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I'm married. My wife is not Christian. She's agnostic. I have no wish to force my faith on her. Some of you will bristle at that, thinking it is my absolute duty to bring her to God. We were married in a Catholic Church. It's in God's hands. I'm not concerned about her eternal soul. God will take care of it.
Now , to this topic more specifically. I wonder how many conversions to Christianity have occurred through couples falling in love, one of them being Christian.
So let's say a cool rock dude atheist meets a gorgeous young princess who happens to be Christian. He's smitten. He falls for her immediately. He becomes interested in Christianity and finally converts, getting the girl of his dreams in marriage.
Does this kind of thing happen very often?
 
I have known it happen, but equally I have seen cool chick who's fallen for a rock dude been lead away from Jesus.

The key is in the girl having the integrity to stick with Christian morality and to insist if he is interested in her that he attends church with her.
I know of one girl who asked out on a date made it clear when he hinted at having sex, that this was not going to happen. He was intrigued and ended up a Christian married to her.
 
I'm married. My wife is not Christian. She's agnostic. I have no wish to force my faith on her. Some of you will bristle at that, thinking it is my absolute duty to bring her to God. We were married in a Catholic Church. It's in God's hands. I'm not concerned about her eternal soul. God will take care of it.
Now , to this topic more specifically. I wonder how many conversions to Christianity have occurred through couples falling in love, one of them being Christian.
So let's say a cool rock dude atheist meets a gorgeous young princess who happens to be Christian. He's smitten. He falls for her immediately. He becomes interested in Christianity and finally converts, getting the girl of his dreams in marriage.
Does this kind of thing happen very often?
My sister told me once about a friend of her husband's. He was a Christian guy that went to a bar and fell in love with a prostitute there. She became a Christian, and they married and were very happy. But i think it is rare..

I think that entering into a relationship, especially marrying a non Christian, is really making it hard for yourself. Life is hard enough.. marriage is hard enough and then life is so stressful, even when both are compatible and Christians. How even harder is it going to be having a relationship with a non Christian with such a different lifestyle and viewpoint, and then how are you going to rear the children?

I know of a dear friend that was a Catholic. She went out with a Christian man and they had fights because he didn't want to go to her Catholic church because he believed it preached false doctrine. They broke up over it, and she ended up marrying a non-Christian non -Catholic. It didn't surprise me, actually.. But anyways, he didn't want to go to church with her (no better scenario than the 1st) and so she started going by herself. Then she had a child, and then she kind of stopped going to church because she didn't want to go alone, and it just seemed too much effort to bundle up her child and take him and take care of him all by herself.. I don't know how it went and how her marriage is now as I lost contact with her since, as she was a co-worker. But I am sure, she was not living the best life God was recommending for her. As the Word of God says, most importantly, God is advising us that we should not be unequally yoked, as if the other person is not sealed in Christ, then essentially satan is their master, whether they know it or not. I heard recently, though, that the divorce rate for Christians is shockingly high nowadays and really no better than non Christians.

You are right your wife's Salvation is in His hands. However, with much respect to you, I would check yourself, dear sir... I very much love someone currently, who I have chosen not to be with, because he is not a Christian. I try to be the best example of a Christian to him, with God's help that I can, and I have been witnessing to him and praying for him everyday. I love him and I love his soul , and naturally I want him to be saved, so I do my best with the power of the Holy Spirit within me and do what God has given me responsibility for. God has called us to share the love of Jesus and spread the good news of the gospel to everyone. With the Holy Spirit indwelling inside us, we are vessels where people can see we are different, and it is not hard to emulate the fruits of the spirit. We are new creatures and we are saved FOR works (not because of works). I think if one has the realization of how horrible hell is, those that we love will be very much on our hearts. The penalty of sin is death -- eternal condemnation in hell, separated from God forever. I cannot bear to think of my loved one going there. I cannot force him, that is between Him and God, as God gives us faith , but I can do as much as God gives me the responsibility to do.
 
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I go through periods of doubt. I would find Christian partner too nagging.
What kind of doubts? You wouldn't be nagging, you would be showing Christ, by example. It should come naturally, because you are born again and have the Holy Spirit indwelling in you. This would mean treating her and leading her as a Godly husband should. That is how you bring someone to Christ.
 
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What kind of doubts? You wouldn't be nagging, you would be showing Christ, by example. It should come naturally, because you are born again and have the Holy Spirit indwelling in you. This would mean treating her and leading her as a Godly husband should. That is how you bring someone to Christ.
"Are you coming to Church with me?"
 
