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Joey Visitation Thread
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I also forgot about this important song that I find rather special.
Lol! That's cute, if you made that comment just to make me smile and feel better it worked. You're a much sweeter guy than you give yourself credit for.
jasonc
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its a choice , albeit hard, to choose to find the good and have joy in crappy situations. cant change it, might as well try not to stress over it. the hours I have to ponder the problems could be better spent. besides. I was remembering dot and the kangaroo an old Australian kids book made into a few movies for kids.looking back I thought that was set in the 1800s and it was written then.Lol! That's cute, if you made that comment just to make me smile and feel better it worked. You're a much sweeter guy than you give yourself credit for.
I understand your point, but you must understand that it's rather hard for me to find joy in the situation when you are separated from the one you love, but that was still seriously sweet of you to cheer me up like that. I literally went, "aww" when I realized what you were trying to do.
jasonc
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one can be lonely in a marriage,but that isn't the point. I never said it was easy, but there is always a choice . a lot of me anger can be negated if I simply stop dwelling on it. seething didn't change the problem for sure.I understand your point, but you must understand that it's rather hard for me to find joy in the situation when you are separated from the one you love, but that was still seriously sweet of you to cheer me up like that. I literally went, "aww" when I realized what you were trying to do.
I know and you're a hundred percent right. I realize that. But just put yourself in my shoes for a moment. When you love somebody as much as I love Joey that's easier said than done, because when it comes to being madly in love with somebody who loves you just as much, the rules change quite a bit. It becomes a whole lot different once it happens to you and you would find that it's a lot harder than you think to get your mind off that person. The only reason that we even met in the first place is my job site wasn't working out so I got sent to a vocational school instead. I don't believe for one second that was an accident. meeting each other, becoming friends, and falling in love is what helped me renew my faith in God, because I have absolutely no other explanation other than that. It's like that song I posted on here, somebody definitely had a hand in it.
jasonc
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I am married, and I was deployed for a year in Afghanistan. puppy love, in time if you marry you will learn that love isn't just this but also when you see your loved one in icu and might loose them, get calls from your daughter then mom fell and split open her head till one can see the bone, other far more serious ailments.worry about whether one can make money. I do face a possible lay off come October. I have found a job I could take but it might not work. its work I already in part do. utility locating.
Alright, so maybe I might not understand all that stuff yet but we are both 28 years old, this isn't puppy love, this is the real honest to goodness deal for us. Sure it might have been puppy love back when we were teenagers but not now.
jasonc
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Love must start somewhere but yeah it's the start.looks go away ,I understand the dating part but the trials of life deepen or break a marriage
I'm not exactly sure what you're getting at. We've been madly in love with each other for the past decade.
jasonc
Member
Your not married, did you live in sin ?
jasonc
Member
Exactly ,a start ..it's not so bad you can't see joy in other things.
My point is that it's not so bad ,gloomy that you can't see the bright side. The dating side is all that you know.it's changes when you move in and are legally bound to each other.
One day you or him will have to work on this abd at first you won't be in love but Will have to rekindle it.when that occurs it's a deeper love .life can weaken a marriage .work ,sickness. My wife is nearly 60.I may he a widow at 60.I'm 45.I choose this.it's not something I fully grasped until a few years after I said I do.
There's things in my wife's past that i didn't see,too late now.
I'm sorry but I find that to be absolutely ridiculous. Like I said before, we've been in love for ten years now. I don't see any obstacle standing in our way if this didn't. However, there is one thing I do have to say though. Ever since I announced that I was in love with somebody who was currently serving time in prison, there was only about one or two people that questioned my sanity. Most of you have believed my story and not only believed that I had good judgement on trusting my heart to believe in his innocence, but you have prayed for us and supported us and that really means an awful lot to me coming from people I never even met when most people wouldn't. I literally thank the Lord for all of you here and I am so blessed to receive the love of Christ from a bunch of strangers.
Here's a few more songs that I want to post that remind me of him and then I think I'm done with this thread until the next time I see him since we really have taken it off topic quite a bit.
jasonc
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Influenced by.media,fairytales.
Love sometimes hurts.if It didn't there woukdnt be a cross.
When you might have to ,as in my case ,start doing chores as your spouse is unable to due to age then talk.
You are young,people will work,life happens,it Changes,and you grow apart .it's called being married .never met anyone who has been married for a few years sat that they didn't have to revisit why they fell in love.
Excuse me if I have been married for 17 years when you were 11.i might actually know this.I married early because I was going overseas in a month. It didn't happen.I had to tell my wife if two men show up in class a im dead aND write a will at age 32. I waa married three years.war nearly cost me this marriage.05 to 06 is the year of hell.I changed, she changed .it was hell as I couldn't understand my anger issues aND it took time.some of which still exist now.
Love sometimes hurts.if It didn't there woukdnt be a cross.
When you might have to ,as in my case ,start doing chores as your spouse is unable to due to age then talk.
You are young,people will work,life happens,it Changes,and you grow apart .it's called being married .never met anyone who has been married for a few years sat that they didn't have to revisit why they fell in love.
Excuse me if I have been married for 17 years when you were 11.i might actually know this.I married early because I was going overseas in a month. It didn't happen.I had to tell my wife if two men show up in class a im dead aND write a will at age 32. I waa married three years.war nearly cost me this marriage.05 to 06 is the year of hell.I changed, she changed .it was hell as I couldn't understand my anger issues aND it took time.some of which still exist now.
Look I'm really sorry if your marriage didn't work out but not all marriages are like that. My parents got married at a young age and they're still happily married today. If Joey and I ever were to revisit the time we fell in love there would be nothing but positivity coming out of our mouths. Trust me when I say that. But yeah, I won't argue with you on the fact that love sometimes hurts. How do you think I've been feeling since yesterday ever since I had to say goodbye to him?
jasonc
Member
I never said I was divorced. I said my situation to give you a perspective.if you want wallow then wallow. I can wallow if I choose to over look how good i have it.Look I'm really sorry if your marriage didn't work out but not all marriages are like that. My parents got married at a young age and they're still happily married today. If Joey and I ever were to revisit the time we fell in love there would be nothing but positivity coming out of our mouths. Trust me when I say that. But yeah, I won't argue with you on the fact that love sometimes hurts. How do you think I've been feeling since yesterday ever since I had to say goodbye to him?
If you think I your old age it's going to be dating and one day your and him dying together you might be mistaken. Trials may come aMD challenge your marriage.
War was that for me,my wife's health is the other. I was 28 ,she 42.love blinds.your fiance will.exit as a felon. When that love wanes abd them eyes see his issues from his time in prison as that will be an issue you will face . Prison isn't nice aND the messee up things he has to see or did to stay safe will be an issue.
The stories from correction officers I hear. It's not a cakewalk. Joey will have to adjust to the world again.I might be familiar with that .