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“Naturally. How one hates to think of oneself alone. How one avoids it. It seems to imply rejection or unpopularity. . . We seem so frightened today of being alone that we never let it happen. When the noise stops there is no inner music to take its place. We must re-learn to be alone.” Ann Morrow Lindbergh in Women and Solitude.

For many young people today, being single is something to be avoided at all costs. They cling to the idea that being in an intimate relationship is more important than life itself. Being single almost terrifies them because they equate it with agonizing loneliness and deprivation.

I believe it is time for young adults to have a change of attitude about being single. They must accept the fact that being without a partner is not a fate worse than death. It has its advantages and disadvantages, just like a relationship, and there are times in life when it is inevitable.

Having a positive attitude about being single accomplishes several things. First of all, it allows people be comfortable when there is no one "special" in their lives. Being alone is not painful for them; it is a time of cherished solitude.
Furthermore, by accepting their single status gracefully, people experience an inner confidence that actually goes a long way toward attracting the kind of emotionally stable people they might like to become involved with.

Being content to be single allows people to be discriminating in their choice of a partner. They can afford to be choosey, because being in a relationship is just an option, not a life or death matter.

To become patient about finding a partner people must boost their in self-esteem. This, along with an intimate relationship with God, will reduce their dislike and fear of being alone, and make it easier for them to adopt a positive attitude about not having a partner.

To many people this means a change in attitude or values. This does not mean people have to be overjoyed about being single. I am talking about acceptance, not overwhelming enthusiasm. It is just important to consistently look at the bright side until this positive attitude is well entrenched in the love addict's psyche. This will then subdue the voice that wails, "You're nobody till somebody loves you."

It is also important to find time to pursue your calling. Everybody has a mission in life. Look for it. If your goal is to be a good wife, be a good friend. If your goal is raise children become a mentor. If you want a career work toward that. For me it was writing. When I decided to give up my desperate pursuit of a partner I started writing. I increased my self-esteem. It made me happy. It changed my life.

Please note that I am not trying to establish a case for or against being single. It is just important for us to be comfortable with both situations. Then we can flow contentedly with life instead of frantically trying to control it.
 
I must say this is one of the most real pieces of advice I have seen online about being single.. pointing out about having a change of attitude about being single, and a positive mindset towards it. I was single for a while and got into another when I was not ready but was trying to be nice which distracted my plans for a while and now I look from out the box which has taught me many. Thank you, Sus.
 
I love being alone, but i live a very ironic lifestyle, i communicate with lots of woman, and men daily but i spend time alone most of the time. I love the single life. I choose not to get married, because i personally believe that unless the woman is incredibly supportive, relationships are not for me. I havent found an incredibly supportive woman.
 
A Christian shouldn't compromise their values and beliefs. Second Corinthians chapter 6. Even biblically illiterate Christian can impede on your spiritual growth. Theirs no concord between Christian and heathen. Their going in different directions. And toxic people are even worse to be around. It's best to be alone, and focus on Jesus. Here's the point. Peter had faith to walk on water toward Jesus. But once Peter took his eyes off Jesus, he started to sink. Get the picture.
 
The problem with staying single is you have no one to share your life with, and there's no one there to help you when you truly need it.
 
i believe its unhealthy for a woman to desire solitude as women are more social and cannot provide for themselves in nature- hence solitude is unnatural for women.

Genesis 2:18
The LORD God also said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper."

New American Standard Bible
for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake.

its a modern- satanic take, that women need to be empowered and live their own lives. and this mentality is whats causing a whole genocide in society as women refuse to settle down until theyre past their "best before" age, at which they are out of options- options, which were from the guys side simply lust and nothing else. fixated on aesthethic and physical sensations, the modern world has sold its soul. and whats happening now is no coincidence, its a consequence
this concept that women had to be independant originated from a very small minority of women that i cannot go into detail about in modern time on the internet. its unhealthy. its unnatural- and god will severely punish the world for letting it happen.
 
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