I guess layback Catholics are different to the more zealous Christian varieties.
I think one must follow the Bible - the Living Word of God. The problem is that many Catholics are not encouraged to read it (my mom was a former Catholic) and not only don't know what is in it, but they can never learn and grow and mature in the faith. This is SUPER huge. Catholicism is actually false religion which preaches a false doctrine, and it has added many manmade doctrines. It has perverted the true gospel message and presents a different Jesus. The truth is that we are saved by grace through faith and not of works, lest we boast. That is meant literally. We are saved by faith only. There is nothing we could ever do to merit us to get to Heaven. Jesus did it all for us to be saved.
 
Catholicism is actually false religion which preaches a false doctrine,
You are not the only one who thinks like that. I am inclined to think both Catholic and non Catholic denominations do not tell the whole story. And I prefer to steer clear of doctrinal debates anyway.
Something very mysterious happened to a guy from Nazareth called Jesus around 2000 years ago. Looks to me as if this guy was crucified, then rose from the dead. A supernatural event.
During his life, he said and did some things which have had a profound effect on me and many other Christians. I can't help thinking this guy is actually God. And he can save me from my own insanities.
 
My sister told me once about a friend of her husband's. He was a Christian guy that went to a bar and fell in love with a prostitute there. She became a Christian, and they married and were very happy. But i think it is rare..

I think that entering into a relationship, especially marrying a non Christian, is really making it hard for yourself. Life is hard enough.. marriage is hard enough and then life is so stressful, even when both are compatible and Christians. How even harder is it going to be having a relationship with a non Christian with such a different lifestyle and viewpoint, and then how are you going to rear the children?

I know of a dear friend that was a Catholic. She went out with a Christian man and they had fights because he didn't want to go to her Catholic church because he believed it preached false doctrine. They broke up over it, and she ended up marrying a non-Christian non -Catholic. It didn't surprise me, actually.. But anyways, he didn't want to go to church with her (no better scenario than the 1st) and so she started going by herself. Then she had a child, and then she kind of stopped going to church because she didn't want to go alone, and it just seemed too much effort to bundle up her child and take him and take care of him all by herself.. I don't know how it went and how her marriage is now as I lost contact with her since, as she was a co-worker. But I am sure, she was not living the best life God was recommending for her. As the Word of God says, most importantly, God is advising us that we should not be unequally yoked, as if the other person is not sealed in Christ, then essentially satan is their master, whether they know it or not. I heard recently, though, that the divorce rate for Christians is shockingly high nowadays and really no better than non Christians.

You are right your wife's Salvation is in His hands. However, with much respect to you, I would check yourself, dear sir... I very much love someone currently, who I have chosen not to be with, because he is not a Christian. I try to be the best example of a Christian to him, with God's help that I can, and I have been witnessing to him and praying for him everyday. I love him and I love his soul , and naturally I want him to be saved, so I do my best with the power of the Holy Spirit within me and do what God has given me responsibility for. God has called us to share the love of Jesus and spread the good news of the gospel to everyone. With the Holy Spirit indwelling inside us, we are vessels where people can see we are different, and it is not hard to emulate the fruits of the spirit. We are new creatures and we are saved FOR works (not because of works). I think if one has the realization of how horrible hell is, those that we love will be very much on our hearts. The penalty of sin is death -- eternal condemnation in hell, separated from God forever. I cannot bear to think of my loved one going there. I cannot force him, that is between Him and God, as God gives us faith , but I can do as much as God gives me the responsibility to do.
Oh, I have a similar relationship with a man I do love dearly - but I've closed myself off romantically because even though he is a believer, we are most certainly NOT on the same page spiritually, and I'm teetering on a precipice spiritually, about to begin an intense season of growth with God and I WILL not allow another person to get between me and the Lord. Not again (I lost 14 years to a marriage that did that!)

Wisdom is the word of the day.
 
I go through periods of doubt. I would find Christian partner too nagging.
All Christians do not inflict or preach their convictions to their partners. There are plenty of Christians who just LIVE Christ out in their lives... But, of course, that would be hella convicting if you're not living according to your own declared values... so maybe that's your concern?

I remember how much my personal pursuit of God offended my ex-husband. He kept telling me that I was "bible bashing " him - even though I did not include him or ask him to participate in my prayer or study time, I did not do it in front of him or even in the public areas of our home and most often he was asleep during the times I would spend with God... I think the most "God" that was obvious in our home was the music I played in the kitchen when I cooked and sometimes on Sunday I would listen to a sermon when I made lunch. He was not present for those "cooking times" either.

