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I had no idea where to put this so hope it's ok here! I'm getting married in church in March. I've always wanted to be confirmed. Do you think I should do it before I'm married? Thanks!
 
Depending on the church, it may not be your decision, but I assume you'd know that by now. If they don't require it, I have a few questions.

Why do you want to be confirmed? To you (not the church), what does being confirmed have to do with getting married?
 
You don't have to be confirmed to get married in church here. It's just something I've always wanted to do and I think it'd be nice to make that commitment before getting married although its not necessary. I have also thought about waiting till we have a child and get the child christened and me confirmed at the same time. Also my fiancé is confirmed.
 
Thanks for your response. I am Lutheran, and we confirm our faith, so I'm not against it. When I hear you say you want to "be" confirmed, it sounds more like a ritual you want to take part in than making a public confession of your faith. I don't want to get hung up on your wording, so you can explain if you'd like. :)

I don't believe the Bible is for or against confirmation. If this is done to glorify God in a public confession of faith, I'm all in favor of a marriage starting on that foundation. It's a beautiful thing when it comes from the heart, but not so much when it's seen as something a church is doing for or to you, IMHO. Unfortunately, most teens in our church seem to take the latter approach.

If you are being Led to do this, I don't believe God wants you to wait, especially for your child's christening. Then it really sounds like a ritual.
 
Thanks for your reply. I want to do it to show that I believe and I want to make a n official commitment. I wouldn't do it because I feel I have to or as some kind of ritual.
 
baggyjeans:

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

Re. your question, in my view, the important thing is to be sure about a personal faith in the Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, the only Savior of sinners. One of the Bible's most famous verses is: 'For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life' (John 3.16). Making sure that you and your fiancé are in the good of such a faith would be an excellent basis for your married life together.

I'll stick my neck out and say that one's relationship with a local church is pretty meaningless unless the person first of all has that personal, vital faith in the Lord Jesus. I don't know you, and it may be that you are already a regular Bible reader, and so I can encourage you to make a habit of a prayerful, dependent Bible reading day by day. (Maybe read John's Gospel, where the text, above, is taken from.)

God bless His Word to you.
 
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Thank you for your reply. I agree with what you have said. My fiance and I have both been Christians for a long time but it's always good to have encouragement.
 
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