.
stovebolts
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You know, I've been doing a lot of thinking about the world we live in lately and it doesn't surprise me that the number of parents who think this way is on the rise.
My opinion on the matter is this. I don't believe the parents are being responsible in teaching their children the more important things in life, which in my opinion means viewing others as human beings, and not objects while teaching self control, respect and honor.
Sexual urges, especially in the early teens and mid 20's can be very strong. It reminds me of my dog when she's in heat... she just goes nuts until she's satisfied because that urge is so strong, and if she scratches the door up trying to get out of the house, she just doesn't care... as long as her urge is satisfied. Oure male dog is the same way if smells a female dog in heat... he just goes nuts as the hormones rage.
In our children, if they don't learn to harness those urges and are allowed to go wild even in the premise of one's own home as considered a "safe" environment, then it's really easy to take the next step and look at the other sex as an object of pleasure. Let's face it, teenagers are naturally selfish.. it's all about them, and as parents, if we don't set clear boundaries for our teens in the arena of what's acceptable and what's not, then we're not doing our job as responsible parents.
Healthy relationships aren't built on 'safe sex'. They are built on respect, self control and a heart of servitude toward the other. If you look at the divorce rate in our country, it's been on the rise for some time now. Broken families are now the norm and not having a step parent seems to be the minority to the point where these topics are part of the Elementary school curriculum and it seems that as long as we can excuse these things, it's ok. heck, you can get porn at most gas stations now, next thing you know it's gonna be ok to be a pedophile.
I'm sorry, but just because we can justify bad behavior, doesn't make it right.
My opinion on the matter is this. I don't believe the parents are being responsible in teaching their children the more important things in life, which in my opinion means viewing others as human beings, and not objects while teaching self control, respect and honor.
Sexual urges, especially in the early teens and mid 20's can be very strong. It reminds me of my dog when she's in heat... she just goes nuts until she's satisfied because that urge is so strong, and if she scratches the door up trying to get out of the house, she just doesn't care... as long as her urge is satisfied. Oure male dog is the same way if smells a female dog in heat... he just goes nuts as the hormones rage.
In our children, if they don't learn to harness those urges and are allowed to go wild even in the premise of one's own home as considered a "safe" environment, then it's really easy to take the next step and look at the other sex as an object of pleasure. Let's face it, teenagers are naturally selfish.. it's all about them, and as parents, if we don't set clear boundaries for our teens in the arena of what's acceptable and what's not, then we're not doing our job as responsible parents.
Healthy relationships aren't built on 'safe sex'. They are built on respect, self control and a heart of servitude toward the other. If you look at the divorce rate in our country, it's been on the rise for some time now. Broken families are now the norm and not having a step parent seems to be the minority to the point where these topics are part of the Elementary school curriculum and it seems that as long as we can excuse these things, it's ok. heck, you can get porn at most gas stations now, next thing you know it's gonna be ok to be a pedophile.
I'm sorry, but just because we can justify bad behavior, doesn't make it right.