Luminous_Rose
CF Ambassador
There is something I think about from time to time. Maybe I am terribly insensitive in this matter, but there is a guy that my husband and I used to work with, Jimmy. Well, Jimmy was always a heavyset guy with many health problems and a health scare that required transport to another hospital. Currently he is on a lot of medications, has a lot of depression, and is a few hundred pounds heavier. He has lost some weight since moving away from his roommates, but is still heavy. He has a hard time getting around and has bad depression and doesn't like to get out of he house or get to the bathroom when he has to go even.
He has asked my husband to come over and give him a hair cut, clean his room, get his breadmaker down from the top cabinet, go grab him junk fast food from our town or even 2 minutes away from his apartment (he lives 20-30 minutes away from us in another town), go drop off/pick up his laundry at the laundromat, pick up his groceries for pickup, and such.
I am not against helping people. My husband has 2 days off a week and Jimmy knows this so he will ask my husband to run some errands or clean his apartment. My husband has tried finding a few people Jimmy knows to help out and I don't know if they do or not, but some of this sounds like enabling his lifestyle to sit down watching tv all day, which isn't helping his depression. It is a bit of a dent in our plans when Jimmy is suddenly needing something and is a bit of a drive away. He usually pays us with money or some stuff he orders from Trader Joe's.
He got fired from his old job after not being there so much for his health supposedly and he only worked part time after a while. He got a job somewhere else for a few days, but it was too hard and he wanted part time and wasn't getting it so he quit and lives on disability.
I guess I am thinking he is in his 40s, has his own car, and doesn't have a job so he should be able to get all these things done and if he needs the assistance then maybe he should consider living in an assisted living facility or hiring a maid. A fitness coach and a therapist wouldn't hurt either. I don't feel he is trying that hard to help his well being.
We used to do meal prep for Jimmy for a week so he had healthy foods for work. His roommate ended up eating them and tols us they were really good because Jimmy wasn't eating them and we followed his diet, but he kept complaining about the food so we stopped doing that and he would just order out. He doesn't want help that will help him get healthy.
Not sure how to handle it. Kind of stumped if we should help or I am being insensitive about his condition. Sorry for the long post and crazy rant.
He has asked my husband to come over and give him a hair cut, clean his room, get his breadmaker down from the top cabinet, go grab him junk fast food from our town or even 2 minutes away from his apartment (he lives 20-30 minutes away from us in another town), go drop off/pick up his laundry at the laundromat, pick up his groceries for pickup, and such.
I am not against helping people. My husband has 2 days off a week and Jimmy knows this so he will ask my husband to run some errands or clean his apartment. My husband has tried finding a few people Jimmy knows to help out and I don't know if they do or not, but some of this sounds like enabling his lifestyle to sit down watching tv all day, which isn't helping his depression. It is a bit of a dent in our plans when Jimmy is suddenly needing something and is a bit of a drive away. He usually pays us with money or some stuff he orders from Trader Joe's.
He got fired from his old job after not being there so much for his health supposedly and he only worked part time after a while. He got a job somewhere else for a few days, but it was too hard and he wanted part time and wasn't getting it so he quit and lives on disability.
I guess I am thinking he is in his 40s, has his own car, and doesn't have a job so he should be able to get all these things done and if he needs the assistance then maybe he should consider living in an assisted living facility or hiring a maid. A fitness coach and a therapist wouldn't hurt either. I don't feel he is trying that hard to help his well being.
We used to do meal prep for Jimmy for a week so he had healthy foods for work. His roommate ended up eating them and tols us they were really good because Jimmy wasn't eating them and we followed his diet, but he kept complaining about the food so we stopped doing that and he would just order out. He doesn't want help that will help him get healthy.
Not sure how to handle it. Kind of stumped if we should help or I am being insensitive about his condition. Sorry for the long post and crazy rant.