The first year after my husband of 56 years (married) died was hard and I went through a lot of normal grieving. A grief share group helped for a while. And I did develop an interest in a man there who had been through caregiving of a spouse with Alzheimer's disease as had I. Never dated or went beyond the group. It was nice to know that I still had feelings however.
I could see the possibility even at this age at forming relationships with older men as time went by and even developed an interest in having new friendships; but I wasn't thinking of marriage at this age as to link up with someone my own age or even a bit younger would mean that eventually I would become a caregiver again. And I do have family who are close by. And friends...and church fellowship..
Just when I could see the possibilities of new social connections I found out I had a serious heart condition. So, all else is aside now. However, now as I prepare for getting an operation which I believe will give me back my strength again..I can see some years ahead.
Not looking toward marriage but definitely hoping for more social life again after I recover. I like having both women and men friends but don't want to live with them again unless I eventually go to a community of independent and/or assisted living which at this time in life doesn't look so bad.
I thank God as I learn it is okay to be single again even though I wasn't for 56 years. When they die..you keep living and when they leave (like divorce, etc) you keep living. My heart belongs to the Lord..and is is okay to share that with others...men and women friends.