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Do Adults Face Consequences?

HeIsRisen2018

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Are you meaning like when we are adults on our own we aren't receiving consequences under a parent or guardian? That is true that I no longer get time outs or other cleverly creative punishments from my parents.

It is also true that if my husband decided one day to quit his job or not go because he didn't want to that bills would not get paid and utilities would get shut off. Consequence. Collections would start coming after us in a couple months if debts could not be paid. Consequence. We would have a hard time affording to eat. Consequence.

In my life I notice evident consequences that lie beyond my choices. For example, if I choose not to go to bed at a reasonable hour that it will be difficult to do my best for my family the next day, which I see as a consequence. If I don't have meals prepared we face the consequence that we will need to grab unhealthy food to go that isn't the best use of our money at this time. If I don't get the laundry finished that not everyone has the clothes they would like to wear. I think you get the picture here. Adult consequences are not fun. I miss being a kid lol.


Although I don't really miss being a kid all that much, I get your point. I never really did grow up completely in the first place though. :biggrin
 

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Although I don't really miss being a kid all that much, I get your point. I never really did grow up completely in the first place though. :biggrin
Some of us are always kids at heart. I sometimes look back before I was 25 when I thought I had this life figured out and realize how immature I really was. It is kind of crazy. I am more mature now, but of course I still goof around =P
 

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I remember after my second divorce how messed up I was in my mind and truly never wanted to marry again, but God always has better plans for us when we hear Him speaking to us. Don't be afraid to ever get married again, but this time wait upon the Lord as He will put the right one in your path and you will call her your gift from God like I call my husband now of 21 years. There is no perfect marriage, but when you make Christ the center of it all things work out for the best.
Thank you Sister, I will ponder those things you said. Actually, I was engaged and was set about going to marry one girl...and I even got on here asking for adice and if my Brothers & Sisters thought it was ok for me to get remarried. I received a unanimous decision (IIRC) that it would be ok...but I chickened out, lol! But by the grace of God, I did not offend that nice lady and we are still the best of friends, so it might still be an open option.

I've been asked for a date several times by girls since I have been here in this town...and I always politely turn them down. I can just tell that these girls are not wife material, for me at least. I made a pact with myself when I was a young handsome man, to never step down in quality of women and I stuck with it actually! Being together with my first wife for 26 years made it easy for me, and now I am old enough to be able to control myself. I look, but my first wife will be very hard to replace for she was a fantastic wife and super mommy, so most girls do not come close. The one girl does, but...I am not quite 100% sure that the Lord is ok with it. And scripture does say what profit is it, if a man gain the whole world but lose his very soul....!!! So I chickened out, lol!

I know that having a wife again could possibly (probably) take a lot of time, and rightly so. Which would take away more of my time from the Lord himself, which would not be good, and perhaps even fatal to me? Besides, it was the Lord who gave me such desire in my heart for female company (and help, lol), so I realize that if it is in the cards for me to get married again, the Lord will make it happen. So I try to be patient and not worry about it. Time is short for us! So it may not be in the cards for me again. Besides, I have a lot to be thankful for. My marriage lasted 26 years and I have two wonderful sons. It was great while it lasted. So I can't complain.

There are Proverbs 31 gals in this town...I have met several, but they were all already married of course! (Heat & A/C customers that I worked for), so all I could do is pray for them and feel how lucky their husbands are. I would marry this one girl that was my fiance at one time before I called it off, but I have to know for sure where the Lord stands on it first, and so far He is silent on it to me...dang it! Lol!
 

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Thank you Sister, I will ponder those things you said. Actually, I was engaged and was set about going to marry one girl...and I even got on here asking for adice and if my Brothers & Sisters thought it was ok for me to get remarried. I received a unanimous decision (IIRC) that it would be ok...but I chickened out, lol! But by the grace of God, I did not offend that nice lady and we are still the best of friends, so it might still be an open option.

I've been asked for a date several times by girls since I have been here in this town...and I always politely turn them down. I can just tell that these girls are not wife material, for me at least. I made a pact with myself when I was a young handsome man, to never step down in quality of women and I stuck with it actually! Being together with my first wife for 26 years made it easy for me, and now I am old enough to be able to control myself. I look, but my first wife will be very hard to replace for she was a fantastic wife and super mommy, so most girls do not come close. The one girl does, but...I am not quite 100% sure that the Lord is ok with it. And scripture does say what profit is it, if a man gain the whole world but lose his very soul....!!! So I chickened out, lol!

