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Christian courtship?

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Very simply it is no sex untill marriage and to spend time preparing for marriage.

That is it put ultra simply, life is complecated and so is finding ones partner.
What everyone needs to think about the suitability of the person they are dating.
That is to think and not just react according to raging hormones.
here is a site with some rather extreme rules for dateing/courting.
Don't dismiss them, read them, look at the links at the bottom of the page.
use the search function and look at single parenthood etc.
This guy has biblical and scientific reasoning behind what he says.

 

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Very simply it is no sex untill marriage and to spend time preparing for marriage.

That is it put ultra simply, life is complecated and so is finding ones partner.
What everyone needs to think about the suitability of the person they are dating.
That is to think and not just react according to raging hormones.
here is a site with some rather extreme rules for dateing/courting.
Don't dismiss them, read them, look at the links at the bottom of the page.
use the search function and look at single parenthood etc.
This guy has biblical and scientific reasoning behind what he says.

They are extremely strict and restrictive, however it was an interesting read.
Thank you for sharing.
 

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A person's "self image" of who they are doesn't always line up with their real identity.
And that's when the trouble starts.
Because trying to find a person to SHARE your life with (the good, the bad, and the indifferent) and ALL your secret hopes and dreams and fears and loves is difficult.

It's about giving up you for them...they in turn give the same... and when it's a giving relationship it's awesome and beautiful to see.

It's a paradox.

Formulas may work to some degree...but it's that grace giving relationship that works best. And not everyone can do that.
 

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They are extremely strict and restrictive, however it was an interesting read.
Thank you for sharing.
He'll forget about all that when the "right" one comes along.

And if she never does,,,he'll probably stay single because she'd have to come floating off a cloud.

Maybe there's a special dating site for extra-terrestrials.
 

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A person's "self image" of who they are doesn't always line up with their real identity.
And that's when the trouble starts.
Because trying to find a person to SHARE your life with (the good, the bad, and the indifferent) and ALL your secret hopes and dreams and fears and loves is difficult.

It's about giving up you for them...they in turn give the same... and when it's a giving relationship it's awesome and beautiful to see.

It's a paradox.

Formulas may work to some degree...but it's that grace giving relationship that works best. And not everyone can do that.
Sounds good to me.

But I hear nowadays that one does NOT have to give up any part of themselves for the other person. You are to remain who you are and the other is to remain who they are.

Of course, these types haven't tried marriage yet.
If they want it to last...they'll have to give up plenty!
And there's nothing wrong with this...it's just how things are.
We should care for the other person first,,,and then ourselves.

If both do this the marriage might just work...:)
 

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Sounds good to me.

But I hear nowadays that one does NOT have to give up any part of themselves for the other person. You are to remain who you are and the other is to remain who they are.

Of course, these types haven't tried marriage yet.
If they want it to last...they'll have to give up plenty!
And there's nothing wrong with this...it's just how things are.
We should care for the other person first,,,and then ourselves.

If both do this the marriage might just work...:)
My wife explains it this way;
She gave me herself and I gave it back to her after adding a bit of myself to it.
 

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Kinda cold around the heart was my first thought.

More of a business merger than a relationship was my second.

What were yours?
I agree; there is a long process, however things don't always turn out that way.
Mine are simple:
  1. Meet people (naturally)
  2. Spend some time with them and talk
  3. If there is an accord that there is more to the relationship than friendship, discuss
  4. Date (no special conversation or formula)
  5. Proceed with future planning
I like calculations, formulas and deductions, however my dating life is pretty normal and spontaneous.
 

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I thought a lot of the ideas the author had, however who am I to judge? :wink
You have ever right to judge ideas, behaviours and actions.

The bible never says do not judge.

It say judge with a right judgement.
 
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Very simply it is no sex untill marriage and to spend time preparing for marriage.

That is it put ultra simply, life is complecated and so is finding ones partner.
What everyone needs to think about the suitability of the person they are dating.
That is to think and not just react according to raging hormones.
here is a site with some rather extreme rules for dateing/courting.
Don't dismiss them, read them, look at the links at the bottom of the page.
use the search function and look at single parenthood etc.
This guy has biblical and scientific reasoning behind what he says.

An interesting article! Is that your personal blog or...?
 

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