Danus
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Smart, manipulative, strong willed....and Dramatic...That's my youngest. ;)
I could use some advice. Need to know some thoughts from others.
My youngest is 8...almost 9. Today my wife and I discovered that she has an "F" in English! All because she failed to turn in two assignments that we know she did, and she's been slipping on some class room stuff.
This is unlike her. She's an honor roll student on the principle's list and English is her best subject, but lately she been irresponsible. Not just that, she has been talking her way around things. She has a gift of manipulation.
When we get one her about something, she seems to convince us that she understands and that it won't be an issue from now on. She even repeats back much of what we say and words it in her own words to let us know she is in full agreement with whatever it is we are punishing her for or concerned with.
Until today
She's been planning to attend a slumber party. Not just any slumber party, but the slumber party to end all slumber parties.
It's being held at a nice hotel in a suite, and she's been working to get on the list for some time now. The girls mother and sister are chaperoning it. All is fine and secure, and a good time is to be had trashing the room, swimming, makeovers, movies, pizza, cake, candy and surgery drinks will be the agenda for the night in a two room suite with living room and kitchen to sprawl out in.
Well, guess who's not going? Her mother and I just sprang the news, and she is devastated.
I gave the speech and brought the hammer down on the sentience. Mom backed me up and explained that irresponsible people loose freedoms and privileges in life to learn a lesson. We where told that the only lesson being learned here is how much we hate her.
We assured her that we do in fact love her, and that until she brings that unexceptionable grade up she's losing the I-touch, her social calendar is locked, no games, and no TV. She's under house arrest.
She immediately tried to talk around it. I'll do anything, Please, Please!! Just let me go to this party I've been planning it for a long time. Please!! ...No
And so that's it.
Part of me feels like a jerk. She is now trying to butter up mom and she gives me the evil eye. What she does not know is it was actually moms idea. I tried to gain her some leniency, but mostly because I'm a sucker. However, I am supporting mom. she makes a good point. We can't give in because this is finally getting through to her that we are not to be played.
Part of me feels bad for her, but I can see where she's been given too much rope to hang herself. Too hash? Stick to it? This is a real hard punishment she is enduring. Other sentience's she's done with no problems. This one is tough for her. This one says we are serious.
Thoughts, questions?
I could use some advice. Need to know some thoughts from others.
My youngest is 8...almost 9. Today my wife and I discovered that she has an "F" in English! All because she failed to turn in two assignments that we know she did, and she's been slipping on some class room stuff.
This is unlike her. She's an honor roll student on the principle's list and English is her best subject, but lately she been irresponsible. Not just that, she has been talking her way around things. She has a gift of manipulation.
When we get one her about something, she seems to convince us that she understands and that it won't be an issue from now on. She even repeats back much of what we say and words it in her own words to let us know she is in full agreement with whatever it is we are punishing her for or concerned with.
Until today
She's been planning to attend a slumber party. Not just any slumber party, but the slumber party to end all slumber parties.
It's being held at a nice hotel in a suite, and she's been working to get on the list for some time now. The girls mother and sister are chaperoning it. All is fine and secure, and a good time is to be had trashing the room, swimming, makeovers, movies, pizza, cake, candy and surgery drinks will be the agenda for the night in a two room suite with living room and kitchen to sprawl out in.
Well, guess who's not going? Her mother and I just sprang the news, and she is devastated.
I gave the speech and brought the hammer down on the sentience. Mom backed me up and explained that irresponsible people loose freedoms and privileges in life to learn a lesson. We where told that the only lesson being learned here is how much we hate her.
We assured her that we do in fact love her, and that until she brings that unexceptionable grade up she's losing the I-touch, her social calendar is locked, no games, and no TV. She's under house arrest.
She immediately tried to talk around it. I'll do anything, Please, Please!! Just let me go to this party I've been planning it for a long time. Please!! ...No
And so that's it.
Part of me feels like a jerk. She is now trying to butter up mom and she gives me the evil eye. What she does not know is it was actually moms idea. I tried to gain her some leniency, but mostly because I'm a sucker. However, I am supporting mom. she makes a good point. We can't give in because this is finally getting through to her that we are not to be played.
Part of me feels bad for her, but I can see where she's been given too much rope to hang herself. Too hash? Stick to it? This is a real hard punishment she is enduring. Other sentience's she's done with no problems. This one is tough for her. This one says we are serious.
Thoughts, questions?