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Hello, I'm new here and I've come to search for some advice.
I've recently broke up with a girlfriend of 3 years (me 22 her 21)and although it's against the christnian religion, we have had sex.
Neither one of our mothers approved, when they found out since our mom's are Christian women and believe in no sex before marriage.
But anyway, we broke up for the reasons that my ex didn't love herself. She says she recently started having really bad thoughts of causing self harm to herself. So after an argument, she broke with me under the basis that she needs to find herself and love herself.

We both haven't been living a life of a Christian during our time, my life style was not that of a Christian man and I believe I may have strayed her off her path.

Yesterday my mom saw me in pain and decided to do a prayer for me, she asked God to help me and her in our lives.
I'm not saying that God spoke to me during that moment, but a thought came into my head to offer her a flower and a companionship into god.

Basically to give up my old lifestyle and go with her into the church and be honest Christians.

I love this girl and only want the best for her, but currently she's confused on what she wants...
I'm not to sure what I should do at this point , whether or not I should peruse her....
 
how much do you love her?? next question is does she love you. talk to her and yes pray both of you. talk with a pastor . communication if you dont talk all kinds of thoughts will come in to play its not the end of the world you 2 having sex. but it is bible not to before marriage. my next advice stop using the internet for advice... pray talk to her in private be honest with her ask her to be honest with you..:amen
 
Hello, I'm new here and I've come to search for some advice.
I've recently broke up with a girlfriend of 3 years (me 22 her 21)and although it's against the christnian religion, we have had sex.
Neither one of our mothers approved, when they found out since our mom's are Christian women and believe in no sex before marriage.
But anyway, we broke up for the reasons that my ex didn't love herself. She says she recently started having really bad thoughts of causing self harm to herself. So after an argument, she broke with me under the basis that she needs to find herself and love herself.

We both haven't been living a life of a Christian during our time, my life style was not that of a Christian man and I believe I may have strayed her off her path.

Yesterday my mom saw me in pain and decided to do a prayer for me, she asked God to help me and her in our lives.
I'm not saying that God spoke to me during that moment, but a thought came into my head to offer her a flower and a companionship into god.

Basically to give up my old lifestyle and go with her into the church and be honest Christians.

I love this girl and only want the best for her, but currently she's confused on what she wants...
I'm not to sure what I should do at this point , whether or not I should peruse her....
After reading the above post, I have been thinking about your salvation with the Lord, to let you know that I have the experience of having four wives. So then! marriage is for your interest in honor: Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.Hebrews 13:4
https://www.pinterest.com/lorettaarchinal/honoring-god-through-marriage/

But, as a male view, I feel to believe of having a committed life with The Lord would be the 1st. thing that I would be sure with. To be sure for yourself in following his! steps. I Peter 2:21
Setting The way to your goal together as one.

You can be led by his spirit to all success through life.
Ask The Lord to help you have a happy successful life, and he will guide you. John 16:13

But, my strongest advice would be is to repent of all! the things, that are not well pleasing in his sight. Acts 2:38-47. Repent and be baptised, and believe the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

You must be able to: Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed, And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:31, 32.
 
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Hello, I'm new here and I've come to search for some advice.
I've recently broke up with a girlfriend of 3 years (me 22 her 21)and although it's against the christnian religion, we have had sex.
Neither one of our mothers approved, when they found out since our mom's are Christian women and believe in no sex before marriage.
But anyway, we broke up for the reasons that my ex didn't love herself. She says she recently started having really bad thoughts of causing self harm to herself. So after an argument, she broke with me under the basis that she needs to find herself and love herself.

We both haven't been living a life of a Christian during our time, my life style was not that of a Christian man and I believe I may have strayed her off her path.

Yesterday my mom saw me in pain and decided to do a prayer for me, she asked God to help me and her in our lives.
I'm not saying that God spoke to me during that moment, but a thought came into my head to offer her a flower and a companionship into god.

Basically to give up my old lifestyle and go with her into the church and be honest Christians.

I love this girl and only want the best for her, but currently she's confused on what she wants...
I'm not to sure what I should do at this point , whether or not I should peruse her....


From past experience I will share this.
Proverbs 16:3
Roll your works (cares) upon the Lord. commit and trust them Wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become ageeable to His will, and so shall your plans be established and succeed.

The reason I say this is because if you do give all this care and worry and question unto Him and seek Him, He will begin to change the way you think or see things and then your thoughts or plans will be established or known unto you and then they will work out for the best.

Even if this girl is the right one for you, I can assure you that after they way you two were that God will not just simply say ok go get her and mary her. He will deal with the sin and deal with both of your hearts before he gave His blessing.

What I wanted you toget was this.....Now is the time to lay aside everything else and seek His face. Read His word and study His word and Pray His word. Draw closer to Him and He will draw closer to you and He knows your heart. If this girl in His sight is the one for you, well brother, she wont be going to far that God wont pull you two back together.

God will tell you when you need to contact this girl and believe me when He does, well brother you wont have to think twice about it. Remember we can fall in Love with the wrong person and push our ways to the point He lets you do it and yours and her life will not be in its full. Be still and Know He is God and seek His face and dont give up no matter what......

I hope this helps and it may not be the way you wanted but it will end up Gods way for you both.
Have a very blessed day
Jim
 
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