Sometimes the choices we are making in our associations tell us more about where WE ARE in our relationship with God than we'd like to admit...
 
I'm married. My wife is not Christian. She's agnostic. I have no wish to force my faith on her. Some of you will bristle at that, thinking it is my absolute duty to bring her to God. We were married in a Catholic Church. It's in God's hands. I'm not concerned about her eternal soul. God will take care of it.
All the best, its hard to convert family members to Christ. I take it as it comes and pray on it all the time. God can insist and put opportunities, in the family members way, but at the end of the day, a person is responsible for their own choices. The devil cannot force someone to disbelieve, but man naturally listens to the devil and not God. Sadly.
 
It isn't God's idea for a person to be unequally yoked, but you are. This means your going to have to be like Hosea in the bible. I'm not saying your wife is sleepy. Hosea was unequally yoked. His wife was sexually immoral. She was a prostitute? Slept arround? Sexually immoral, but God told Hosea to be faithful to her. To not divorce her because by being faithful to her it showed her God is always faithful. It isn't going to be easy to be married to someone who is not Christian. That isn't ideal. In the bible figures had caanatite wife's who worshiped other gods and the prophets told him to divorce her. This is on you. Seek God in it, but your going to have to not compromise your faith either way.
 
I know of person who was once friends with my brother. His wife was Christian and was able to convert him to christianity.
Before he converted to christianity. He was dishonest in business dealings with people.
First Corinthians 15:33 . Bad company ruins good morals.
Christian people should not keep company with heathen. Thier compromising their values and beliefs.
2 Timothy chapter 3 . Paul says, turn away from people that have character of the world
Christian people and the heathen are going in different directions. The agnostics or heathen are impeding on the Christian spirtual growth. Get the picture.
John 17:9 17:17.
The world is following satan. Those who are sincere and diligent are following Jesus.
Peter 1:1 . Precious faith. These Christian people tell the truth and encourage you in faith and repentance.
Those who are atheists or agnostic are biblically illiterate and will drag you down with them.
Second Corinthians chapter 6 . What communion has light with darkness?
And what agreement has the temple of God with belial??
Agnostics or atheists are will effect your spirtual life. They will rub off on Christian in negative way. The outsiders will pollute you. Your spirtual growth is impeded. Get the picture.
God cant use Christian who is spirtualty polluted. The outsiders will drag you down with them.
I told the truth.
 
Hey All,
I am surprised this is being discussed. The Bible is quite clear about believers marrying unbelievers.

2 Corinthians 6:14-17 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,

We are not to marry unbelievers. I am surprised a pastor, knowing this, would officiate such a wedding.
Keep walking everybody. May God bless,
Taz
 
I'm married. My wife is not Christian. She's agnostic. I have no wish to force my faith on her. Some of you will bristle at that, thinking it is my absolute duty to bring her to God. We were married in a Catholic Church. It's in God's hands. I'm not concerned about her eternal soul. God will take care of it.
Now , to this topic more specifically. I wonder how many conversions to Christianity have occurred through couples falling in love, one of them being Christian.
So let's say a cool rock dude atheist meets a gorgeous young princess who happens to be Christian. He's smitten. He falls for her immediately. He becomes interested in Christianity and finally converts, getting the girl of his dreams in marriage.
Does this kind of thing happen very often?
No.
 
"Are you coming to Church with me?"
That is not nagging. Rather it is a heartfelt concern for her husband.

If you are regular in attending church you would have friends there with whom you could discuss questions and doubts.
You would also be able to introduce your wife to a circle of caring ladies who would, like yourself, pray for her salvation.
Show your wife that you care about her and invite her to attend church with you this Sunday.
 
I'm married. My wife is not Christian. She's agnostic.
The logical type. Better hold onto her.

So let's say a cool rock dude atheist meets a gorgeous young princess who happens to be Christian. He's smitten. He falls for her immediately. He becomes interested in Christianity and finally converts, getting the girl of his dreams in marriage.
Does this kind of thing happen very often?
That happened to me. But I never considered becoming Christian just to please her. And I never expected her to become an agnostic to please me. Part of being in a healthy relationship is recognizing and accepting each other's differences.

I know what the bible says about being unequally yoked. But try convincing a logically mined person that snakes can talk.

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But try convincing a logically mined person that snakes can talk.

If that is an example of their reasoning, far easier than you think.
The bible only says that one snake ever spoke.

Why not ask them to disprove Christianity!
To show that Jesus never rose from the dead.

Remember this is an issue of eternal importance, well worth having a few arguments.
 
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