Is it possible for a Christian to love too much? Yes and no. You cannot love God too much, but you can love your neighbor too much.
The whole concept of loving too much comes from the book, “Women Who Love Too Much,” by Robin Norwood. It was applauded in the self-help community and banned in many Christian communities. There has been a controversy ever since.
Loving too much applies to relationships that should be reciprocal such as marriage. Let me offer you some guidelines regarding this.
You are loving too much when you lose yourself in a relationship to the point where you no longer exist as a separate child of God.
You are loving too much when you neglect your children in pursuit of pleasing your partner.
You are loving too much when you have no love left for God.
You are loving too much when you put your life in danger for the sake of love.
You are loving too much when you stay loyal to an abusive partner.
You are loving too much when you really believe is it you Christian duty to lay down you life for another. John 15:13 13 “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
Love is a gift and you do not “throw pearls before swine.” Consider prioritizing. Save most of your love for God. Offer some to your neighbor, and don’t forget to save some for yourself for the sake of your self-esteem. Self-esteem makes us more productive is serving the Lord.