I know that having a wife again could possibly (probably) take a lot of time, and rightly so. Which would take away more of my time from the Lord himself, which would not be good, and perhaps even fatal to me? Besides, it was the Lord who gave me such desire in my heart for female company (and help, lol), so I realize that if it is in the cards for me to get married again, the Lord will make it happen. So I try to be patient and not worry about it. Time is short for us! So it may not be in the cards for me again. Besides, I have a lot to be thankful for. My marriage lasted 26 years and I have two wonderful sons. It was great while it lasted. So I can't complain.

There are Proverbs 31 gals in this town...I have met several, but they were all already married of course! (Heat & A/C customers that I worked for), so all I could do is pray for them and feel how lucky their husbands are. I would marry this one girl that was my fiance at one time before I called it off, but I have to know for sure where the Lord stands on it first, and so far He is silent on it to me...dang it! Lol!
I know before Steve and I got married we prayed about it and waited on the Lord's approval because we both wanted our union to be that of God's joining us together. Marriage is nothing to take lightly and you just don't want to jump into like I did with my first two as God was not involved with the union.
 

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For some strange reason I was just thinking about this thread this morning. I was thinking about that even though I'm not told of when to go to bed anymore (I'm an adult who still lives at home for now due to my disabilities for those of you who don't already know yet) or how much time I should be spending on the internet, (I'm not even told to pickup my room anymore I just do it on my own a bit from time to time) how I learned that sometimes when I make poor decisions adult consequences can be much worse as a lot of people already on here have pointed out.





However when I do something that I shouldn't (even though I don't necessarily want to) have I am fully prepared to take the consequences, (if they are needed since a lot of times you are cut a bit of slack in life in certain situations especially from God since He's the one who gave us Jesus in the first place) but truthfully,.. I think that the guilt of my past sins (even though I know in my heart that I'm forgiven) is far worse than any punishment that I could ever receive. :sad
 

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For some strange reason I was just thinking about this thread this morning. I was thinking about that even though I'm not told of when to go to bed anymore (I'm an adult who still lives at home for now due to my disabilities for those of you who don't already know yet) or how much time I should be spending on the internet, (I'm not even told to pickup my room anymore I just do it on my own a bit from time to time) how I learned that sometimes when I make poor decisions adult consequences can be much worse as a lot of people already on here have pointed out.





However when I do something that I shouldn't (even though I don't necessarily want to) have I am fully prepared to take the consequences, (if they are needed since a lot of times you are cut a bit of slack in life in certain situations especially from God since He's the one who gave us Jesus in the first place) but truthfully,.. I think that the guilt of my past sins (even though I know in my heart that I'm forgiven) is far worse than any punishment that I could ever receive. :sad
Past sins are of yesterday forgotten in the eyes of God if we have sought His forgiveness. There should be no more guilt as God does not hold our past sins against us. If there is guilt then there needs to be restitution either within yourself so you can be at peace or restitution made to someone you have transgressed if possible.

Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.

John 8:1-11 Jesus said to the woman who was about to be stoned to go and sin no more.

This is what is meant in Hebrews 10:26 and John 8:1-11. When you know you are about to sin knowing it is wrong you will pay whatever consequences that sin might bring about in your life. We can't keep nailing Christ to the cross as a sacrifice so we can keep on sinning especially if it is the same sin we have already been forgiven for. Grace does not give us a license to sin as grace has already made the final sacrifice for our sin.
 

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Past sins are of yesterday forgotten in the eyes of God if we have sought His forgiveness. There should be no more guilt as God does not hold our past sins against us. If there is guilt then there needs to be restitution either within yourself so you can be at peace or restitution made to someone you have transgressed if possible.

Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.

John 8:1-11 Jesus said to the woman who was about to be stoned to go and sin no more.

This is what is meant in Hebrews 10:26 and John 8:1-11. When you know you are about to sin knowing it is wrong you will pay whatever consequences that sin might bring about in your life. We can't keep nailing Christ to the cross as a sacrifice so we can keep on sinning especially if it is the same sin we have already been forgiven for. Grace does not give us a license to sin as grace has already made the final sacrifice for our sin.



True, and guilt can only be something from the devil himself.
 
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