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Betrayal is an awful feeling. Not that I have ever had to suffer partner betrayal. That must be awful.
On a minor level I have experienced betrayal at work. Finding out a colleague who I thought was an ally, had gossiped about me to someone else. That's pretty common betrayal but it does make you feel a little nauseous. Suddenly your idealistic view of "a friend" is shattered. Guess it is all part of our growth journey.
But recently I think a betrayal we should avoid is self betrayal.
 
Self betrayal meaning not standing up for yourself. Allowing others to treat you badly without saying anything. Allowing people to be rude to you.
Now some Christians may view this scenario as an opportunity to follow Jesus example. Jesus allowed people to arrest him without complaint. To spit on him and tease him. "Here wear this crown of thorns. You can be King of the Jews".
But wasn't Jesus playing his role as the sacrificial lamb? For our sins? That suffering was necessary as part of a bigger plan. The greatest story ever told.
But I don't think God wants us to suffer like that, does he?
As I see it, God sees us as special so he wants us not become doormats for others. He wants us to be assertive. Not aggressive but assertive. Have healthy self esteem. We can't really help others if we have low self esteem. If people cease to notice us altogether, others lose respect for us.
 
It's so easy to misinterpret the story of Jesus life.
Of course Judas is the classic betrayer. But his role was part of the bigger story too.
 
Self betrayal meaning not standing up for yourself. Allowing others to treat you badly without saying anything. Allowing people to be rude to you.
Now some Christians may view this scenario as an opportunity to follow Jesus example. Jesus allowed people to arrest him without complaint. To spit on him and tease him. "Here wear this crown of thorns. You can be King of the Jews".
But wasn't Jesus playing his role as the sacrificial lamb? For our sins? That suffering was necessary as part of a bigger plan. The greatest story ever told.
But I don't think God wants us to suffer like that, does he?
As I see it, God sees us as special so he wants us not become doormats for others. He wants us to be assertive. Not aggressive but assertive. Have healthy self esteem. We can't really help others if we have low self esteem. If people cease to notice us altogether, others lose respect for us.
I think it is actually quite important to be able to assert one's self. Aren't there even groups that help people learn to assert themselves? The trick is to be able to do it without coming across as offensive or arrogant I guess.

Jesus was extremely humble yet he was not a pushover. He knew who He was and Who's He was.
 
Self betrayal meaning not standing up for yourself. Allowing others to treat you badly without saying anything. Allowing people to be rude to you.
Now some Christians may view this scenario as an opportunity to follow Jesus example. Jesus allowed people to arrest him without complaint. To spit on him and tease him. "Here wear this crown of thorns. You can be King of the Jews".
But wasn't Jesus playing his role as the sacrificial lamb? For our sins? That suffering was necessary as part of a bigger plan. The greatest story ever told.
But I don't think God wants us to suffer like that, does he?
As I see it, God sees us as special so he wants us not become doormats for others. He wants us to be assertive. Not aggressive but assertive. Have healthy self esteem. We can't really help others if we have low self esteem. If people cease to notice us altogether, others lose respect for us.

Depends why people are treating one that way.
If it is just bullying etc then one does not have to put up with it. If however it is because one is a Christian and is a result of witnessing then again is it bullying or just prejudice.
In today's age of so called tolerance, one still should not have to put up with this.
If it is at work follow what ever anti bullying steps the company has.

Keep a record of when this happens and what said, even recording on one's phone what is said.
Do not reply in kind but be civil at all times.
 
Self betrayal meaning not standing up for yourself. Allowing others to treat you badly without saying anything. Allowing people to be rude to you.
Now some Christians may view this scenario as an opportunity to follow Jesus example. Jesus allowed people to arrest him without complaint. To spit on him and tease him. "Here wear this crown of thorns. You can be King of the Jews".
But wasn't Jesus playing his role as the sacrificial lamb? For our sins? That suffering was necessary as part of a bigger plan. The greatest story ever told.
But I don't think God wants us to suffer like that, does he?
As I see it, God sees us as special so he wants us not become doormats for others. He wants us to be assertive. Not aggressive but assertive. Have healthy self esteem. We can't really help others if we have low self esteem. If people cease to notice us altogether, others lose respect for us.

When I read your comments humble soul, they story that I look too is that of Joseph. Betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, and humbly served those put over him. I'm sure that you know the story of Joseph, but he is the model I think of when it comes to the questions that you ask.
 
When I read your comments humble soul, they story that I look too is that of Joseph. Betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, and humbly served those put over him. I'm sure that you know the story of Joseph, but he is the model I think of when it comes to the questions that you ask.
If I remember correctly he forgave his brothers, and turned his negative circumstances into positive. He influenced Egyptian authorities/royalty to his benefit.
Not all of us have that ability/talent to change our circumstances like that. But his forgive ability was awesome.
 
Another point on betrayal. When have we betrayed others?
By gossiping about them? Criticising them severely behind their back? Because maybe they offended us, harassed us or humiliated us or just disagreed with us.
I'm likely to dwell longer on people who betray me than when I betray them. I sometimes complain to my partner about a certain sibling of mine. He humiliated me once and I find I can't completely erase it from my mind. It's like my mind can be on eternal event repeat. Maybe I'm fond of self pity. "Poor humble. How wicked is your brother for treating you with such contempt". I guess we are going into the forgiveness theme instead of betrayal but they are closely related.
 
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