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Anyone else content with staying single? Just curious

evenifigoalone

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Just curious :)
I feel like most people want to date or get married, and I'm here like "I'm good".
That's not to say I've never had a desire for marriage, I used to a bit, but I feel I have "the gift of singleness" and I'm quite content to remain as I am
 

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Either way. I mean single is great can do what you want don't have to answer to anyone but sometimes you can get very lonely, life is harder as a single also as in the cost of living, as in its easier for a couple to own or rent a house than a single, and food is cheaper for families or couple sizes .

Marriage you have to deal with someone else's ignorance because everyone always knows best.

It's a lose lose situation.
 
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im...un-heterosexual...so i kinda have to. it is what it is...and, honestly, learning to "play by the rules" (God's rules, this time) is a good thing, for me.
 

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I'm "OK", in a sense. I've never had much of a problem being alone, though. It just doesn't bother me. I don't feel the Lord has brought the person He wants for me.
 

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God does give single people strength because faith in God and knowing the gift of God is satisfing enough to live a single life and you can have a close relationship with God because you don't have any distractions. But being married is also not a bad thing.

I think Paul said something similar im trying to say. Maybe he can explain better. I'm not gospel.
 
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I was good with it up till the point I got married.

I like giving and sharing too much not to have a spouse.

My abilities married vx single?
I can do more as a married person than I dreamed possible as a single. My wife supports me and I get to support her in her talents... sharing in the stuff she does. It's awesome in that way.

We don't have a regular marriage. We are best friends. We can sit and talk every night for weeks and never turn on the internet or television. Never gets old... always exciting...and we have been married for 8 years.
 

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The first year after my husband of 56 years (married) died was hard and I went through a lot of normal grieving. A grief share group helped for a while. And I did develop an interest in a man there who had been through caregiving of a spouse with Alzheimer's disease as had I. Never dated or went beyond the group. It was nice to know that I still had feelings however. :)

I could see the possibility even at this age at forming relationships with older men as time went by and even developed an interest in having new friendships; but I wasn't thinking of marriage at this age as to link up with someone my own age or even a bit younger would mean that eventually I would become a caregiver again. And I do have family who are close by. And friends...and church fellowship..

Just when I could see the possibilities of new social connections I found out I had a serious heart condition. So, all else is aside now. However, now as I prepare for getting an operation which I believe will give me back my strength again..I can see some years ahead.

Not looking toward marriage but definitely hoping for more social life again after I recover. I like having both women and men friends but don't want to live with them again unless I eventually go to a community of independent and/or assisted living which at this time in life doesn't look so bad.

I thank God as I learn it is okay to be single again even though I wasn't for 56 years. When they die..you keep living and when they leave (like divorce, etc) you keep living. My heart belongs to the Lord..and is is okay to share that with others...men and women friends.
 

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I was good with it up till the point I got married.

I like giving and sharing too much not to have a spouse.

My abilities married vx single?
I can do more as a married person than I dreamed possible as a single. My wife supports me and I get to support her in her talents... sharing in the stuff she does. It's awesome in that way.

We don't have a regular marriage. We are best friends. We can sit and talk every night for weeks and never turn on the internet or television. Never gets old... always exciting...and we have been married for 8 years.


You better not go for weeks without turning on the Internet or you will have me to deal with! :hips
 

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The first year after my husband of 56 years (married) died was hard and I went through a lot of normal grieving. A grief share group helped for a while. And I did develop an interest in a man there who had been through caregiving of a spouse with Alzheimer's disease as had I. Never dated or went beyond the group. It was nice to know that I still had feelings however. :)

I could see the possibility even at this age at forming relationships with older men as time went by and even developed an interest in having new friendships; but I wasn't thinking of marriage at this age as to link up with someone my own age or even a bit younger would mean that eventually I would become a caregiver again. And I do have family who are close by. And friends...and church fellowship..

Just when I could see the possibilities of new social connections I found out I had a serious heart condition. So, all else is aside now. However, now as I prepare for getting an operation which I believe will give me back my strength again..I can see some years ahead.

Not looking toward marriage but definitely hoping for more social life again after I recover. I like having both women and men friends but don't want to live with them again unless I eventually go to a community of independent and/or assisted living which at this time in life doesn't look so bad.

I thank God as I learn it is okay to be single again even though I wasn't for 56 years. When they die..you keep living and when they leave (like divorce, etc) you keep living. My heart belongs to the Lord..and is is okay to share that with others...men and women friends.
Thank you for blessing us!
 
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